Why do Asian women prefer white men? Seriously… why?

“Why do Asian women prefer white men? Seriously… why?”

The Harvard MBA says:

Ah yes, this is an oft-observed but seldom-analyzed phenomenon!  The key is to focus on a market-driven analysis.  The inevitable conclusion is that Asian women prefer white men because white men prefer Asian women.

The concept of market segmentation is both basic and powerful.  Businesses succeed by identifying the market segments with the greatest willingness to pay, and then catering to them.  There’s no value judgment involved–if young people want to watch trashy reality television, let there be “The Hills”!

In the case of Asian women, over the past several decades, they discovered an important fact: Most white guys have an Asian fetish. Heck, pretty much all (non-Asian) American males do.  For example, take the Outkast song “Hey Ya“.  In it, the African-American recording artists sing, “Now all Beyonces, and Lucy Lius, and baby dolls, get on the floor,” implying an equivalent level of attractiveness between Beyonce and Lucy Liu.  I consider myself an connoisseur of female beauty, and I can tell you that Lucy Liu would not be considered hot if she weren’t Asian.  Beyonce is way hotter than Lucy Liu (though neither can hold a candle to Jessica Alba or Megan Fox).

Lest you think this is a unique phenomenon, let me point out that many white girls have similar fetishes for British, French, Spanish, and Italian accents (This is most entertainingly demonstrated in “Love Actually“, where a British loser decides to travel to America, where all the women love English accents; he ends up in Milwaukee, and within a few hours, is engaged in group sex with three American girls, including Elisha Cuthbert.  See also, “Banderas, Antonio”.)

These fetishes represent a market inefficiency; the British loser in “Love Actually” would have no chance at bedding a single attractive woman in his native England, let alone three.  Thanks to the White Guy Asian Fetish (”WGAF”), even unattractive Asian women have a chance to score a significant other or mate.

And remember, race isn’t even the only factor.  The millieu also matters.  One of my friends once taught Economics at UC Berkeley; he told me about the time he heard two Asian undergrads in his class talking about their frustration with the Asian chicks who went the Berkeley.  What really offended them wasn’t the exploitation of the WGAF, but rather that the Asian chicks at Berkeley weren’t even that hot, because “all the really hot ones went to UCLA.”

Put yourself in the typtical Asian woman’s shoes.  Let’s say that you have your choice of two guys.  The first guy is average-looking, of average intelligence, and has an average career.  The second guy is good-looking, smart, and has a good career.  Which one are you going to choose?  If the only difference is that Guy #1 is Asian and Guy #2 is white, my guess is you’re choosing Guy#2.  That’s not racism, that’s smart market segmentation.

P.S. The logical follow-up question is, what should I do if I’m an Asian guy?  My advice:  Try to exploit market inefficiencies and go for chicks who dig martial arts movies.  Do you think Jackie Chan or Jet Li ever lacks for babes?

UPDATE: OkCupid published a blog post in March 2011 that provides some empirical data on this topic.

It turns out that the main reason for white popularity (in terms of number of messages received) is the fact that there are simply more white people.  Statistical analysis allowed OkCupid to filter out this effect.

It turns out that 1) Asians are more desirable messaging partners than any other race, and 2) Asians have a stronger preference for their own race than any other race. (Asians are 11.5X as likely to message another Asian as they are someone of a different race; the same number for whites is 2.9X)

Sadly, the data is not broken out by gender, so we can’t say for certain that the effects are the same for Asian woman and men, but the data is so stark that the key conclusion that’s relevant to this thread wouldn’t change: Asians prefer other Asians, but because they are vastly outnumbered by white people, many Asian women probably turn to white men.  It’s a numbers game.

467 Comments

  1. Posted June 27, 2009 at 8:02 pm | Permalink

    I like your take on the dynamics of racial dating preferences, but you still don’t answer the pre-question:

    Why DO white (/all men) men prefer Asian women?

    Is it the hyper-femininization? The accessible exoticism (rare, but not quite as intimidating as a 6′ tall, super-dark, African runway model)? The supposed wifely passivity (despite the spot-on stereotype that Chinese women will dominate a husband into the ground)?

    One of my best friends from high school was a buxom blond cheerleader with a self-professed Asian guy fetish. She went to UCLA for college and was in dating heaven. Maybe it was the clean, hairless look, the feminized masculinity, or maybe, as you suggest, the suggestion of an undercover martial arts master.

    It’s a confusing subject, but I think there’s more to it than scarcity (at least where geography’s concerned). The fetish is actually strongest where Asian (men and women) are the most abundant: the SF bay area, L.A., the whole of the West Coast.

    Thank God I moved here and can get a date even if I’m wearing my cross-country sweats from high school.

    -Susan

  2. yo
    Posted June 28, 2009 at 12:15 am | Permalink

    because asians are sexy without trying. they dont need a shit load of makeup either. smooth skin, very feminine, classy, youthful, pale skinned with dark hair = a touch of danger.

  3. admin
    Posted June 28, 2009 at 12:47 am | Permalink

    One important fact to bear in mind…men strongly prefer youthful-looking women. Marrying an Asian woman means avoiding a costly divorce 20 years later.

  4. Posted June 28, 2009 at 5:20 am | Permalink

    http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-5847984513475560733

    WHY ARE ALL THE WHITE GUYS TAKING OUR GIRLS???

    It’s a funny video. Check it out.

  5. Posted June 28, 2009 at 10:58 am | Permalink

    I totally agree with you regarding Beyonce, Lucy Liu, Jessica Alba and Megan Fox! (And also, I found it strange to see Sandra Oh on those top 10 sexiest woman lists, but that’s just my opinion. Who knew what other people are thinking?)

    About the fetish for (kung-fu-fighting, ass-kicking) asian guys, check out this award-winning short film, Dragon of Love!
    http://www.sundancechannel.com/videos/230255530

  6. admin
    Posted June 28, 2009 at 2:11 pm | Permalink

    Kelvin,

    Thanks to the pointer on “Dragon of Love.” That was hilarious. But unrealistic.

    Seriously, if I were dating some smoking hot babe and she wanted me to wear samurai armor, I’d be like, “Help me put on this crotch protector.”

  7. admin
    Posted June 28, 2009 at 2:22 pm | Permalink

    David,

    Checked out Yellow Fever. Pretty funny stuff. “I’m not being racist or anything.” “Yes, you are.”

    My personal opinion on this is that the Asian dudes who are mad about this stuff should spend less time griping amongst themselves and more time talking with women. I’m pretty sure that it’s hard to get women without actually being around them.

    Not that they don’t have a point…Asian guys don’t get much respect (except when companies are looking to hire superstar engineers).

  8. JL
    Posted June 28, 2009 at 4:03 pm | Permalink

    Asian women are, on average, more feminine than white women. On the other hand, white men are, on average, more masculine than Asian men. Moreover, black men are, on average, more masculine than white men, while black women are, on average, less feminine than white women. These facts explain most of the racial discrepancies in sexual preferences. The “Yellow Fever” short film linked to above is a good illustration of these patterns.

  9. Posted July 1, 2009 at 10:45 pm | Permalink

    Mixed-race couples are the rule, not the exception here in the Bay Area. Of course, this includes a lot of white guy - asian girl couples, but I see (and know) quite a few asian guy - white girl couples out here - along with every other possible combination of white, asian, black, hispanic, middle-eastern, etc.

    Cities are melting pots. In a city that’s less than 50% white and over 30% Asian, there’s going to be a fair amount of mixing. What’s the big deal? Why does this need to be a fetish?

    Putting the label “fetish” aside, the question of whether there’s some attractive quality that Asian women have in common is a fair one. When I was younger (high school, college), the really cute white girls were often kind of dumb (or, at least, they felt like they needed to act that way). In other words, white girls were either smart or cute. This wasn’t true with the Asian girls I knew.

  10. admin
    Posted July 4, 2009 at 3:51 am | Permalink

    Fascinating continuation of our discussion at another blog with a slightly different audience:

    http://www.halfsigma.com/2009/06/agwwg-asian-girl-with-white-guy.html

    A lot of interesting information, but some of the commenters make me fear for humanity. They seem to have an obsession with preventing non-whites from getting their women.

  11. Love You Long Time
    Posted July 6, 2009 at 5:58 pm | Permalink

    All of this talk seems to imply that Asian men are either victims or made to not have choice. What about simpler explanation? Perhaps Asian men are choosier and less likely than others to date or engage in relationships just for the sake of having one?!

    There is an implicit assumption in all of this that having more relationships is better than having less. This axiom needs some critical thought first.

  12. Dave Beyer
    Posted July 10, 2009 at 12:43 am | Permalink

    I nice article. I agree with some of it. I dont think white guys have asian fetish’s, but there attracted to other aspects like culture and respect.

    I was reading this blog and its actually interesting because it comes from someone who has been through it all. The whole Asian fetish thing.

    http://wazian.blogspot.com/

  13. REALITY CHECK
    Posted July 14, 2009 at 10:16 pm | Permalink

    Well a lot of this is pure hype, the beauty standard of the world is white women.However asians are no dummies they are a big part of this meida machine pumping out that every white and non white man craves asian women so much.For example look at susan’s comments.

    Lets be honest people most white men date or marry asian women with pale looking skin or high yellow complextion.Dont get me wrong you do see some white men date asian women with darker tones.

    Back to asian women, many asian women use racism aganist other darker asian people to get close to white people most of all white men.I would also say many use anti-black bigtory too .In this very post a woman went on comparing one self to a person of darker skin tone,but hey it works.

    Ok people at the end of the day asian women want it both ways.But very few will ever admit.People its the law of nature women want as many men to choose from as possible,even if there washed up or worn out from years of having sex with multi partners.

    Now asian men yelling asian pride all day will not stop this trend anytime soon,explore your options learn other cultures.

    With all that said people should date who they like, paste these comments their dam good and truthful.

    We also have to consider self hating asians who get eyes surgrey,also skin bleaches to look white

  14. Posted July 15, 2009 at 7:53 am | Permalink

    I am an Asian woman, and I’ll speak for myself - the reason I have a weakness for blue eyes is because there is something so appealing about possibly having a child who looks like Mark-Paul Gosselaar, Linsay Price, or Kristin Kreuk. All three are bi-racial and happen to be half-Asian.

    I have nothing against Asian men, nor any other race, for that matter…but having the love and respect that I feel toward my father who is Filipino, I keep him on a pedestal. I’ve never dated an Asian man, have never been attracted to one.

    I have only had Caucasian boyfriends but have dated other races. As far as being cared for goes, I am in the process of honing my skills in choosing men who actually pay. One of my ex’s paid for our last anniversary dinner with gift cards, which he requested from his parents specifically for our occasion…

  15. mizzy
    Posted July 15, 2009 at 11:13 pm | Permalink

    it is totally untrue tht i love my asain boyfriend becuz of kunfu or whatever its becuz he is super duper hottt!! n nice n outgoing he’s like mongolian descent n i think they are very masculine
    white chick n am good looking too hehe

  16. Posted July 16, 2009 at 12:42 am | Permalink

    Im a white male and white women are not the standard for beauty in the universe.It is most certainly asian women with their sexy skin,cute nose and eyes,small cute feet.Pointy nosed,ashy,big footed,old looking white women dont come even close. People say asian men dont date out because blah blah. The real reason is because they have the best already and know it.

  17. Andiry
    Posted July 18, 2009 at 6:41 pm | Permalink

    The only reason I kept on reading this article was because of his Harvard title… but apparently MBAs doesn’t give insights into social issues. The writer is friggin idiot and he’s got no clue what he’s talking about.

    Let me tell you the facts here… too often this topic gets obscured…. cut all the bullcrap about who’s more beautiful, who’s more loyal, who’s got bigger dicks, who’s more feminine…etc etc
    Get this through your head first: PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE. there’re minor physical differences between races on average but they hardly account for their general attractiveness. there are attractive and ugly ones in every race.

    It’s hardly anything about the way they [innately] ARE that makes you find them attractive or not. You need to understand it’s about the way YOU PERCIEVE them. Thus the most important thing is to understand WHERE and HOW that perception came about. A discussion without this understanding is completely pointless.

    If you’ve lived in a Western country, as you all [should] know, perception on Asians in general is all about exoticism, but in an unflattering and often degrading way. Now I’ll expect to see some hands claiming to completely deny to have such biased perception, and I’ll tell you you are wrong, not because you lied, but you just do not have the awareness that you are one of everybody who has adopted the mainstream perception thorugh an inevitable political socialization, i.e. via mass media and social norms. to be blunt, you have all been brainwashed to percieve Asians in such way, to a certain extent. It’s engraved in one corner of your brain, which lingers in your subconsciouness - something you can’t easily control with your will.

    This perception on Asians began with the European domination of the world - what had long been Chinese supremacy for 1000s of years was completely overturned in a last few centures with the emergence of Rationalism and industrialization in Europe. Europeans conquered the world and acquired political, economic, and military supremacy. And naturally enough, the dominance European men had let them adopt and justify the views that were more advantageous to themselves.

    Some of the view and ideas that began evolving during this era:
    - Orientalism(idea that mystifies, exoticizes, objectifies and by doing so, generalizes&stereotypes Foreign culture and their people, and often sexuality of their women, thereby making Europeans as the mainstream and seem superior)
    - Asian Fetish(objectification, hypersexualization, and subjugation of Asian women often in a derogatory way, thereby symbolizing the sexual dominance of American men, or often White men, over men of other races).
    This wikipedia article gives a brief history on the evolution of Asian Fetish: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_fetish

    In dating preferences, these are the implications that these ideas establish.
    1. For White men, these ideas establish their sexual superiority and themselves as the Alpha Male figure that attains the priority in sexual access to Asian women and women of other race they desire
    2. For White women, these ideas raise their minimum standards - Asian men are lower on social ladder, thus not to be considered for dating - making them to stay more loyal to their White men.

    So, now you understand how the perception on Asian women came about and why White men have Asian fetish (while White women don’t).

    You should’ve gotten the point by now: It’s not about races or their uniqueness of culture, or their superficial physical differences. They could play as a factor, but it’s only a very minor one. It is almost all about how YOU were TAUGHT TO PERCIEVE things. And these perceptions are simply established by dominant nations(dominated by men) that seek to gain advantages.

    Turn it around, and the pattern would go exactly the same. Had the Chinese maintained their supremacy and dominated the media, things would have gone in favor of Chinese men and the lookalikes(which would be East Asian men in general). Chinese men would have maintained the idea of themselves as the mainstream and the superior. They would create and justify the perception that exoticizes Europe and hypersexualizes White women in a derogatory way. You’d see all these Chinese/Asian men with White fetish chasing after White women, and White women would do well to reciprocate their creepy sexual lust, because Chinese men would be deemed higher in socioeconomic status, which is what all women values the most.

  18. PATHETIC...
    Posted July 18, 2009 at 6:45 pm | Permalink

    The writer’s got no clue what he’s talking about. Apparently Harvard MBAs don’t do SH*T when it comes to analyzing social issues…. how pathetic.

    Tired of seeing too often this topic gets obscured…cut all the bullcrap about who’s more beautiful, who’s more loyal, who’s got bigger dicks, who’s more feminine…etc etc
    Get this through your head first: PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE. there’re minor physical differences between races on average but they hardly account for their general attractiveness. there are attractive and ugly ones in every race.

    It’s hardly anything about the way they [innately] ARE that makes you find them attractive or not. You need to understand it’s about the way YOU PERCIEVE them. Thus the most important thing is to understand WHERE and HOW that perception came about. A discussion without this understanding is completely pointless.

    If you’ve lived in a Western country, as you all [should] know, perception on Asians in general is all about exoticism, but in an unflattering and often degrading way. Now I’ll expect to see some hands claiming to completely deny to have such biased perception, and I’ll tell you you are wrong, not because you lied, but you just do not have the awareness that you are one of everybody who has adopted the mainstream perception thorugh an inevitable political socialization, i.e. via mass media and social norms. to be blunt, you have all been brainwashed to percieve Asians in such way, to a certain extent. It’s engraved in one corner of your brain, which lingers in your subconsciouness - something you can’t easily control with your will.

    This perception on Asians began with the European domination of the world - what had long been Chinese supremacy for 1000s of years was completely overturned in a last few centures with the emergence of Rationalism and industrialization in Europe. Europeans conquered the world and acquired political, economic, and military supremacy. And naturally enough, the dominance European men had let them adopt and justify the views that were more advantageous to themselves.

    Some of the view and ideas that began evolving during this era:
    - Orientalism(idea that mystifies, exoticizes, objectifies and by doing so, generalizes&stereotypes Foreign culture and their people, and often sexuality of their women, thereby making Europeans as the mainstream and seem superior)
    - Asian Fetish(objectification, hypersexualization, and subjugation of Asian women often in a derogatory way, thereby symbolizing the sexual dominance of American men, or often White men, over men of other races).
    This wikipedia article gives a brief history on the evolution of Asian Fetish: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_fetish

    In dating preferences, these are the implications that these ideas establish.
    1. For White men, these ideas establish their sexual superiority and themselves as the Alpha Male figure that attains the priority in sexual access to Asian women and women of other race they desire
    2. For White women, these ideas raise their minimum standards - Asian men are lower on social ladder, thus not to be considered for dating - making them to stay more loyal to their White men.

    So, now you understand how the perception on Asian women came about and why White men have Asian fetish (while White women don’t).

    You should’ve gotten the point by now: It’s not about races or their uniqueness of culture, or their superficial physical differences. They could play as a factor, but it’s only a very minor one. It is almost all about how YOU were TAUGHT TO PERCIEVE things. And these perceptions are simply established by dominant nations(dominated by men) that seek to gain advantages.

    Turn it around, and the pattern would go exactly the same. Had the Chinese maintained their supremacy and dominated the media, things would have gone in favor of Chinese men and the lookalikes(which would be East Asian men in general). Chinese men would have maintained the idea of themselves as the mainstream and the superior. They would create and justify the perception that exoticizes Europe and hypersexualizes White women in a derogatory way. You’d see all these Chinese/Asian men with White fetish chasing after White women, and White women would do well to reciprocate their creepy sexual lust, because Chinese men would be deemed higher in socioeconomic status, which is what all women values the most.

  19. Andriy
    Posted July 18, 2009 at 6:51 pm | Permalink

    (Part 1) Apparently Harvard MBA don’t do SH*T when it comes to analyzing social issues. This guys is completely clueless.
    Cut all the bullcrap about who’s more beautiful, who’s more loyal, who’s got bigger dicks, who’s more feminine…etc etc
    Get this through your head first: PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE. there’re minor physical differences between races on average but they hardly account for their general attractiveness. there are attractive and ugly ones in every race.

    It’s hardly anything about the way they [innately] ARE that makes you find them attractive or not. You need to understand it’s about the way YOU PERCIEVE them. Thus the most important thing is to understand WHERE and HOW that perception came about. A discussion without this understanding is completely pointless.

    If you’ve lived in a Western country, as you all [should] know, perception on Asians in general is all about exoticism, but in an unflattering and often degrading way. Now I’ll expect to see some hands claiming to completely deny to have such biased perception, and I’ll tell you you are wrong, not because you lied, but you just do not have the awareness that you are one of everybody who has adopted the mainstream perception thorugh an inevitable political socialization, i.e. via mass media and social norms. to be blunt, you have all been brainwashed to percieve Asians in such way, to a certain extent. It’s engraved in one corner of your brain, which lingers in your subconsciouness - something you can’t easily control with your will.

    This perception on Asians began with the European domination of the world - what had long been Chinese supremacy for 1000s of years was completely overturned in a last few centures with the emergence of Rationalism and industrialization in Europe. Europeans conquered the world and acquired political, economic, and military supremacy. And naturally enough, the dominance European men had let them adopt and justify the views that were more advantageous to themselves.

  20. Andriy
    Posted July 18, 2009 at 6:52 pm | Permalink

    (Part 2) Some of the view and ideas that began evolving during this era:
    - Orientalism(idea that mystifies, exoticizes, objectifies and by doing so, generalizes&stereotypes Foreign culture and their people, and often sexuality of their women, thereby making Europeans as the mainstream and seem superior)
    - Asian Fetish(objectification, hypersexualization, and subjugation of Asian women often in a derogatory way, thereby symbolizing the sexual dominance of American men, or often White men, over men of other races).
    This wikipedia article gives a brief history on the evolution of Asian Fetish: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_fetish

    In dating preferences, these are the implications that these ideas establish.
    1. For White men, these ideas establish their sexual superiority and themselves as the Alpha Male figure that attains the priority in sexual access to Asian women and women of other race they desire
    2. For White women, these ideas raise their minimum standards - Asian men are lower on social ladder, thus not to be considered for dating - making them to stay more loyal to their White men.

    So, now you understand how the perception on Asian women came about and why White men have Asian fetish (while White women don’t).

    You should’ve gotten the point by now: It’s not about races or their uniqueness of culture, or their superficial physical differences. They could play as a factor, but it’s only a very minor one. It is almost all about how YOU were TAUGHT TO PERCIEVE things. And these perceptions are simply established by dominant nations(dominated by men) that seek to gain advantages.

    Turn it around, and the pattern would go exactly the same. Had the Chinese maintained their supremacy and dominated the media, things would have gone in favor of Chinese men and the lookalikes(which would be East Asian men in general). Chinese men would have maintained the idea of themselves as the mainstream and the superior. They would create and justify the perception that exoticizes Europe and hypersexualizes White women in a derogatory way. You’d see all these Chinese/Asian men with White fetish chasing after White women, and White women would do well to reciprocate their creepy sexual lust, because Chinese men would be deemed higher in socioeconomic status, which is what all women values the most.

  21. Andriy
    Posted July 18, 2009 at 6:53 pm | Permalink

    (Part 2) Some of the view and ideas that began evolving during this era:
    - Orientalism(idea that mystifies, exoticizes, objectifies and by doing so, generalizes&stereotypes Foreign culture and their people, and often sexuality of their women, thereby making Europeans as the mainstream and seem superior)
    - Asian Fetish(objectification, hypersexualization, and subjugation of Asian women often in a derogatory way, thereby symbolizing the sexual dominance of American men, or often White men, over men of other races).
    This wikipedia article gives a brief history on the evolution of Asian Fetish: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_fetish

    In dating preferences, these are the implications that these ideas establish.
    1. For White men, these ideas establish their sexual superiority and themselves as the Alpha Male figure that attains the priority in sexual access to Asian women and women of other race they desire
    2. For White women, these ideas raise their minimum standards - Asian men are lower on social ladder, thus not to be considered for dating - making them to stay more loyal to their White men.

    So, now you understand how the perception on Asian women came about and why White men have Asian fetish (while White women don’t).

    You should’ve gotten the point by now: It’s not about races or their uniqueness of culture, or their superficial physical differences. They could play as a factor, but it’s only a very minor one. It is almost all about how YOU were TAUGHT TO PERCIEVE things. And these perceptions are simply established by dominant nations(dominated by men) that seek to gain advantages.

  22. Andriy
    Posted July 18, 2009 at 6:54 pm | Permalink

    (Part 2) Some of the view and ideas that began evolving during this era:
    - Orientalism(idea that mystifies, exoticizes, objectifies and by doing so, generalizes&stereotypes Foreign culture and their people, and often sexuality of their women, thereby making Europeans as the mainstream and seem superior)
    - Asian Fetish(objectification, hypersexualization, and subjugation of Asian women often in a derogatory way, thereby symbolizing the sexual dominance of American men, or often White men, over men of other races).

    This wikipedia article gives a brief history on the evolution of Asian Fetish: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_fetish

  23. Andriy
    Posted July 18, 2009 at 6:56 pm | Permalink

    (Part 2) Some of the view and ideas that began evolving during this era:
    - Orientalism(idea that mystifies, exoticizes, objectifies and by doing so, generalizes&stereotypes Foreign culture and their people, and often sexuality of their women, thereby making Europeans as the mainstream and seem superior)
    - Asian Fetish*(objectification, hypersexualization, and subjugation of Asian women often in a derogatory way, thereby symbolizing the sexual dominance of American men, or often White men, over men of other races).

  24. Andriy
    Posted July 18, 2009 at 6:57 pm | Permalink

    (Part 3)*search: “asian fetish” in Wikipedia

    In dating preferences, these are the implications that these ideas establish.
    1. For White men, these ideas establish their sexual superiority and themselves as the Alpha Male figure that attains the priority in sexual access to Asian women and women of other race they desire
    2. For White women, these ideas raise their minimum standards - Asian men are lower on social ladder, thus not to be considered for dating - making them to stay more loyal to their White men.

    So, now you understand how the perception on Asian women came about and why White men have Asian fetish (while White women don’t).

    You should’ve gotten the point by now: It’s not about races or their uniqueness of culture, or their superficial physical differences. They could play as a factor, but it’s only a very minor one. It is almost all about how YOU were TAUGHT TO PERCIEVE things. And these perceptions are simply established by dominant nations(dominated by men) that seek to gain advantages.

    Turn it around, and the pattern would go exactly the same. Had the Chinese maintained their supremacy and dominated the media, things would have gone in favor of Chinese men and the lookalikes(which would be East Asian men in general). Chinese men would have maintained the idea of themselves as the mainstream and the superior. They would create and justify the perception that exoticizes Europe and hypersexualizes White women in a derogatory way. You’d see all these Chinese/Asian men with White fetish chasing after White women, and White women would do well to reciprocate their creepy sexual lust, because Chinese men would be deemed higher in socioeconomic status, which is what all women values the most.

  25. venganza
    Posted July 23, 2009 at 6:13 am | Permalink

    Asian women take advantage of the fact that they know caucasian men like them. They also know what side of the toast is buttered, and generally (but not always), prefer the rich men. These women (although not all) also have a reputation of being ”easy”. They’re also not too particular as to whether their partner is married, or not. Many married men have divorced because of them. Aren’t there enough unmarried men around, for crying out loud? The children of asian/caucasian couples tend to look more asian, as that’s the dominant gene, as is the case with offspring from black/caucasian couples.

    I don’t agree that white/tall/blonde is the standard of female beauty. (Probably Fox news wouldn’t agree with my comment). Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. ”Some” men may be under the impression that asian women are more ‘’submissive”. That’s a myth. Once they’ve got their man, they tend to rule the roost.

    The asian women one often sees with older middle-aged men are usually with them for material and self-interest reasons. Doubt if they’re in love, or after the great sex - lol :-) I don’t really feel sorry for these older men if they lose their last dime to these women. They’ve got brains in their head, and they should use them. Apart from the fact that they do look rather pathetic with these women who are usually about 20 (or more), years younger than them.

    And guys. If you want to get some idea of how your asian girlfriend/wife will look like later on in life, just take a look at her mother!

  26. Andriy
    Posted July 26, 2009 at 11:30 am | Permalink

    Apparently Harvard MBAs don’t do SH*T when it comes to analyzing social issues…. how pathetic.
    Tired of seeing too often this topic gets obscured…cut all the bullcrap about who’s more beautiful, who’s more loyal, who’s got bigger dicks, who’s more feminine…etc etc
    Get this through your head first: PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE. there’re minor physical differences between races on average but they hardly account for their general attractiveness. there are attractive and ugly ones in every race.
    It’s hardly anything about the way they [innately] ARE that makes you find them attractive or not. You need to understand it’s about the way YOU PERCIEVE them. Thus the most important thing is to understand WHERE and HOW that perception came about. A discussion without this understanding is completely pointless.
    If you’ve lived in a Western country, as you all [should] know, perception on Asians in general is all about exoticism, but in an unflattering and often degrading way. Now I’ll expect to see some hands claiming to completely deny to have such biased perception, and I’ll tell you you are wrong, not because you lied, but you just do not have the awareness that you are one of everybody who has adopted the mainstream perception thorugh an inevitable political socialization, i.e. via mass media and social norms. to be blunt, you have all been brainwashed to percieve Asians in such way, to a certain extent. It’s engraved in one corner of your brain, which lingers in your subconsciouness - something you can’t easily control with your will.
    This perception on Asians began with the European domination of the world - what had long been Chinese supremacy for 1000s of years was completely overturned in a last few centures with the emergence of Rationalism and industrialization in Europe. Europeans conquered the world and acquired political, economic, and military supremacy. And naturally enough, the dominance European men had let them adopt and justify the views that were more advantageous to themselves.
    Some of the view and ideas that began evolving during this era:
    - Orientalism(idea that mystifies, exoticizes, objectifies and by doing so, generalizes&stereotypes Foreign culture and their people, and often sexuality of their women, thereby making Europeans as the mainstream and seem superior)
    - Asian Fetish(objectification, hypersexualization, and subjugation of Asian women often in a derogatory way, thereby symbolizing the sexual dominance of American men, or often White men, over men of other races).
    This wikipedia article gives a brief history on the evolution of Asian Fetish: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_fetish
    In dating preferences, these are the implications that these ideas establish.
    1. For White men, these ideas establish their sexual superiority and themselves as the Alpha Male figure that attains the priority in sexual access to Asian women and women of other race they desire
    2. For White women, these ideas raise their minimum standards - Asian men are lower on social ladder, thus not to be considered for dating - making them to stay more loyal to their White men.
    So, now you understand how the perception on Asian women came about and why White men have Asian fetish (while White women don’t).
    You should’ve gotten the point by now: It’s not about races or their uniqueness of culture, or their superficial physical differences. They could play as a factor, but it’s only a very minor one. It is almost all about how YOU were TAUGHT TO PERCIEVE things. And these perceptions are simply established by dominant nations(dominated by men) that seek to gain advantages.
    Turn it around, and the pattern would go exactly the same. Had the Chinese maintained their supremacy and dominated the media, things would have gone in favor of Chinese men and the lookalikes(which would be East Asian men in general). Chinese men would have maintained the idea of themselves as the mainstream and the superior. They would create and justify the perception that exoticizes Europe and hypersexualizes White women in a derogatory way. You’d see all these Chinese/Asian men with White fetish chasing after White women, and White women would do well to reciprocate their creepy sexual lust, because Chinese men would be deemed higher in socioeconomic status, which is what all women values the most.

  27. mike
    Posted July 30, 2009 at 6:43 am | Permalink

    I am from central asia…and back there it is just as common to see AM WF (russian) there are a lot of russians there….but the russians are a minority there……..the media will undestandably portray the majority interests……however the most important thing in my opinion is not to view yourself through the eyes of someone else……because when viewed through the eyes of someone else you will always be “less than”……also minorities will always have to comply with the majority norms, ideas, beliefs, and culture…….when a person conforms and accepts and…when you come to a different country you often have to adapt to fit in….and it is understandable that you might wana make some adjustments…….it is crucial however…to find a healthy balance….because once you give up too much of you own identity due to external pressures….you might just lose your self identity….self respect……and self esteem……. I am not against interracial dating…..and i myself married outside of my race…. …..however…i have encountered some people….who deliberately attempt to shun away from their culture and their people , and even purposely put down their own people……..people with this kind of mentality…realy dont like who they are and have a weak sense of self………….in addition part of the appeal of the asian women is the exotic…….culture………

  28. Marc
    Posted August 1, 2009 at 10:21 am | Permalink

    I think it should be said more often, Asian women have a White fetish as much as white men may have an asian fetish. I’m indifferent to Asian women. Are some beautiful? Absolutely. Are some ugly, absolutely, like any race. I am tall, successful, have blonde hair and blue eyes. Asian women seem to seek me out like a magnet. It’s weird. I feel like an object at times! It goes both ways sister….

  29. jdawg
    Posted August 5, 2009 at 2:03 pm | Permalink

    Let’s face it. Most average and above average Asian women go for goofy, old, bald, and/or fat (yet successful) white guys (like your picture suggests). All else equal, they choose white guys every time; similar to black male’s fetish for white women.

  30. marko
    Posted August 6, 2009 at 2:51 am | Permalink

    as a black man i have dated many asian women and no disrespect to asian women especially chinese women, however i have found in my experiences with these women many of them are racially insecure. many asian women especially chinese have this desire to become white women they really despise their yellow skin, many times they really want to escape from their asian culture by getting with western men. A typical asian woman would kill her own mother just to french kiss zac efron they are really pathetic human beings who hunger for white acceptance.

  31. Roger
    Posted August 7, 2009 at 12:49 am | Permalink

    I think that “Asian fetish” is vastly overstated. And Asian womens’ “white fetishes” are vastly understated.

    I sure see a lot of short, ugly, bald, boring, nerdy white men with Asian women! Hmmm, why are they so much more susceptible to “Yellow Fever!” Because they can’t get white women!

    I really think that the preponderance of white man/Asian women couples is a sign of female sexism. The white women think they’re too good for the lower echelon white men, and Asian women think they’re too good for Asian men.

    I think Asian women need to open up to their own men, and Asian men need to try harder.

  32. Hans
    Posted August 7, 2009 at 5:06 pm | Permalink

    meh, don’t you worry about asian women prefering other races. It is just biased to conform with white’s perpectives. Simply put, there are a lot of asian women and believe me, asian men shouldn’t have to be worried about don’t get one. See, I am an asian who happen to observe about this phenomena. Let me get the facts straight.

    1. White men usually pick ugly women, so we don’t even bother to care about that. True some of those white men are the one that considered as trash. But nevertheless, this is some kind of win - win situation.
    Those white men need girls that are loyal and submissive, and the other hand, most of the those girls need a man that can spoil them and also can take them out from particular asian countries.
    Of course there are some cute and good looking asian women that married with white man and I am not saying they are married with other intentions.

    2. Most of asian guy you meet on the internet are the nerds one. (I am too since my parents sent me here) anyway, they just browsing internet because thats the only refreshing they have. Here is the fun facts. Most of those nerds never have gf so if you are trying to debate with them. Well, go ahead.

    3. From my last trip to Hong Kong, I can conclude this fairly easy. The people of HK are a lot different than their overseas counterpart. Most of the guy are good looking (I am not gay, k?) and they have the nicest gf that you white guys might never see one in your country.

    4. If you doubt about asian women loyalty, here I am going to share my experience. I get my current gf back in my home country and when my parents send me over to Australia to study. Man, she even can endure long distance relationship (which most of white women cant). I mean seriously, my gf is a good looking one and she can even get others while I am away in Australia but she just wont. How can I be so sure? Because she told me so. Well, beside if she happens to find other guy, I dont need to worry. Girls are not scarce.

    oh, and seriously I need to ask you white guy something. Are you guys really glorifying and praise sex? Even when I used google image to find something unrelated to sex there would be pornographic content.
    I know sex is good, Ive had it. But the way I see white people live just disgusts me. What most of you guys do is just going to club almost everyday (like you have nothing to do in ur life), drink alcohol like water, have sex everyday like no other day. Correct me if I am wrong

    Regards,

    Hans

  33. Mike
    Posted August 10, 2009 at 9:42 pm | Permalink

    As a white guy, I can tell you that my Asian girlfriend says she likes the “wide eyes” of white men and their bigger musculature (which she says is lacking on Asian men).

    I have an Asian fetish. I prefer Asian women. Exclusively. I could call it a preference, but it’s more of a fetish. Yes, it’s impolitic to say I have a fetish, but that’s what it is. There’s just no denying it. I love visually undressing Asian girl passers-by, watching Asian porn, and objectifying Asian women.

    I’m a white guy, 38, fairly successful and above average looking. I’m currently dating a Chinese girl almost 10 years younger than me. I’ve slept with Korean and Japanese girls, too.

    I guess my list of why I like Asian girls is like this:

    – Asian women are hot! I mean smoking hot! Ridiculously hot. Even “average” looking Asian girls (Chinese, Japanese, Thai) drive me crazy. The physical attraction I have to them is off the charts.
    – Asian women “taste” better. I apologize since this is crude. But yes I do mean this sexually. They just do. I can only compare this to the white women I’ve been with. But, in comparison, I just find this to be true.
    – Asian women are the epitome of femininity. Again, not all Asian girls. But I love their elegant hands, petite features, slender bodies, almost-hairless skin, and soft hair.
    – Asian girls don’t mind if you have sex with them without a condom. Sure, they want to have safe sex. We all do. But mostly, they want you to be happy. If you don’t have a condom or don’t want to wear one, it is (sometimes) cool with them.
    – Asian women don’t “interview” you on dates (most of them, at least). That is, when you date them they are more apt to talk about themselves and ask you courteous questions about yourself. They don’t “interrogate” you as part of the dating process (”How long was your last relationship?” “Tell me about your job!” “Why are you single?”) There don’t seem to be as many “dealbreakers” for Asian girls as far as dating is concerned. They pretty much accept you for who you are. That’s refreshing.

    What’s interesting for me, is that my Asian fetish didn’t develop until the last 6 months or so. My perspective is unique (I think) since up until 6 months ago, I *never* even gave Asian girls a second glance. All I liked were white women (blondes, in particular).

    That’s my .02.

    Mike

  34. stephen norfleet
    Posted August 11, 2009 at 5:35 am | Permalink

    Mike
    Posted August 10, 2009 at 9:42 pm | Permalink
    As a white guy, I can tell you that my Asian girlfriend says she likes the “wide eyes” of white men and their bigger musculature (which she says is lacking on Asian men).

    I have an Asian fetish. I prefer Asian women. Exclusively. I could call it a preference, but it’s more of a fetish. Yes, it’s impolitic to say I have a fetish, but that’s what it is. There’s just no denying it. I love visually undressing Asian girl passers-by, watching Asian porn, and objectifying Asian women.

    I’m a white guy, 38, fairly successful and above average looking. I’m currently dating a Chinese girl almost 10 years younger than me. I’ve slept with Korean and Japanese girls, too.

    I guess my list of why I like Asian girls is like this:

    – Asian women are hot! I mean smoking hot! Ridiculously hot. Even “average” looking Asian girls (Chinese, Japanese, Thai) drive me crazy. The physical attraction I have to them is off the charts.
    – Asian women “taste” better. I apologize since this is crude. But yes I do mean this sexually. They just do. I can only compare this to the white women I’ve been with. But, in comparison, I just find this to be true.
    – Asian women are the epitome of femininity. Again, not all Asian girls. But I love their elegant hands, petite features, slender bodies, almost-hairless skin, and soft hair.
    – Asian girls don’t mind if you have sex with them without a condom. Sure, they want to have safe sex. We all do. But mostly, they want you to be happy. If you don’t have a condom or don’t want to wear one, it is (sometimes) cool with them.
    – Asian women don’t “interview” you on dates (most of them, at least). That is, when you date them they are more apt to talk about themselves and ask you courteous questions about yourself. They don’t “interrogate” you as part of the dating process (”How long was your last relationship?” “Tell me about your job!” “Why are you single?”) There don’t seem to be as many “dealbreakers” for Asian girls as far as dating is concerned. They pretty much accept you for who you are. That’s refreshing.

    What’s interesting for me, is that my Asian fetish didn’t develop until the last 6 months or so. My perspective is unique (I think) since up until 6 months ago, I *never* even gave Asian girls a second glance. All I liked were white women (blondes, in particular).

    That’s my .02.

    Mike

    Amen, brother!

    Very well said. After all, who cares about the particulars of attraction when the reasons are purely physical?

    Mike’s opinion is a breath of fresh air. And while most will view it as racist/sexist, there can be no escaping the truth behind his reasoning - exaltation of women based upon looks to satisfy a long-standing fetish or admiration.

    For years I’ve had inordinate attraction to asian women, though I seldom acted on it for fear of rejection or ridicule. No doubt, I find them to be among the most beautiful women on earth - if not the most beautiful. But who cares what I think? I love my preference, just as many love theirs of latinas, blacks or whites. Preferences help to quantify differences that make us unique as individuals. They help to eliminate social barriers that can be an impediment to understanding the dynamics of racial or ethnic differences.

    My current girlfriend is Chinese whom I’ve dated exclusively for almost 3 years and we have a great intimate relationship. She certainly fills the characteristic asian archtype: slender and petite with soft, attractive features and silky black hair. More importantly, she is smart, savvy and loyal but hardly subservient as some are lead to believe. She drives me crazy at times with her twisted logic but that doesn’t keep me from fantasizing about her whilst in the midst of passionate lovemaking.

    Just as Mike said, even average looking asian women for me are often viewed as sultry as compared with other women. Heck, I’ve seen some super cute fobs that probably wouldn’t garner a second look from your average, typical alpha male!

  35. venganza
    Posted August 12, 2009 at 5:47 am | Permalink

    Aren’t Indian and Pakistani women considered asian too?

  36. Posted August 13, 2009 at 12:58 am | Permalink

    I am a white man and I am not attracted to Asian women. Some may look good when they are young, but as they age their faces look flat and puffy. Plus, most are missing a decent bust !

  37. brown_girl
    Posted August 17, 2009 at 4:15 pm | Permalink

    I am brown asian and have a white boy friend. It has nothing to do with skin or color, we are co workers and pretty much work in the same level. Things that attracted me were things i would look in any men. Usually brown skin muslim girls dont date white , but he just swept me off my feet.

  38. Sam
    Posted August 26, 2009 at 5:29 am | Permalink

    I believe Oriental women Love Whit men , because Oriental Men have much smaller Penis.

  39. Asian woman
    Posted August 29, 2009 at 8:06 am | Permalink

    I’m an Asian woman in her early 30s and I DO NOT prefer white males — I date people based on many factors but not based on the white/ Asian divide. I’m fairly successful and not ugly. In fact, I like Asian men because we often share similar backgrounds and values.

    With the exception of one particularly confident outgoing guy, Asian men have not asked me out. The other four Asian men I dated: one I asked out, the other three were arranged by friends. I’ve gone to Asian single mixers without success.

    So if you see me dating a white guy, it’s somewhat by default. He asked me out.

    So, Asian males, before dismissing all Asian women as only wanting white men or dismissing white men who date Asian women as having a fetish, try asking us out. I’m sorry that you might have to face rejection but you don’t ask, you don’t get.

  40. Johnny B
    Posted August 30, 2009 at 3:33 pm | Permalink

    I take issue with the statement “all White Men prefer Asian Females.” I know for a fact that this is not true. It is related to “supply” that’s true. I live in the NJ/NYC area where there are a ton of Asian girls/women and I know many white guys who are not attracted to them at all for various reasons. But, in the mid west (where I am from) it’s a different story. Even an average or below average Asian girl will be considered attractive by a lot of white guys and these girls will have no trouble at all finding a partner.

    While I do agree with the supply/demand point I think it also has to do with the media. I grew up where all the films showing Asian women showed them to be caring, devoted, loving, respectful … all the things most guys would like in a girl most of all (if they admitted it which they won’t). They want someone to take care of them and love them unconditionally and Asian girls (per the media) seemed to be this way. Or they were the “Daddy’s Little Girl” who needed someone to care for them which was attractive too - Like Nancy Kwan in “The World of Suzie Wong.” But, the reality is so different and exposure to “real people,” which living and working in NYC/NJ offers, really blows away stereotypes pretty quickly. The variety is tremendous and guess what? A lot of Asian girls really aren’t that attractive and a whole lot aren’t even nice all the time either… They are just like everyone else… What a revelation !

    Still if a guy grew up being bombarded with the idea that Asian Girls were the epitome of devotion, respect, caring, love .. and “yes” there is an element of supposed sensual prowess here too… well it’s pretty difficult to overcome and just see people as people finally. Perhaps it’s impossible even.

    I guess I was pretty addicted once myself so I should know. On the wagon now fortunately.

  41. Dave
    Posted September 5, 2009 at 1:22 pm | Permalink

    Oriental girls are not attractive, they have no bums, no busts and the mogoliod features reminds me of Downs symdrome people. A majority of them do not end up married to handsome young whitemen but old whitemen. As a young white man i get fed up of being pursued by the Oriental girls at college, i have no interest in them and yet they over flirt with me.

  42. Teejay
    Posted September 9, 2009 at 5:54 am | Permalink

    I am a black guy who dated an asian-canadian woman of chinese descent. She was gorgeous and had big bootys and boobs, infact she was a very rare gem in asian standard. We dated for atleast 2 years, I was accepted by her family, and almost got married to her, before I did a U-turn, bcos I got fed up with her dominating attitude.

    Anyways, she always talked about how she admired huge masculinity, big eyes, tallness (I’m atleast 6ft), and how she wanted her future kids to have these features. In short she hated her asian features. These insecurities is the reason why many asians (south-pacific) women date outside there race. As for why many Asian women date mostly white guys for interracial dating, history and colonial mentality have alot to do with it. To them, marrying a white man is a symbol of class. Most asian women often bleach there skin, to gain acceptance by white men, bcos (to them) whiteness signifies “success”, “power”, and “privilege”, hence there is no better way to become enjoy these attributes than to marry a white man, even if he treats them as dirt. Today, many south-pacific asian families in diaspora compete against themselves, in regards to there daughters getting married a white man.

    And today, Asian men are considered the loneliest among men of all races in North America.

  43. Matthew
    Posted September 9, 2009 at 10:40 pm | Permalink

    I believe that asian girls goes for white men is because western men can provide them with good sex, quality of life and beautiful children.
    To the eyes of all asian woman, western people are very handsome and rich. When you are rich and handsome, basically you can get all the girls in the world.
    I disagreed that one writer wrote that Hong kong people are good looking. They are like little boy with growth problem. His opinion is very biased and in Hong kong, eurasian children are like gods to the girls.

  44. Crystal
    Posted September 12, 2009 at 6:23 am | Permalink

    It’s not surprising to see so many postings on this topic. Everyone has something to say about it because it’s such a common phenomenon, on which I did extensive research and wrote a book. The e-book is available at http://www.theseashellbooks.com/Bookshelf/Entries/2009/9/10_Secrets_of_asian_women.html

    Check it out! The book tells you what’s the truth and what’s merely a myth about all the stereotypical traits of Asian women.

  45. Megan
    Posted September 12, 2009 at 10:00 am | Permalink

    case in point! i am a female asian who dates a white male who attends HBS.

  46. Ted
    Posted September 13, 2009 at 5:02 pm | Permalink

    I think many, but not all, white guys like Asian women because of the perception of them being passive and easy to control. If Asian women are not like that, then they should watch out. I’ve seen enough Asian women to conclude that some are pretty and desirable, but many are ordinary looking, and in this way don’t differ from women of other backgrounds. What I like about Asian women is their supposed intelligence, but I like both white women and black women for other reasons. I’m male, and a mature man.

  47. Cindy
    Posted September 14, 2009 at 6:25 pm | Permalink

    I’m a 27-year-old Asian American saying Don’t Be Sour Grapes. I read the answer, all the comments and the book, Secrets of Asian Women, mentioned in a Sept 12 comment. I’m glad to see such much discussion on Asian women’s popularity with White men, and actually men of all ethnicities according to the book, and my own experience.
    I hope all the discussion will inform white women that we Asian women are not their enemies! If you don’t like us taking your men away, find out why. If you can’t beat us, JOIN US! Though one of the guys who posted a comment here said he just prefers some particular physical traits of Asian women, what most White guys told me they like about Asian women is not so difficult for white women to imitate. There are skinny White women who look younger than their ages, too. One of my mom’s friends is like that. She says she takes some Oriental herbs my mom recommended to her and it helps improve her skin. See, we Asian women can be your helpful friends! Don’t look at us like enemies! It’s NOT our fault that men like us!
    And please don’t say sour grapes things like White guys who can’t get White girls go for Asian girls, etc. Don’t portray us as sly vixens, either. I hated that Harry Potter movie in which Harry Potter was neglecting a nice White girl and attracted to a mysterious Asian girl who turned out to be evil. Come on! Even the author of Harry Potter has sour grapes psychology!

  48. slammingbody
    Posted September 15, 2009 at 8:09 pm | Permalink

    sometimes love is just love. you can’t avoid who you are attracted to. I usually like a guy who has a personality. if the guy doesn’t have skillz in that department, no girl would think he’s worth it.

  49. AG
    Posted September 21, 2009 at 4:52 am | Permalink

    Annie le!

    Nuff Said

  50. asianmale
    Posted September 21, 2009 at 11:43 pm | Permalink

    You can get an insight into the reasons why by looking at which Asian girls want to be white the most…usually from poorest native countries or most exploited by whites.

    Koreans, Chinese, Japanese are pretty rich and have much cultural pride with minimum invasion by white “knights”.

    Indians, Philipinos, Laos, Cambodians, etc. are poor economically and have history of Europeans invading and putting the entire race into submissive role. This makes a perfect environment for brainwashing: white good, asian ok, dark skin bad.

    The most self hating asians are of (in my experience) are philipinos. They hate being short, big nosed, dark skinned girls vs. white blonds. I even went to a “philipino” restaurant in US where the whole theme was based on blue and yellow blonde girl’s bakery.

    Basically, many Asian women have low self confidence, insecure of ethnic physical features, low sense of cultural heritage and pride, many with years of “white worship” mentality….they basically WANT TO BE WHITE, so they marry white to have half asian babies.

    This is not exclusive to asian women at all. Just look at hispanic TV channels….all are advertisements for “white is best, elite, you should want to be white”.

    But don’t worry Asian guys, most of these self-hating women find out later to be divorced, married lower class white when they could have married higher class asian man, and they will still hate themselves for being Asian.

  51. asianmale
    Posted September 21, 2009 at 11:53 pm | Permalink

    some Asian girls want to be accepted by mainstream society, so they marry white. But realize they are just faking to be someone who they are not.

    Some Asian girls want the green card.

    Some Asian girls want money, and many whites have money (upper class). Asian guys are still working on it (upper middle class)

    Some Asian girls hate themselves, fathers, brothers, etc. so they marry white. Truth is hating yourself is not the road to happiness.

    Some Asian girls just don’t have many Asians around…ie. middle of nowhere Iowa.

    Some Asian girls were adopted, so they have no identification with Asians at all and they think they are white.

    Some Asian girls are just curious. These girls date all races.

    Some Asian girls are feminazis and see all Asian guys as enemies to their gender.

    Some Asian girls were screwed over by Asian guys do they vow never to date Asian again and date exclusively non-Asian.

    Oh, and in my experience, 90% of girls have issues including Asian girls. Who knows why they do illogical things the way they do. The luckiest guy (white or Asian) is the one who married an Asian culture loving, intelligent, self-confident women with no baggage.

  52. asianmale
    Posted September 22, 2009 at 12:16 am | Permalink

    Low/Middle class Asian women are materialistic…new money….so they marry for money. Just look at the bald jew the young asian women married.

    Upper class Asian women have no reason to immigrate to America. They are rich in high social standing in their own country in Asia, so they marry another upper class Asian guy.

    Also many older WM/AF couples are war brides….White soldiers deployed to war torn Asian country marry desparate Asian women seeking escape.

  53. tts
    Posted September 22, 2009 at 12:24 am | Permalink

    Best women can carry their own weight. They marry whoever they want, not exclusively white.

    Don’t worry about Asian women chasing old white guys. Why sell Redsox merchandize at the Yankee stadium? Worry about marketing yourself to the other half Asian women chasing Asian guys. Elite Asian women fall in the latter category.

    Also, the new trend is white women going for Asian guys. Here is a new market opportunity for those willing to take a little more risk.

  54. venganza
    Posted September 22, 2009 at 2:06 am | Permalink

    for asianmale:

    Do you have some sort of a problem with bald Jewish men? I don’t. Do you think that bald Asian men are somehow better? I don’t. Suppose the man was a bald Catholic or Protestant - would that make it better in your eyes? Not in mine, it wouldn’t.

  55. venganza
    Posted September 23, 2009 at 5:02 am | Permalink

    At the end of the day, the phenomenon of Asian Woman/White men will slowly wear off. First of all, there is no shortage of Asian women, there are millions of them where ever you look. Plus the fact that they all seem to resemble each other, too. That can get V boring.

    Once the novelty wears off, they’ll just have to settle for the older geezer brand of white men. Uh Oh ……. But I suppose that if the old guys have some dough in the bank it’ll make it sweeter for them.OMG!

    Bottom line: Asian women are a-dime-a-dozen!

  56. worldlyman
    Posted September 28, 2009 at 10:41 am | Permalink

    I chuckle at all this bs.

    Some white guys on here think that they’re all that. Some Asian chicks that think they’re all that.

    I’m of Filipino descent, about 5′9″ and well-built due to years of cardio-calisthenics, boyish face with full head of long, straight and THICK black hair and am PROUDLY 41 years old! I look a LOT younger than MANY white guys who are in their 20s (who seem to bald more easily, get wrinkly and what not).

    I don’t even care about women’s ethnicity or race. Never have really. Sometimes my race can work against me…but then other times it WORKS FOR ME. If you look good, you look good and some of those honeys out there will let ya know it!

    Exquisite. I still get my fair share of stares from pretty females of ALL races and age groups and I’m married, in my early 40s. I’m lovin’ life.

    Not too many guys in their 40s have their boyish looks, hair and builds at my age. Damn, I feel good, especially after a workout and a shower. Put on some clean jeans and form fitting polo shirt…and this guy is good to go!

    Peace out, baby.

  57. CleverThoughts
    Posted September 29, 2009 at 5:43 am | Permalink

    Asian women don’t always prefer White men. You people got to stop thinking that just a small percentage of Asian women who so called “prefer” White guys represent the whole population of Asian women.

  58. Archer1203
    Posted September 30, 2009 at 4:36 pm | Permalink

    I don’t really understand why anyone would be attracted to pale skin with dark hair (terrible combination), a flat face that you could balance a plate on, and slanted eyes that you can’t tell are open or closed. It’s the submissivness, non challenging, non threatening traits that American men are attracted to in Asians. With Asians, American men can feel superior instead of equal, with American Women.

  59. worldlyman
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:41 am | Permalink

    Well, there’s some fine racial stereotyping from Archer 1203.

    I wonder why many white women look to certain ethnic men with thick hair, good complexion and good builds with boyishly handsome faces as they complain that pasty white men get bald early and red and flaky in other instances.

    There are a fair number of Asian women who have similar complaints about white men.

    Not all Asians have “slanted eyes.” There are certain Caucasians who have a slanted eye look.

  60. dayne
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 12:36 am | Permalink

    I’m sure it could be a fetish or curiosity. But it’s not just about the looks, my current girlfriend is American but with an Irish history and is smoking hot, blistering fine. I don’t really compare her to the asian women I find myself attracted to. For me, the soft skin, and hair along with the respectful attitudes, and conservative natures present an image of a good mate. And that’s the truth. :)

  61. Mariko
    Posted October 5, 2009 at 4:33 am | Permalink

    I am an Asian woman in her mid-forties and would like to offer my experiences which may explain why I prefer dating white men.

    I found Asian men (growing up in Hawaii) to be very “samurai” in their attitude. They want to be revered and believe themselves to be superior. They want to be taken care of in every way. They are not very independent, like I found white men to be. For example, every Asian (Japanese) guy I broke up with went back home to live with mom and dad. To be cared for by mom, i.e., cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. I, on the other hand, stayed and supported myself in my own apartment.

    So my preference, if you will, was born partially out of my experiences that Asian men just want to sit back and be taken care of. Who wants to marry a child? I want a partner that will recognize me as his equal and respect me for what I can bring to the table….not what is expected of me as a woman.

    And I honestly do find white men, physically more attractive than most Asian men.

  62. Kazakh
    Posted October 11, 2009 at 12:13 am | Permalink

    I am from Kazakhstan. We have white fetish there. Native Kazakh men, who are central asians, are considered a superior race. We sleep wit white (russian, ukranian, belorussian) female and marry our own race. Chingiz khan, who exploited white race, lives in our hearts!!!

  63. Yellow fever victim
    Posted October 12, 2009 at 10:05 pm | Permalink

    From a personal standpoint, I think we (white guys) are into asian women because our culture is boring to us. Asian women are exciting because more often than not we know the least about them.

    I can’t argue the fact that asian women are sexy, but I didn’t think so when I was young. In fact, I really didn’t find asian women physically attractive until I dated my second girlfriend who happened to be asian.. And then that was reinforced strongly in my 4th relationship when I was old enough to participate in “adult activities.”

    So let’s lose the white women and asian men, and make a better America. ;) (Kidding!)

  64. Yellow fever victim
    Posted October 12, 2009 at 10:19 pm | Permalink

    After reading some of the above posts I can say..

    1 - I dated a middle/lower class asian woman, and she certainly wasn’t after my money. In fact, she spent a lot more on me than I did on her.

    2 - I doubt that listing off stereotypes is in any way helpful… Somehow I’m going to guess that people looking to date inter racially aren’t concerned with the stereotypes associated with the target of their affection.

    3 - This is a quote by asianmale:
    “some Asian girls want to be accepted by mainstream society, so they marry white. But realize they are just faking to be someone who they are not.”
    Maybe the reason your women come to us is because you’re living in World War II, Mr. Tojo.

    The bottom line is people have personal preferences. Some people like chubby people, some like skin and bones, some like black, some like white, some like 18 and some like 81. There’s no real reason you can give for one racial group like another racial group, because each group is made up of individuals very different from one another.

  65. as if
    Posted October 16, 2009 at 2:27 am | Permalink

    Asian women attractive? ?As IF!

    At the best, maybe 0.1% of asian women can be called moderately attractive.

    The rest are:

    - Short
    - No bum or breasts
    - flat faced
    - flat nosed
    - no eyes
    - black oily hair

    How can you even start to compare this to tall, fit, nice bottomed white women with a variety of hair and eye colours…why are nearly all models white? duh!

    Asian women are at the bottom of the food chain and they know it.

    Asian women tried to boost their image claiming to be exotic and trying to create some mystery about their culture but at the end of the day they are just greedy, materialistic, dirty, gold-digging white -wannabes.

    They are obsessed with cleansing their genetics of asian traits - why else are they desperate to have half-cast babies. Self-hate.

    If a white guy wants an asian women, he should just go to Asia, the women will line up down the street in millions dying for him.

    Only the low-quality white men go for asian women. No high-profile man would go for an asian women - unless of course he is 60 and she is 16!

  66. Posted October 20, 2009 at 2:56 pm | Permalink

    How sad, we are still stuck in the what colour is your knickers stage.

    Sexual and mating preference is pre-determined. Why get angry about an Asian woman wanting to be with a white man.

    She probably grew up watching McGiver and the many other American tv series that influences her present choices.

    I would be afraid to be seen with a white guy in public. The Asian public scrutinizes and labels us.

    Better just be single and watch more American tv series.

  67. Jodie
    Posted October 20, 2009 at 7:19 pm | Permalink

    It’s amazing the fantasy world some of you men live in. Especially Kazakh, You come from a piss poor, goat screwing country, where you could only get the most desperate of white women. Believe me you would not score in my country at all. And by the way those are sheep your having sex with not white women.

  68. jon
    Posted October 21, 2009 at 1:27 pm | Permalink

    In the uk, we really dont have many chinese, koreans, or japanese people like u do in the usa. Most white guys, like me, married to asians from thailand or filipines (mail order brides if u wanna call it that - dont bother me)

    Anyway, I think most asian male animosity is directed towards white men stealing the “white” asian women i.e chinese, koreans, japanese. I think asian men get more worked up about white guys walking around with “Lucy Lui lookalikes” than they do with those going round with dark filipinas or thais.

    Just like white guys get more worked up about black men with blondes than they do about brunettes. I guess its kinda like rubbing salt into the wound.

  69. CB
    Posted October 24, 2009 at 3:37 am | Permalink

    As a white male who has been interested in more than one Asian girl, I can say that it has nothing to do with submissiveness. Personally, as someone who notices eyes first in a girl, I just happen to think that most asian girls have pretty eyes. But I think a big part of it is the ‘exotic’ factor. Asian girls are rare and interesting to white men. Interestingly, my asian friends have said that they prefer white girls. Also, asian girls seem to be more arts oriented or intellectual (ON AVERAGE) than the white girls I’ve met.

  70. CB
    Posted October 24, 2009 at 3:46 am | Permalink

    Also, I find “asianmale’s” comments offensive, in that he assumes that asian girls date other races because they have low self esteem and want to be white. Basically, he is saying that asian girls are supposed to date asian men. Blatant racism. Why should race matter at all?

  71. Machida
    Posted October 30, 2009 at 11:58 pm | Permalink

    Andriy has made the most excellent post. Some proof to his point is that Asian women in more developed Asian countries don’t prefer white men. Sure there are many that do, but its nothing like in the US because the women have Asian male celebrities. The Asian women that grow up in the US go to school watching Brad Pitt and the high school football quarterbacks be perceived as the ideal male.

  72. Machida
    Posted October 31, 2009 at 12:18 am | Permalink

    Funny how 90% of dudes (mostly white) refer to themselves as “alpha” and “above average looking”.

    I can guarantee most of you aren’t “above average” looking nor alpha.

  73. jon
    Posted November 3, 2009 at 2:05 pm | Permalink

    Further to my original post, although i married a filipina i met on a website it wasnt out of desperation coz i couldnt date a white woman. I dated loads of white women but the truth is asian women are generally much easier to get along with than white women.
    White women from my experience have got some serious anger/attitude issues which u dont find in asian women. well not yet anyway. Plus I think asian women are generally better looking on average and present themselves better. Asian guys should think they are lucky they got attractive women instead of begruding a few white guys marrying their women.

  74. Steven
    Posted November 4, 2009 at 5:30 am | Permalink

    I’m a white male and I prefer Asian women over all other races!
    It’s because when I see an Asian woman my heart flutters and my stomach fills with butterfly’s. They are extremely beautiful… like a gorgeous work of art.

    And white women on the other hand… Dominate their man until they are quivering little babies, demand gifts & flowers all the time to “show they love them”. They also play games with the mans mind, always fucking with them!

    We are sick and tired of how western society has done a 180 and now we have become the women!!
    We want a relationship that is EQUAL!!!

  75. cory
    Posted November 6, 2009 at 12:55 pm | Permalink

    because all white women think they are models, are generally fat and/or have strange body shapes, have huge ego’s, no manners, and terrible taste in food, art and music. yea thats pretty much it.

  76. venganza
    Posted November 9, 2009 at 1:57 am | Permalink

    Rubbish! Of course not all white women think they’re models. You’re obviously mixing with a weird set of people. And are you insinuating that asian women have better taste in art, food etc? Rubbish again! Asian women have no better sense of art, food, et al than caucasion women.

    Problem with the Asian women is that they too often end up with ”old” caucasian men, as they’re the only women these geezers can get to go with them. They’re usually with the old men for they’re money.

    Asian women also have a reputation for being ”easy”. And latching on to other womens’ boyfriends and husbands. They deserve to have THAT done to THEM!

  77. An-kun
    Posted November 10, 2009 at 3:57 pm | Permalink

    Being a mid-twenties European white guy with a strong preference for East Asian girls I find it’s true that some white males that go with Asians are not good looking, however this seems to change as there are more and more white guys going after Asian girls but Asian girls generally are not so much attracted to white males now - maybe it’s because the WM is losing the alpha male position in the world, it’s the Asian millennium after all. While not an egomaniac I also consider myself above average looking since I got plenty of attention from white women, even more so than in Japan. In Asia it’s obvious also that many of the women have had horrible experiences with WMs (easy to tell just how they look at you) and judging from some of the obviously nasty and trashy white guys there I’m not surprised. Would be great if Asian guys would go after caucasian girls more, more balance and more beautiful kids would be good.

  78. streetmba
    Posted November 14, 2009 at 1:26 pm | Permalink

    Harvard MBA’s don’t know shiieeet. You jump to rash conclusions buddy.

    There are no logical nor intelligent ways you segment the “white guy/Asian girl” phenomenon.

  79. Posted November 16, 2009 at 4:59 pm | Permalink

    They fantasize that a White man like your husband will give them a beautiful White baby like the one you had with him. They desperately hide from the fact that these gorgeous White children can only come from 2 White parents. We have lots of talk about White women hating Asian women, but the truth is the Asian women very much resent White women, because only you can give a White man that gorgeous White baby. In terms of truly assisting a White man in continuing his genetic lineage the White woman trumps the Asian every time, be it in looks, creativity or intelligence of the potential offspring. Asian women are furious about this and can act very cold to White women as they ogle your man. In their pathetic jealousy they willfully refuse to understand that Asian women give white men Asian babies, that white men don’t give Asian women white babies. When I was a translator I used to see far too many lost white boys in Asia who had knocked up an Asian, often by accident. They had gotten caught up in some Asian girl’s “I’m having a white baby” fantasy, which is exactly that, only a dream. The foolish guy was stuck with the awful consequences–a very Asian-looking baby, his genes barely if at all apparent. He had terminated his own genetic legacy to spawn a Mongoloid. Just as with wf/bm mixing, there are no winners in af/wm procreation, only losers, especially the poor mixed kids. Asian women need to give up these delusions that they can give birth to nordic babies by hooking up with a White man. By pushing their Asian genes into our White gene pool they only destroy the very features they so covet. They need to get some pride already and find their own men in Asia once again.
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  80. Observer1
    Posted November 22, 2009 at 9:00 pm | Permalink

    1) The men saying that Asian women are more obedient, more attractive etc…you do realize that you have a fetish, and your opinions don’t really help with the topic?

    2) The only reason some of you are bashing white women is that you obviously had some bad experiences in the past…so if you want to contribute, then you need to realize you can’t stereotype a whole race of women. Same goes for those bashing Asian women.

    3) There are just as many white men who don’t feel any physical attraction for Asian females, but of course they wouldn’t feel the need to post here.

    4)Also, cory, your “most white women are overweight” statement is not true. Again,you just sound bitter.

    5)White men are more controlling than Asian men - they make a big deal about women dating outside their race. Asian men don’t mind as much. Or do they?

  81. LaoWai
    Posted November 23, 2009 at 5:28 pm | Permalink

    I live and work in China. I am white and I must say that Chinese guys are very ugly. They look like jungle monkeys and they act the role. They are sexist, racist, uncivilized jungle chimps. Moreover, I belong to a fitness club here in China and I must state that Chinese men do have very small penises. The pubic hair is often longer than their penises and they have very small testicles.

  82. Asianman415
    Posted November 24, 2009 at 2:26 am | Permalink

    I am an Asian man and this is my point of view:

    White men have become submissive and self-hating of their masculinity due to being raised under White feminist ideology. White men date Asian women as a release from the opinionated, loud and domineering White woman.

    Asian women are raised under patriarchal Asian culture, making them quiet, submissive and self-effacing. Asian women date White men to have a more gender-neutral relationship where they don’t have to play the female role they are expected to play with Asian men.

  83. venganza
    Posted November 27, 2009 at 1:49 am | Permalink

    Believing that Asian women are ‘’submissive” is a myth - pure myth. They may ”appear” to be submissive but once they get their man, then it’s THEY who usually rule the roost. Older, middle-aged white men like to believe that they’re still studs (although Viagra doesn’t mix well with hypertensive meds), so they go with these younger Asian women. And the women are more than likely looking for a comfortable life and perhaps being left something in the poor guy’s will. They’re certainly not with these older men for a great sex life, or because they’re in love!

    Still, if men want to go with Asian women because they apparently are under the impression that they ARE submissive, then so be it. Let’s hope they will eventually learn what they’re getting into.

  84. Jane
    Posted November 29, 2009 at 9:21 pm | Permalink

    I am a Filipina American and just wanted to post my own view after reading different comments here from people of different background. First, not all Asian women fall for old, bald, fat, or ugly white guy and not everyone goes for the guy’s money. Many Asians who were born or raised in western countries think different from Asian women who lives in Asia for the fact that there is a culture difference and economic factors too. When an Asian woman is very attractive, intelligent, and has her own money, there is a low chance that she will go for someone who is over twenty years older, not very attractive, or already divorce unless maybe, there is a slight chance that she really fell in love with that man. Now look at other women, black, white, Latina, or even mix races. If these women were good looking or even below average looking, possibly poor and uneducated, would not they consider marrying or dating someone who might be older too and could actually support them? Do not generalize Asian women as the kind who only go for white men because of the looks or money. I have lived in CA, TX, Europe, and have travelled around the world due to the fact I am also in the military and I can tell you personnally that I do not find all white men attractive even though I frequently get hit on or ask out by both white and black men.

    I am 5′ 7″ tall, taller than average Asian girls, have dark brown eyes, long black hair, and I work out because I like to stay in good shape. And contrary to what most people believe, I love my brown skin and even go to tanning salons to get the perfect bronze look. Not all Asian women bleach their skin and love to look like a wash out person with no melanin :-)….. Sorry. If a white man ask me out and I happen to like him, I will go out with him but I would not marry him just because he is white. He has to meet my standards too such as being a kind, intelligent, sincere, and thoughtful person. And yes, I have to be attractive to him too especially if that person will be my husband.

  85. Iron Chef
    Posted December 1, 2009 at 8:55 pm | Permalink

    I shake my head at you white man worshiping Asian sellout whores on here making excuses for your self hate and white male lust. “They are childish, I like hapa babies”. You dirty white man loving slaves . Just say you hate yourself and want to be white.

    Only a idiot would think all Asian men behave a certain way, yet you whores like that idiot from Hawaii make excuses about her loser Japanese man as if no white men are losers. You’re just a mule riding tramp that would kill to be blond. You disgust me.

  86. mo
    Posted December 5, 2009 at 9:27 pm | Permalink

    I’m filipino looking for butt ugly woman to love. If that’s you send me an email.

  87. Selene
    Posted December 11, 2009 at 1:03 am | Permalink

    I am an atypical Asian-American woman, physically and personality-wise. I am 75% Thai, 25% Fr. Can. I am 5′10″ tall, 38DD-26-36. I was a model in high school and college. For the longest time, I had always wanted to date an Asian man, and even thought of marrying an Asian man, but Asian men never seemed to be attracted to me the way white men are. So I ended up dating white men, black men, all kinds of men–but no Asian men ever showed any interest in me! Are Asian men only interested in petite, delicate Asian beauty? I feel like I missed out a little bit, but it doesn’t really bother me. I ended up marrying a wonderful man, who happens to be white, 6′4″, blonde and blue-eyed, and we have a beautiful baby. I just found it weird that Asian men never seemed attracted to me, when men of all other ethnic groups were really into me!

  88. You need to listen
    Posted December 15, 2009 at 5:05 am | Permalink

    Alright, lets cut the crap here! I have been with a Americanized Thai/Chinese girl for 17 years, almost half my life, married for 11 years. I was dating her before it was “cool” to have an Asian girlfriend (Pre-Lucy Liu), before half a million expats invaded China, starting this Asian women frenzy. She is Masters level education, so am I. She is beautiful, 9 out of 10 in USA eyes. In Asia, she is average. This being your first lesson. Go research what physical beauty is supposed to look like universally. When I was in Thailand, I was stunned to see so many beautiful petitie women, that made my girl seem average. Made me feel kinda dumb, like buying a trendy new car and having a cooler one come out a month later. (Her personality and intelligence make the package 10 out of 10). Dude, scope out the scene, calibrate yourself to what hot is in Asia, and be picky about what you chase. How she was raised is the second lesson. If raised overseas, forget it, you are wasting your time, woman will make you FkN crazy. They will not plug into USA culture, fashion, expectations, habits, customs, interior design. She will do the rule the roost thing all the time, and do stupid shit, like collect plastic containers, stupid dolls, save disgusting smelling food in jars, or wear clothes that clash big time. American raised asian women are highly desireable, like mine, BUT, you better think about the situation real damn hard first. If daddy is rich, she is most likely a spoiled brat and lazy, and can lite up a credit card like Paris Hilton. Rich daddy wants to cut the cunt off, and dump her to your payroll fool! If daddy owns a dry cleaner or restaurant, run the opposite direction until you vomit! The whole family is enslaved to the business, that means you too dumbass! I don’t even want to talk about raising kids, that is a disaster for discipline and religion, I have horribly underestimated the difficulty of raising mixed culture children. Clingy-ness is a big problem, Asian women latch on and won’t let go. Gives a new meaning to ball n chain. Woman gets upset if I go to the grocery store without telling her.
    Most important lesson of all. Sex. What you see on the internet is a total joke, 1 of 2000 asian women act in a lewd manner because they enjoy it (calibration USA white girls are 1 of 40). Educated Asian women, which are the ones you want, because they work hard and pull a paycheck, are damn fickle about sex. If you want hardcore sex from Pattaya street trash, well, I pity you, and her, cause it won’t last, assuming you can even find one of those girls. Educated asian women do not have nearly the naughty streak white women have. Dark asian complexion = trash. White complexion = beauty. Take a second look at those Asian advertizements, have you ever seen an asian women without bleach white skin? Japanese women are probably on average, the least good looking. Many Japanese women have proportional disfigurements, like short bow legs, stumpy arms, ugly fingers, or messed up teeth. The hybrid ethnicity regions are best for beauty genes. Northern Thailand, Northeast india, Malaysia, transitional culture areas of China. You will find fewer turnip calved women, and fewer fat upper arms.

    An Asian women with an education, attractive proportions, slim figure, B Size breasts, butt NOT flat, legs straight, you besta ask her out!

    My lady is loyal, which is probably true for other Asian women the farther you are away from Los Angeles. Wife and I have spent a lot of time in Thailand. We have four beautiful children, no joke, model agency quality. Final lesson, Asian women can pop out kids and recover to an attractive state, like size six tube dress. White cows will in most cases, never recover from pregnancy. Warning, not all half kids are cute! My observation is about 1 out of 5 half kids are normal looking, 4 of 5 just look wierd. I have been blessed, German/Chinese/Thai seems to be an awesome mix. Looking, back, kids screwed up the whole deal, I really had it great until we had kids, she took awesome care of me, sex was frequent and awesome, and the guys were all jealous. Rule of thumb: With each kid, halve her attention to you. So, I am at one sixteenth, and it FkN sucks! I took better care of myself as a bachelor. Now we just tow around four kids in a mixed cultural mess that is damn near impossible to manage, everyone just laughs at us now (sure as hell don’t help). Next phase of the disaster is the cultural issue of aging Asian in-laws moving in. Someone forgot to post the sign to asian imigrants that old folks get sent to nursing homes in the USA, this ain’t traditional China!

    Give the asian guys a break, especially the USA born ones, they will be making up the difference and getting the white girls, making the exact same mistakes the White guys are making with asian women!

  89. ashley
    Posted December 16, 2009 at 10:49 pm | Permalink

    After reading all of the comments posted here, I’ve come to one conclusion- 8/10 of you are unbelievably narrow minded and outrageously sexist. I’m 100% asian (Chinese and some Viet, maybe some Thai), but born and raised in America. Not all asians marry old, fat, white guys for money- I know I certainly wouldn’t. I myself have been accepted into an outstanding university on the east coast with set plans for the rest of my life. However, I’ve also known personally sluts like some have described- mean, desperate, unattractive women that go for wealthy old men who couldn’t find a good person worth anything.

    And just to clear up a few things:
    1) Not all asian women are ugly, have flat faces, slanty/tiny eyes, and no boobs or bum. Take my mother for example. 100% asian with the highest cheekbones you’ve ever seen and a straight nose. Add in enormous eyes and other delicate features and you have her. And people ask me if I’m mixed all the time. (Apparently I’ve inherited most of my features from my mother- except for my lightlight honey brown eyes and weirdly light hair. No idea where those came from)
    2) Not all asian women are submissive, nonthreatening servant-like housewives. Nor are we domineering, overbearing or anything of the sort. Not to say that there are not people like this that exist. I’m just saying that most of us aren’t. You people are thinking at the ends of the spectrum here… However I wasn’t exactly raised in China so…
    3) The majority of asian women who marry white guys are NOT gold-diggers. One of my close friends (asian) married another one of my good friends (american with euro. background) a little while back and are so unbelievably in love it’s almost sickening. They’re expecting a baby girl soon and I’m sure she’s going to be adorable.

    Keep in mind that I’m not saying there are NOT people like some have mentioned in previous posts. Hell, and pardon my french, I’ve known this one lady from mainland China and she was the most overbearing, ANNOYING, loud, ugly lady I have ever had the pleasure of knowing.

    I think the reason asian women (and I’m talking about the hardcore asians, the raised in China type. Not the ABC’s) tend to go for white men is because… they just feel safer. Oriental culture is really pro-men. I’ve known families that just kept pumping out the kids (and even giving some away) until the wife could give her husband a son. And because of the whole culture thing, many guys have grown up to think that women are inferior; and the women have begun to think that way too. So with a white guy (who, for the most part, have been taught manners and proper etiquette should be used when seeing a lady) asian women feel less pressure to conform to the means of the society they know.

    And for us ABC’s, I guess white guys are just easier to relate to (except for the asian guys born here in the US). They’re just also more attractive for the most part- or at least average looking. It’s hard to find a really good looking asian guy who hasn’t let it get to his head. (Because there’s so few of them, LOL)

    So… yeaup. (:

  90. bob
    Posted December 18, 2009 at 7:41 am | Permalink

    Susan is a racist

  91. Me
    Posted December 20, 2009 at 5:32 pm | Permalink

    I never really understood this whole exotic/sexual thing about Asian women. If anything it’s the opposite.

    The media influences so many things and creates false perceptions. For example in the USA there is the false perception that Asian men are not masculine. Whereas if you go to places like China (not dominated by Western media) it seems like the men have a higher level of self-esteem. Really people are people and each ethnic group has all different kinds of people. As incomes even out across the globe I think a lot of this stuff will go away over time.

  92. Michael
    Posted December 21, 2009 at 11:56 am | Permalink

    Asian guys are feminine with small equipment.

    White girls are stroppy, demanding and lazy.

    Asian girls are feminine, caring and loyal.

    White guys are smart.

    – do the math, its a match made in heaven.

    White girls don’t stand a chance, evolution will slowly wipe them out.

  93. venganza
    Posted December 22, 2009 at 2:22 am | Permalink

    Michael, I assume you refer to Asian women from India.

    Re your opinion of ”white women”. Sounds like you mix with a weird crowd of people. White women come in all different shades and sizes, by the way. Just as Italian or Spanish women don’t particularly resemble Scandinavian women. All are absolutely beautiful, in their own way.

    If you think that evolution (what a ridiculous idea) will eventually wipe white women out, then you need to think again. Remember - you’re the one with the problem with white women. I can assure you that that’s ”your” problem. Deal with it. Let the many wonderful men who love and worship white women be happy with them.

    Asian women are really no different from other women. They come in all different shades and sizes, too. Indian women are the most beautiful Asian women in my opinion. What’s more, they’re not a ”dime-a-dozen” as are most of the South-East Asian kind you probably refer to (Chinese, Korean, Thai etc.) Japanese women are, in my opinion, the best of the crop when it comes to South-East Asian womanhood, in every respect.

    Just thought of something. Israeli women are absolutely gorgeous. Probably because there is a mix of different cultures and ethnic backgrounds there.

    Keep smilin’ …..

  94. You need to listen
    Posted December 23, 2009 at 12:56 am | Permalink

    Hair is an asian woman’s existence. Investigate what you are getting in an Asian girl, since hair only comes in one color, black, you would be doing yourself a favor to undertand what crappy asian hair genes, and stunning hot hair really mean. Some asian women start to turn gray really young, like early twenties. Be sure to check on parents aunts and uncles. I found out later, it is a hereditary issue. Use your spy eye on the whole families’ hair dye routine, watch what to look for, like white roots, thinning hair on the women. My girl had awesome hair, then by the time she is 34, half is gray. She dyes her hair once a month, the hair texture and quality has gone coarse and rough. Her hair basicly went from hot to not. Are you shallow enough to ditch a girl for this? I am not, but I can tell you it is an annoying expensive problem to deal with once a month, so you end up dying her hair for her to save money. Heaven forbid you get caught looking at a younger asian woman’s hair while with your self conscious woman!

  95. ulla
    Posted December 23, 2009 at 9:58 pm | Permalink

    i do not undersand why u guys think asin means only chinease or japanease.asia is a cotinent not country.
    in fact, these people are east asian.
    all asian women do not like white guys. in asia there are lots of nations and colors.
    so u have to write ur comments carefully.

  96. Posted December 27, 2009 at 9:39 pm | Permalink

    Ok that article was full of B.S. “Asian women prefer white guys because white guys prefer Asian women?” Gimmie a break. Asian women prefer white guys because the media is saturated with them. White culture and western culture is the predominant culture on the planet.

    Now, you’re not saying your article is racist yet you implied that guy 1 is asian and average looking, with an average career and intelligence and guy 2, who is white is smarter, more good looking, with a better career?

    Also you made the most stupid comment of going for chicks who love martial arts movies, as if the only connections between an Asian man or Asian woman (or even non-Asian woman) would be martial arts? This is from a HARVARD MBA?

    Let’s get down to the real issue of “Why” again. As mentioned before, western society and culture has the most influence and power in this country and on the planet. The media determines what the majority of the people determine as sexy and desirable.

    If the media decides that black people are desirable and sexy, as it has a lot more in current times than once was in the past (which the media in this country did portray blacks as desirable 70 to 80 years ago), then they will sway public opinion to believe so also.

    However, still the dominant faces seen as sexy and desirable in the media are still white males and females. How many Asian male faces do you see in the media that are marketed in a sexy way, such as in perfume commercials or cologne commercials or underwear? Almost none. The media has not deemed Asian male look as something marketable in the realm of desirability. However, Asian females have been marketed in such a way, but much less than white females.

    The more exposure to western media will prompt any female, Asian or not, to desire what the media tells them is desirable, as the same with males. It is about power and influence and the media communicates this influence. If you go into a rural area in China with no western influence whatsoever, I highly doubt the females will prefer white men.

    However, if you were raised in a place in which all you see is white faces on TV or in magazines with the nice houses, nice families, nice cars, desirable good-looking men or women, you’re going to choose what you’re influenced by.

  97. Posted December 27, 2009 at 9:51 pm | Permalink

    Post note: Michael’s lame post on the matter just proved to me that not ALL “white men are smart.”

  98. jon
    Posted December 28, 2009 at 6:40 pm | Permalink

    The people here should watch “The Slanted Screen”, it was a documentary on pbs. Originally asian men were very popular with white women. Then jealous insecure white men started bashing asian men in the media with propaganda.

  99. Wayne Wettlauffer
    Posted December 29, 2009 at 3:48 am | Permalink

    What I don’t understand is with what’s the attraction between Asian women with White males….a race that basically invented the 50% divorce rate.

  100. Chrysafi
    Posted December 29, 2009 at 4:53 am | Permalink

    @asianmale and the rest of you random haters

    ouch…must you be so harsh about the stereotypes…? bitter much…?

    i’m a Filipina, and a college girl. and no, i don’t prefer white men over all other men. i just happen to live in a land-locked state, so unfortunately i have only dated 2 asian males out of 5.

    and i LIKE being asian. i actually PREFER asian men. unfortunately, i go to a smaller college campus, so no decent, single asian boys in sight. i took a few short trips to Seattle this year, and i was reeling from the sea of asians–many of whom i found attractive.

    (but i don’t place asians at the top of the looks pyramid—i think mixed-blood people are the best. well, the mixes aren’t always good, but when they are, they outstrip most pure-blooded beauties…)

    as to other stereotypes–i actually go for the feminized masculinity, the smooth honey complexions, the general hairlessness, the dark eyes, the keen intelligence. i don’t like obvious musculature. don’t bash the non-monstrous equipment—it’s nice not to bleed or hiss in pain when you just want to have fun…and i don’t like super-tall men, white or otherwise. i don’t always like feeling puny, and i hate when my partner has to bend down so much to kiss me. a good height is 5′ 9″, just enough so i’m tucked under his chin. plus, white men tend to bore or disgust me. that’s America for you…

    and guess what…? my close friends are are a good mix of asian and non-asian, and they go for pretty asian men too.

    ok, so i fit some of the stereotypes–i’m 5′ 0″, have honey skin that deepens under the desert sun unless i’m careful. but i don’t bleach. i have long black hair to my waist, and dark brown eyes behind glasses, and a smile that has never needed braces. i’m petite, slender at 106 lbs, to the point of frailty, even. in the curves category, i’m proportionate to my size, but not lacking. and i can pass for 14.
    i’m shy, quiet amongst strangers, loving and loyal. but it’s not a mask. it’s me, how i am also to my female friends, more so even. i like feeling safe and protected, but so do most girls. i don’t go out of my way to be “cute” except for my closest friends. i don’t always dress glamorously, don’t spend hours doing my hair or makeup. i’m a fashionista when the whim strikes me, not every waking moment.
    and so what if i’m a sub in bed…? someone i know actually figured me for a dom, given my upbringing. i don’t mind contradicting general assumptions.

    but, miracle of miracles, i don’t attract white men in droves. besides nerds who bury themselves in their stereotype.
    i’m classified as “cute” or “pretty”. one time a male (who i wasn’t dating) called me “hot”, i was speechless for a good five minutes, and i demanded that he stop teasing me. to this day i don’t really believe him. i’m childlike, perpetual jail-bait, and will probably be carded until i’m 40.

    that’s not what men are looking for, not the general male populace. men want women, not little girls. why go for the little asian girl when you can woo the non-asian bombshell a few feet away…?

    so what if some white men go for asian girls, and some asian girls go for white men? they also go for other races. i had a thing for a spanish boy once, but it was because he was cute, talented, and spoke well.

    we asian women are all different. Just as all other women, and all men, are different.

  101. Observer
    Posted January 5, 2010 at 2:30 pm | Permalink

    “These fetishes represent a market inefficiency; the British loser in “Love Actually” would have no chance at bedding a single attractive woman in his native England, let alone three. Thanks to the White Guy Asian Fetish (”WGAF”), even unattractive Asian women have a chance to score a significant other or mate.”

    __

    Cause even low-status, ‘unattractive’ White guys can score with Asian girls

    […] No non-fatty white girlfriend would tolerate such nauseating beta shit for long. His ass would be dumped as soon as the bartender winked at her. Is it any wonder guys like this hone in on Asian girls? I don’t blame them. With the Asian girlfriend, they get to be all the beta they can be, without fear of reprisal. And they don’t have to settle for a fat chick. […]

    http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/12/15/dont-be-this/

  102. Dan
    Posted January 5, 2010 at 11:45 pm | Permalink

    Your Guy #1 and Guy #2 test proves nothing. Of course most women are going to jump for Guy #2, not just Asian women. The real test is when Guy #1 and Guy #2 are equally average. Guy #1 just happens to be Asian and Guy #2 just happens to be white. Then by and large most Asian women will prefer guy #1.

    Not that it matters. Most women will go out with the guy who does the asking first, be it Guy #1 or Guy #2. Either that or she’ll reject both Guy #1 and Guy #2 and go out with Guy #3 who’s actually good-looking, smart, and has a good career.

  103. Han Deutsch
    Posted January 6, 2010 at 5:38 am | Permalink

    I am a European guy that likes pretty girls that like me. It just so happens that most of the girls that like me are Chinese. All race have pretty girls, I go for Chinese girl because they like me. That simple.

  104. Posted January 7, 2010 at 7:36 am | Permalink

    Wow…I didn’t know that Caucasian men have such high regard for Asian women ;p Well, I have always been attracted to Caucasian men, not because I think that they’re better than Asian guys, but because if i were to ever ever ever have kids, I’d like them to be good looking. Having grown up alongside Hollywood films & western media representations, it is quite natural for me to develop a liking for the Caucasian looks. However, I find that not many Caucasian men have the family-loving qualities that Asian men have - ie, it is extremely easy for me to get a Caucasian date, but not so easy to find someone who wants a soul mate

  105. Tom
    Posted January 7, 2010 at 10:47 am | Permalink

    “My advice: Try to exploit market inefficiencies and go for chicks who dig martial arts movies. Do you think Jackie Chan or Jet Li ever lacks for babes?”

    what the fuck?

    are you really asian?

    you’re a typical educated person with no real sense of reality.

    you’re a white-washed idiot who doesn’t know what being asian is all about.

  106. Posted January 8, 2010 at 3:06 am | Permalink

    Tom, I apologize if my comments have hurted your feelings. I was merely voicing a personal preference. As I have mentioned earliers, I do not think that Caucasian guys are better than Asian guys. In fact, I found that ‘more’ Asian guys positive qualities that make them a much better partner. But I find these physical traits (which I like) more common among Caucasian guys - height (more than 5′ 10″), large deep set eyes, high nose bridge, strong arms, toned physique - hence, I find Caucasian guys to be more sexually appealing. Personality-wise, I do know many Asian guys who are better individuals compared to Caucasian guys, and they’re all my good friends. But…there’s no physical attraction. I guess I should re-emphasize that not all girls think/feel the same way:) FYI, I do also have Caucasian girl friends who date Indian & Chinese guys

  107. Crisko
    Posted January 11, 2010 at 2:20 am | Permalink

    White women are also very up-their-own-asses. Asian women are generally more down to Earth, except when they go to clubs in Western cities that are more popular with Asian people, in which case, they’re just as snooty and up themselves as white women.

    White women walk in to a nightclub and no matter how fugly they are, will only give time to the guy they have singled out as the hottest in the club. As for the hot white women? Well, they just have this super, unrealistic expectation of men and always end up fucking some total douchebag every week, bitching for days after that he is a total douche to that lame-ass guy (me) who provides her with an audience in the vein attempt she will appreciate me after how nice I have been to her for years and she acknowledges that BUT STILL GOES OUT NEXT WEEK AND FUCKS A RANDOM DOUCHEBAG!!!!!

    …ahem….

    …long story short…this cycle will continue for some time - preppy white girl in love with herself will go through cycle of going for douche bags until she’s in her late 20s and finally realizes that all the cool, modest down-to-Earth white guys are with Asian girls because they appreciated them at the time.

    As for Asian guys? They’ll get the white girls in their late 20s - they’re still hot, have lots of sexual experience and have wised up from their former idiot years. I suppose if you don’t mind hanging around, they are the ultimate winners.

    …but I’m not bitter…not bitter, cynical or pessimistic (or drunk whilst typing this) at all….AT ALL…….I promise.

    P.S. I’m drunk.

  108. FunnyAsians
    Posted January 11, 2010 at 10:58 pm | Permalink

    Asian women prefer white men because horny white men are running to Asian country by the hundreds of thousands to get laid by Asian whores.

    These white men are aggressive and have the $$ looking for a wild time while the Asian women are gold diggers, infatuated with the western culture and willing to spread their legs to be apart of the whole experience.

    Asian women have no dignity, they have no self worth.. all they think about is money/materials and love being courted and pampered by rich white men.

    There is no other culture that is more money hungry than the Asian females and there is no other cultures that have men running to in droves to get laid in exchange for money other than Asia.

    Don’t buy into all this hype that Asian women don’t like Asian guys because they are short and skinny either. Asian women will fall all over a short skinny white men over a tall Asian guy the majority of the time because they have this false sense of excitement they feel western cultures offer them.

    Oh and white guys trump Asian guys in the jeans by a landslide. Deny it all ya want! Haha!

  109. venganza
    Posted January 12, 2010 at 1:55 am | Permalink

    FunnyAsians - I absolutely agree with you. FINALLY another person who has the guts and courage to speak the truth.

    I live in quite a high-end area on the west coast of the USA and I see SO MANY caucasian men with Asian women (even unattractive ones). Little do they know what’s in store for them. The asian ladies (especially the Chinese and koreans) really RULE THE ROOST once they’re married. And yes, many of them DO go for $$$. A lot of the older, middle-aged caucasian men like the fact that they can perhaps get a younger woman (to have sex with), little realizing that these asian women (or girls) are just with them for their $$$!! Poor guys - it really is very pathetic, as these ladies will more than likely take them for every last dime they’ve got.

    Mind you, I don’t put Indian or japanese women in this catgegory at all. They are much more classy, educated, and live by a higher standard of morals. These are the asian women I really admire.

    I used to own a travel agency and there were always these pervert old men looking to go on sex tours to the orient. Quite sickening. Most of them were on hypertension meds, and THEY DON’T MIX WITH VIAGRA!! These tours mostly dealt in taking groups of men to Thailand. That country has an extra special reputation when it comes to prostitution!

  110. mh31223
    Posted January 14, 2010 at 3:27 pm | Permalink

    Most Asian girls I see with gwailo boyfriends are average looking at best. Ive lived in China, Taiwan, Australia an that seems to be the case.

    Those below-average looking asian girls dont have many decent asian guys after them (the ones that know how to play the game and got dosh) so therefore are more receptive to foreigners.

    Take note when you see an asian girl with a white/black/indian guy next time and see for yourself.

  111. James
    Posted January 16, 2010 at 6:02 am | Permalink

    Your article is bull$hit and more your own personal opinion than anything.

  112. joe
    Posted January 18, 2010 at 12:21 am | Permalink

    america is obese. even asians that have been in america for a while will be obese. trust me, there is an asian kid at my school born in the US. he’s obese. his parents are skinny.

    an obese man can easily date a skinny woman.

    but an obese woman cannot date a skinny man.

    it just isn’t right.

    therefore there will be a bit more asian woman and white man couples than asian man and white woman couples.

    same with black man and white woman couples. this is just a guess, but i’m guessing that black obesity rate is higher than white obesity rate. just because statistically, blacks have less average income, meaning that they eat more unhealthy foods.

  113. April
    Posted January 19, 2010 at 2:59 pm | Permalink

    OK HERES THE REAL DEAL.

    After skimming through all the comments I see that this whole thing about submissiveness, culture is all b.s. This harvard mba whatever guy has no idea what he’s talking about clearly.

    I’m a 18 years old female Asian attending UCLA and I’m currently dating a white guy. I’ve dated both white and Asian guys. I have no preference or “fetish” for either race. I don’t prefer white guys nor do i prefer Asian guys. There’s no “phenomenon” or ‘fetch’, it is solely based on YOUR preference, what YOUR attracted to.

    My take: Two main things that attract people to other people: physical looks and inner personality. If I see a smokin hot Asian guy with a sweet personality of course I would go for him. Likewise if I see a bangin hot white guy whose chill and laid back i would go for him as well. There’s hot Asian and white guys in this world, but i personally just see more hot white guy. And i’m pretty sure that asian women see a lot more attractive white guys then asian men. i’ve been to asia okay i’ve seen whats up and how 1 in 1000 guys are cute. i truly believe thats the reason that asian girls go for white guys. cause there are just more cuter ones. white guys are generally bigger, buffer, tanner, gorgeous eyes, strong, and have a gorgeous facial feature. And I don’t want to be discriminating but I just don’t find myself being attracted physically to any other races (thus one out of the two components that create attraction is left out). That’s my personal preference. trust me i’ve been through 4 years of high school recently and all my friends (who are asian girls) all go for both races. theres no preference.

    to the people that say that they date exclusively white/ asians/whatever: i’m sorry if you had a bad experience with that particularly race or maybe its your preference,idk.

    To the asian guys: dude don’t worry about the whole “omg the white guys are stealing all our asian girls”. i hate to break it to you, but you probably jus never had game in the first place. trust me if you were hella cute or rich you wouldn’t be worried about that in the first place. trust me there’s plenty of asian girls to go around. like the harvard mba guy said do you think “Jackie Chan or Jet Li ever lacks for babes.” Umm his whole thing about digging martial arts watever is bogus. it’s cause jackie chan and jet li are successful actors/ movie stars…money=honeys left and right, cause theres just some gold diggers in life you get it thru your head?

    To the asian guys who wants to get white girls: okay so my friend is asian he’s buff and good looking. he likes the white women. he gets the white women. you guys who WANTS to get white women but can’t get any…well i’m sorry but my same answer is that you probably just don’t have enough game/looks/personality to win over a white chick.

    To the guys guys with “yellow fever”: so i asked my guys why do you have yellow fever. his honest answer? “i dont like white girls personality and i find asians more attractive” of course men with yellow fever still find white women beautiful, gorgeous, that’s why there plastered overall the magazines, movies, etc. but They are just physically attracted to the features of an asian female and their nice personality.

    to the narrow minded discriminators: it pisses me off when I read a post that said that ugly white guys go for asians cause they can’t get anyone else. I mean really c’mon, this isn’t the 19th century, I’m sick of reading all these posts about stereotypes and just putting such a narrow statement into a vast category. I’m sure many of you people are years older than me but yet many of you guys are still immature when it comes to being open minded. You guys should try opening up a psychology book and read that According to a University of Louisville study, when shown pictures of different individuals, Asians, Latinos, and whites from 13 different countries all had the same general preferences when rating others as attractive. Ok so i’m pretty sure that asian women in that picture up there doesn’t find that bald headed white movie star attractive but his money sure makes him a lot more attractive. I’m trying to make the point that not all asian girls find white guys attractive just cause your white. GET THAT THROUGH YOUR HEAD. WE’RE NOT GONNA LINE UP AND JUMP AND TRY TO BONE ANY WHITE GUY WE SEE. call me shallow if you want, but i wouldn’t go for an average white guy, i don’t find average attractive at all. my boyfriend is hot and i could say that w/o bias cause he models for a&f, must b generally attractive to the general eye huh? Psychological research also suggests that people generally choose mates with a similar level of attractiveness. The whole ugly guy going for young girl vice versa is all the minority and not majority. And not all asians are flat faced, black haired, pale, whatever. There could be but there are gorgeous asians that are tan, full chested, with big eyes where i live and i’m sorry if you haven’t noticed any. But even that shouldn’t be labeled as beautiful because beauty comes from perception. If you think slanty eyes, flat is beautiful then that’s YOUR perception, and good for you. Probably not the majority would think so but i’m just saying. Theres also your fair share of gorgeous white girls as well as ugly ones. and for the posts that say that asians are trying to be white by going for white guys…i mean seriously how low can you get. i’m asian and i’m dam proud to be asian, i wouldn’t want to be any other race, i dont have an inferiority issues by going for a white guy..i just find him extremely attractive. how come i don’t ever read about white guys that are trying to be asian by going for asian women??? my. point. exactly.

    to the “average white alpha male”:you are most likely gonna go for average female whether it be asian or white or latino or african american or w/e. this is a proven study and generalization..THIS IS THE NORM. okay so maybe the average white male jus has a preference for the asian..its no a phenomenon or anything its JUST A PREFERENCE. This preference is called “yellow fever” get that through your head you people.

    To the exceptions: bald headed male has money or is exceptionally funny and charming. his level of attractiveness goes up. he gets younger hotter female…but he has yellow fever so he goes for the asian.

    okay so thats all there is to it.

  114. April
    Posted January 19, 2010 at 3:15 pm | Permalink

    OK HERES THE REAL DEAL.

    After skimming through all the comments I see that this whole thing about submissiveness, culture is all b.s. This harvard mba whatever guy has no idea what he’s talking about clearly.

    I’m a 18 years old female Asian attending UCLA and I’m currently dating a white guy. I’ve dated both white and Asian guys. I have no preference or “fetish” for either race. I don’t prefer white guys nor do i prefer Asian guys. There’s no “phenomenon” or ‘fetch’, it is solely based on YOUR preference, what YOUR attracted to.

    My take: Two main things that attract people to other people: physical looks and inner personality. If I see a smokin hot Asian guy with a sweet personality of course I would go for him. Likewise if I see a bangin hot white guy whose chill and laid back i would go for him as well. There’s hot Asian and white guys in this world, but i personally just see more hot white guy. And i’m pretty sure that asian women see a lot more attractive white guys then asian men. i’ve been to asia okay i’ve seen whats up and how 1 in 1000 guys are cute. i truly believe thats the reason that asian girls go for white guys. cause there are just more cuter ones. white guys are generally bigger, buffer, tanner, gorgeous eyes, strong, and have a gorgeous facial feature. And I don’t want to be discriminating but I just don’t find myself being attracted physically to any other races (thus one out of the two components that create attraction is left out). That’s my personal preference. trust me i’ve been through 4 years of high school recently and all my friends (who are asian girls) all go for both races. theres no preference.

    to the people that say that they date exclusively white/ asians/whatever: i’m sorry if you had a bad experience with that particularly race or maybe its your preference,idk.

    To the asian guys: dude don’t worry about the whole “omg the white guys are stealing all our asian girls”. i hate to break it to you, but you probably jus never had game in the first place. trust me if you were hella cute or rich you wouldn’t be worried about that in the first place. trust me there’s plenty of asian girls to go around. like the harvard mba guy said do you think “Jackie Chan or Jet Li ever lacks for babes.” Umm his whole thing about digging martial arts watever is bogus. it’s cause jackie chan and jet li are successful actors/ movie stars…money=honeys left and right, cause theres just some gold diggers in life you get it thru your head?

  115. April
    Posted January 19, 2010 at 3:16 pm | Permalink

    To the asian guys who wants to get white girls: okay so my friend is asian he’s buff and good looking. he likes the white women. he gets the white women. you guys who WANTS to get white women but can’t get any…well i’m sorry but my same answer is that you probably just don’t have enough game/looks/personality to win over a white chick.

  116. Clarity
    Posted January 20, 2010 at 5:15 am | Permalink

    Please stop assuming Asian women are gold digging whores. It’s insulting. It’s also misinformed.

    From Wikipedia under “Asian American” - “Overall, Asian Americans have the second lowest poverty rate after non Hispanic whites.[2] and the highest educational attainment levels, median household income,[3] and median personal income[4] of any racial demographic in the nation.

    According to the 2005 Current Population Survey Annual Social and Economic Supplement, Asian American households had the highest median income at $57,518.”

    So, instead of making racist assumptions about promiscuity and mercenary attributes, why don’t you make friends with an Asian woman. And get to know her strict parents who forbid loose behavior but value hard work and education. The above numbers don’t lie…

    Put THAT in your pipe and smoke it!

  117. Let There Be Love!
    Posted January 20, 2010 at 7:32 am | Permalink

    Let there be love!

    Many who wrote here stereotype people in one way or another. Dividing humanity on the basis of black, white, yellow, rich, poor, weak, strong, master, slaves, achieves nothing but promotes racism, sexism and ageism. If people can’t stand the color differences, then let us encourage more interracial marriages, so that soon all people will be mainstreamed in color – ruddy complexion. No more black and no more white. Lacking in melanin is nothing to be proud of. You get sunburn, freckles and a whole lot more wrinkles. People are meant to be loving, mixing and mingling with one another, but we chose to segregate and inbreed, resulting in the extreme color of black and white that we have today. The first humans originally came with brown eyes and ruddy complexion with the complete genetic cocktail that enables them to produce offspring of all skin tone, eye and hair color variations. Once, again, segregation and inbreeding is the culprit behind the world’s color and feature problems.

    In regards to why white men prefer Asian women. Obviously, there will be different answers for different people. Some people do it for bad reasons. Some people do it for good reasons. Some can’t find love in their own race so they find it elsewhere. Some prefer to mix/mingle and take adventures. Some are just fascinated with different people. The same applies to why Asian women prefer dating Caucasian men. It is very much an individual thing. Thus, generalization and stereotyping is neither helpful nor intelligent.

    Now, to the “Proud To Be White” woman who wrote with such intense passion of hate and bitterness. You are welcomed to be proud of your ethnicity, just as I am proud of mine. I feel sorry for you. My advice is: be cool, be calm, and above all, be kind. This may be your only hope of keeping your man in your bed for longer. Stop looking down on other people just because they come from a poorer country. Not all of us who come from the poor countries of South East Asia are whores. A greater multitude of us are honest, self respecting people. Having been through hardships in life, if anything, gave us more strength of character and the appreciation for what is truly good in life.

    Don’t judge the fallen girls either. Should the table turn one day, you’ll probably find yourself on your sore knees sucking your 4” Chinese boss’ cocks for less than those Thai girls. Many of these girls are caught in circumstances that are beyond their control. Many chose to sacrifice everything, including their pride and dignity in order to help save the lives of their family members for whatever reason. If you think carefully, Western women’s lifestyle is not so different to these poor, fallen girls of Asia since so many of you fornicates with multiple sex partners and for less reason than these girls.

    And get off your high horse woman. Your blue eyed, white skin babies may be adorable, but no more adorable then my enormous deep-brown eyed, tan skin baby. Get your facts straight too. You White Supremists aren’t the only ones who can produce blue eyed babies. Half-cast babies can come in blue eyes! We have one right here in our family circle. He’s 5 now, fully white skin and light brown hair. If you think it’s difficult now to find half cast people with varying eye and hair color, just wait a few more generations, these half-cast children’s children will produce a more mainstreamed color of people with varying eye and hair color too. Read more about blue eyed half cast babies http://www.esthetique-realm.net/forums/index.php?showtopic=10332

    The point is why should you care if other people would like to make babies of blue or red eyes! What is the real reason behind your insist on being exclusive and divisive? Ahhh, yes, it is because you are racist!

    Interracial marriages is not only good for the problems of racism, but there is less chance of defective genes matching up, thereby, reducing or eliminating prominent features such as long crooked noses and tightly slanted eyes etc.

    Another thing I’d like to share with some of you gentlemen who wrote here is: ALL women grow old! If you think Asian women look ugly when they’re old, then take another look at your mother. If you plan to grow old with one, take your pick – a tiny, shriveled up Asian lady or a large old hag with excessive flesh and skin hanging off her face, waist and thighs. Another difference is: Asian women are less afraid of growing old. Thanks to a cultural system that revere and value their elders. The Western culture, however, values perpetual youthfulness. For many, aging is like a plague. To add salt to injury, there is little or no family support for you when you need it most. Is it any wonder, why more Caucasian women feel the need to go on endless anti-aging crusades trying to stay as young or as attractive as possible. Which is OK. However, if an older Asian woman put on make-up and try to look attractive, she will be shunned by her family and community, as it is considered improper behavior for her age.

    Furthermore, for those of you who wonder why you don’t see many Asian guys dating Caucasian women. It is not because they’re being rejected by Caucasian women as some say. Do you have any idea how many single, desperate and lonely Caucasian women there are out there with no one to love!? The fact is Asian men generally have cultural and family obligations. The sons of Asian families are the pillars of their parents’ hope and strength. When the head of the family pass away, the oldest sons take their fathers’ places. It becomes their duty to ensure that family unity and closeness are preserved. They’re responsible for their younger brothers and sisters’ physical and moral health and well-being. The younger brothers are next-in-line to the throne of honor. Therefore, as true sons, they must honor their parents’ wishes and steer clear of Western women who tend not to be as faithful, or value family closeness, or care about family honor as much. Also, since they have been brought up with certain standard of morality, dating women for the sake of sexual gratification alone is a degrading and immoral thing to do. However, that’s not to say that there are no naughty Asian males out there, who date Caucasian women just for fun. After they’re done playing, they make their parents happy by settling down into marriage with women from their own culture. Of course, there are some who fall in-love with their prey and ended up marrying them. I see at least 7 marriages of Asian/Caucasian couples in my small community alone. These young women that have been chosen generally understand the value of the Asian families and make the commitments to uphold their new family’s values and traditions accordingly.The Gen Y Asians on the other hand, tend to be moving more fully towards interracial relationship with much less cultural encumbrances. This is because many of the Gen Y Asians, like many of their Western counterpart, are the products of Hollywood and the Western media. Thus, children, inevitably succumb to the influence of the media and develop their own culture and tastes. So these days, it seems all of the Gen Y Asian boys are dating Caucasian girls. Which is great. All my nephews and their friends, and their friends’ friends take at least a couple Caucasian girls each, even share or swap the girls amongst themselves. The girls are mostly treated well in other ways though, their dinners are always paid for, and their gifts of jewelery are always of pure gold. It is just an Asian style. Any Caucasian girl I talk to have said that once they’ve dated an Asian guy, there’s no turning back to dating white guys. So yes, there is love in the air, all be it Hollywood style. There is more interracial love between older generations now too. Now that racism and ignorance is decreasing, more and more Caucasian gentlemen are coming out to mingle with the rest of the people of the world. They’re not necessary old, bald and ugly. The ones that I know and befriended are heart-throbs, white collar professionals.

    So, here’s to love!

  118. venganza
    Posted January 20, 2010 at 9:18 pm | Permalink

    Whew! That was a long comment, indeed!

    1) To whoever posted previously about being a ”proud white woman”. I’m sure that what she meant was that white women do NOT necessarily need to read certain books published about ”how” to behave and imitate asian women. Not because she’s a ”white supremacist”. Whoever posted that link about white women needing to read books like that sounds a very haughty person herself. NO - it’s just that NO particular race ”needs” to read books on how to imitate other races - that’s all!

    But asia takes in such a large territory. Indian women are asian too, and amongst the most beautiful, classy and educated.

    But let’s face it. It’s no wonder the Chinese and Korean (amongst the majority) of asian women seem to be taking over the male population. It’s because there’s SO MANY OF THEM! It’s like they’re on a mission of some kind! How would the female populations of some south-east asian countries feel if THEY got an influx of hoards of caucasian women taking over their men and universities? Now THAT’S a question to ponder over!

    I am aware that more than half the student body at UCLA is of asian origin of some kind. Does that sound fair? I KNOW that it’s NOT just a question of ”they’re brainier”! NO. There is something else going on here that’s not quite so obvious. They may be paying higher fees (money talks). Maybe. Point is, there should be more university spaces allocated at UCLA (and other californian universities), to native californians, whatever their race.

    I’m also aware that there are many asian people arriving on our west coast shores here in the USA due to more liberal visa requirements from the government in Washington. OK. Many come for business reasons (investment), which is good for our country. They buy lot’s of real estate, too. But PLEASE - leave some spaces at our universities for native born americans (of whatever race).

  119. Clarity
    Posted January 21, 2010 at 12:09 am | Permalink

    venganza - Please educate yourself. Asian Americans have higher average SAT scores than any other group. Period. They perform better in school. There isn’t any preferential treatment there because, simply, we don’t need it.

    Seeing as how Americans of European descent are not native to this country either, it’s pretty silly to judge and harbor animosity toward another culture that has only helped the US with paying taxes and near nonexistent need for welfare assistance.

    Welfare stats:

    White 38.8%
    Black 37.2
    Hispanic 17.8
    Asian 2.8
    Other 3.4

    If there’s millions of Asians in the US, as you claim, then that figure is pretty impressive.

    Also, do you know the size of Korea? Or Japan? Indeed, China is a huge country but Korea is about the size of Italy. And it’s a highly prosperous country with a well educated work force and very low unemployment. It would behoove you to know of which you speak, else you sound like a redneck racist.

    Now, from my experience, people in general are attracted to differences in appearance. If you’re a guy and your mom is blonde, you probably like brunettes and visa versa. I’ve noticed that white men dislike their skin and prefer the smooth tanned skin of Asian women. That’s just appearance.

    In terms of relationships, Asians clearly have a presence in colleges and universities where eligible men of all stripes can be found. Asian men are more retiring in general and their white counterparts are often more aggressive in dating. And that’s, I believe, what it’s all about.

  120. venganza
    Posted January 21, 2010 at 3:14 am | Permalink

    Please Note :

    When I said ”native born americans” I also said ”of ANY race”. Which means that whatever their ancestry may be, they were, nevertheless, born in the USA, and are just as deserving of going to a good university in the USA as are people who come on a visa to study here.

    Re SAT scores. I wouldn’t care if ALL the students at universities were of asian descent (as long as they were born here). What I DO resent are the many asian people who where were NOT born here and get visas to study in our universities at the cost of people who WERE born here and who have just as good test scores as well. Again, as I posted previously, I believe it all comes down to money and fees.

    I have NEVER met any white men who dislike their own skin. Unless they have acne or something like that (but asian people can get that too). And it’s by no means a fact that ALL asian women have smooth tanned skin. On the contrary, I thought that theirs was a culture which prided itself on having WHITE skin. One can seem them walking around on very hot days with umbrellas to protect their complexion. I’ve seen the same bumps and pimples on the skins of asian people as I see on caucasian people.

    Have a lovely day.

  121. Let there be love!
    Posted January 21, 2010 at 9:30 am | Permalink

    Mr Vengence. Oh, sorry I mean Venganza.
    I’ve just notice your name appeared 9 times in this blog. My mission is to try and unite people. You on the other hand, what is your mission? Stop all your put downs and assumptions already. I think we’ve got your point already. You hate Asians. So please get off the line and let other people have ago.

  122. venganza
    Posted January 21, 2010 at 9:18 pm | Permalink

    This is an open, public blog. Unless the moderator decides otherwise, one may post as many times as one wants. Unless - like I mentioned - the moderator decides otherwise, or the blog becomes unavailable.

    You cannot automatically decide who hates who. Actually, I don’t hate anybody, as I know very well what hate means, having experienced discrimination myself on account of race and religion. You cannot automatically assume anything!

    My specific point was, and still is, the very unfair policies of US based universities of granting more applications for places to people on visas here, rather than to our home-grown applicants. That’s all. And I don’t just mean asians who are here on visas - I mean ANYBODY who’s here on a visa.

    I know people who work at the UCLA application department and so I’ve got a bit of a view on what goes on in the back room and WHO are the ones who are REALLY getting placed there. This is factual, not something I’m making up.

    Have a relaxing day.

  123. admin
    Posted January 21, 2010 at 9:26 pm | Permalink

    Hi folks,

    This is Chris Yeh, the moderator (and the titular Harvard MBA). My policy is to approve any comments that aren’t:

    1) Spam
    2) Threatening/Illegal/Violent

    I don’t necessarily agree with what you have to say, but I strongly believe in your right to say it.

    As long as you don’t spam or threaten people, you may post as many comments as you want.

  124. Clarity
    Posted January 22, 2010 at 5:14 pm | Permalink

    venganza - It’s true, I made some remarks from, as I did preface, my own experience. Being raised in the US, tanned skin always seemed to be the preference amongst my friends. Consider the popularity of tanning salons, lotions, and tanning sprays. I’m golden toned regardless of sun and tan quickly to a deep caramel. Some Asians are very pale and enjoy appearing that way. Plenty of other Asian women enjoy having some color to their skin. We aren’t a dime a dozen, as you’ve claimed.

    I’m in my 30’s and have dated a fair number of men and they ALL loved my skin, including my current boyfriend. But if I could just make a quick observation, note the woman in the picture at the top of this blog. Not pale.

    Regarding university admissions, the US welcomes international students. This might be why:

    http://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/11/world/americas/11iht-students.4.8286921.html

    This figure is probably greater because 2008/2009 had a greater number of international students. We don’t need $14.5 billion or more taken away from the US right now.

    UC is suffering from a very serious budget shortfall as reported in the Jan. 4th New Yorker, your admissions friends might not have jobs soon. They actually NEED more out of state and international students on top of raising tuition to stay afloat.

    International students have help to build US universities to be where they are now. Universities contribute a lot to the economy but to be frank, I’ve NEVER known anyone to be denied admission to a college in their top three choices. I’m referring to “home-grown” friends.

    You seem to have a lot of different ideas on the subject of Asians and non-natives. Ranging from the inflammatory to the intolerant. I might suggest you move if Asians bother you so much. California isn’t a good place for you.

  125. venganze
    Posted January 23, 2010 at 2:02 am | Permalink

    Clarity :

    Why should I need to move? I’m sure there’s enough room in California to accommodate all of us. Apart from which I love the climate here.

    Many people ARE leaving, although not for the reason you suggest that I should. No. They’re leaving for economic reasons, for the most part. Meaning an unfriendly business environment and high taxes.

    If you believe that putting the rights of American citizens over those of foreigners re university admissions to be intolerant, then so be it. I don’t.

    Just a thought.

  126. Michael
    Posted January 23, 2010 at 5:57 am | Permalink

    Thanks Clarity for your clarification. The following info further supports your comments on international students:

    http://www.fecca.org.au/Speeches/2008/speeches_2008003.pdf http://www.dfat.gov.au/aib/tourism_students.html

    Like America, Australia welcomes international students because as Messimeri (2008) observes, they “represent a significant boost to our local economy and add weight to Australia’s claims to be a knowledge nation with a thriving and internationally competitive university sector.” In 2008 Australia received $12.5 billion.

    In my MBA classes at James Cook Uni, in some courses, half the class is made up of Indian students, while less than half are locals. But overall, our classes consist of students from India, Hong Kong, China, Thailand, Nepal, Zambia, PNG, and the US. Most of these students (Indians especially) go back home to run their parents’ businesses. Only a handful is employed in Australia upon completion of their degrees because they are what Australian employers wanted.

    In regards to money talk, when it comes to running a country and sustaining a nation, money is important. Our nation needs foreign students’ money. We need money irrespective of the economic cycle. That money employs lecturers and pays the bills. It helps universities to “stay afloat” as Clarity correctly stated. It is also used for expanding universities so that they can accommodate more local and international students. It is a Win-Win transaction here. So this should be viewed as a good thing. This is government policy. A policy which is supported by Australians, and I believe it is the same for the US otherwise it would not have received that $14.5 billion. Have any Australians been left out of Universities because of these overseas students? I believe not. If they made the score they would get admitted, if not, they wouldn’t apply in the first place. However, if they get rejected after being eligible for admission, then there would be a public outcry. I have not seen this happened in Australia. I presume the same for America.

    Getting back to love, it is also about the Win-Win. Asian women have what White men desire and vice versa. They complete each other, irrespective of race or creed. As long as their vision, mission, goals, purpose and beliefs are common and shared, they will continue to bond in love. Love ignores, tolerates and accepts a multitude of things. Hate magnifies little things - it majors in minors. It causes the individual to become myopic. Hate causes you to misconstrue people’s deeds and actions.

    Also, Clarity is right about color imitation. The popularity of solariums for achieving a tan is rising even though there is a high risk of skin cancer involved. Intermarriage (between dark and white skinned people) is the only safe way to obtain some of that healthy, golden-brown complexion for the future generations. My beautiful Cambodian wife, 39, has that golden-brown complexion. Being the only Asian girl in an office building full of Caucasians, she stood out. Nearly all of her male colleagues pursued her. Some men bumped into parked cars when they saw her walking nearby. There were invitations to have an affair, to marry, to date etc. She was pursued by younger and older colleagues for the whole time that she worked there despite knowing that she is married with four kids. They loved her so much, one of them even cried for her. All that attention disturbed me greatly. At one stage I cried my eye balls out as I thought she must have succumbed to the temptations. She is now safe at home. We celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary a couple of weeks ago.

  127. VS
    Posted January 23, 2010 at 9:58 am | Permalink

    Asian women don’t prefer white men. I can prove that because the vast majority of asian women are still with asian men. Unless you can show me 50.1% of all asian men dating white guys over asian guys. I’ll admit I was wrong. But good luck trying to find that out.

    Which makes this article and this writer full of fail. For every asian girl around me, there are at least 9 that won’t date outside their race.

    A wide paintbrush is wide…

  128. VS
    Posted January 23, 2010 at 10:52 am | Permalink

    This isn’t rocket science, folks. The “dominant culture” at the moment is western. When I say dominant, it’s the preception or actual power that’s manifested through institutions that projects itself out to the greater global population.

    People who argue that white guys are so much better than x guys because of their superior genetic makeup is full of shit. If there were a set of genes that dictated a standardized notion of beauty amongst an average human population, we would all have been selected through generations of breeding to look the same. That fact that there is a noticeable divide in esthetics simply proves my point.

    Women tend to be attracted to power and not looks as a primary factor in mate selection. In the current system in which wealth and the acquistion of property equates to said power, “whites” are the dominant player. There is just simply more wealth in the west than anywhere else.

    Allow me to prove my point. If you were to go to Brazil today, and from talking to many of the locals, you’d discover that Asian males are considered to be the most highly sought after than any other. Their asian population has historically been Japanese merchants (predominantly men) who have been doing business and living there for the last couple hundred years. They thrived there and developed a “dominant” image for themselves.

    We all know that Brazil is an extremely diverse population with many people who claim African, European and Native heritage. So, no, it’s not just a select group involved in this phemonenon. This could also be illustrated in many other South American, European and Eurasian countries.

    Having said all this, I think you’re seeing a shift in that dominance going towards the east. We’re on the cusp and it’s well within our life time. It only took the British a bit more than a decade after World War II to fall off their pedestal. It took the Soviet Union about 6 years. I think you’re going to see something inbetween with the United States.

    Lastly, I’d like to say that if Harvard is producing drivel of this caliber, than God help us all. You proved absolutely nothing and your arguements were weak from the get-go.

  129. Let there be love.
    Posted January 23, 2010 at 11:06 pm | Permalink

    VS is absolutely right. I agree with EVERY point you’ve contributed here.

    I especially support your second last paragraph about the shifting of dominance to the east.

  130. CursedVirgoMale
    Posted January 24, 2010 at 2:08 am | Permalink

    VS your theory fails because one simple fact - African women are attracted to African males (or black).
    I’ve heard the opposite, euro guys are most sought after in Brazil.

    PS. I’m an euro guy (from the new, poor part) with a Japanese girlfriend, how do I fit into your theory?

  131. venganza
    Posted January 24, 2010 at 3:47 am | Permalink

    Clarity :

    Since you keep mentioning the subject of skin and beautiful skin colour, etc. etc. I shall take the liberty of mentioning it myself (although I normally don’t talk about that sort of thing). I happen to have an olive, mediterranean type of complexion which tans very easily and also receive complements about it.

    But I normally don’t go around boasting about it. Not on blogs or elsewhere. I brought up this subject because you mentioned your own complexion several times.

    Oh - forgot to mention something. My roommate and sister-in-law are both asian. One is from Japan, and the other is from India. Don’t see much intolerance there.

    Re the UCLA and other university admissions subject. Sorry, I still stand by what I originally said. In my opinion, when more than half of a student body is asian (pre-dominantly south-east asian), then there’s something wrong with that picture. A true and more fair make up of a diverse student body would have more people from other countries too, rather that having such a huge majority from one particular area. Even putting the whole visa thing aside, our universities would deserve a more diverse make-up, surely.

    But like I stated previously and I state again. Money talks, and higher fees being paid talk too - ugly, yes, but nevertheless true, pretty or not.

    Another thought.

  132. Clarity
    Posted January 24, 2010 at 8:20 am | Permalink

    Michael, great post. Also interesting about Australia and their welcoming approach to international students. I believe that developed countries have an understanding that the world is a better place when its people are educated. It’s also refreshing to see people do have a more expansive perspective on attraction, relationships and love rather than debasing it to exoticism and greed.

    FYI - we’re not talking about why the world is the is attracted to whom they date/love/marry. The discussion was about Asian/White couples. As such, healthy loving relationships in this category have everything to do with differences as it does similarities. Or, so I’ve realized.

    I was looking for some viewpoints on this subject because I would hate to fit into a fetishized role and my bf does have a mild “preference” and previous bf’s didn’t. Certain commenters have helped me see more clearly on the subject. So, thank you.

  133. Truth
    Posted January 24, 2010 at 5:21 pm | Permalink

    Most normal white men prefer White women. It is the abnormal loserish White men who are forced to pursue Asian women because they can’t get women of their own race.

  134. Believe
    Posted January 24, 2010 at 5:25 pm | Permalink

    This Chris Yeh has some serious self-hatred issues. Come on now, there are many Asian men that are much more attractive than White men. No race is more attractive than another. Attraction is based on conditioning from the media and what you see. Years ago Black men like Michael Jordan were not considered attractive until they staretd appearing in the media. Chris, I suggest you see a psychiatrist to help with your insecurity issues.

  135. Pleski
    Posted January 31, 2010 at 2:06 am | Permalink

    I’d venture to say that Asian women seem more attractive than Asian men because of the lack of sexual dimorphism in Asian races, ie the men appear more feminine than other races. Many people seem to agree (sometimes begrudgingly) that Asian transexuals (boy to girl) are far more attractive than Caucasian ones, and Asian transexuals are even more attractive than Asian women. The smaller chin, the softer, hairless skin, the fine features etc.

    This would be one reason why Asian women are considered more aesthetically pleasing than men. This however, is a reflection present cultural attitudes towards the masculine and feminine (which is more machoistic towards men than it was in other centuries).

  136. oh
    Posted February 1, 2010 at 6:31 am | Permalink

    From what i’ve been reading on these posts, people are pointing out about physical qualities about asians. Well, there are preferences that people have, but I think most people would be attracted to any race if they find that person to be interesting. My feeling is that most non asian women who like asian men have some asian influence like being familiar with an adopted asian relative because you grew up with them, martial arts like you mentioned, grew up with an asian classmate, or just like the asian culture they visited etc.

    I agree with you when it comes to white men and asian women couples, american society says it’s ok for this relationship, however, it’s not ok if it’s reversed, it doesn’t seem fair…even online dating isn’t fair either unless if you’re on of those racial preference only sites but that would be kind of ignorant.

  137. Jay
    Posted February 1, 2010 at 6:02 pm | Permalink

    I took a class at UC Berkeley (asian American history 20).

    In one class, the professor made an analysis of Western media and sociologic impacts.

    If you examine who are the heroes, the sexy, the desirable MEN in movies , tv and print ads?

    WHITE MEN (rambo was the example)
    Secondarily BLACK MEN (denzel, snipes)

    Who are the desirable WOMEN?
    WHITE WOMEN
    secondarily LATIN (but still light skinned, as strong willed , fiery)
    third ASIAN women (as exotic dragon ladies or women in distress)

    Examples of Asian women were the light skinned helpless vietnamese woman in Rambo III. She was strong willed and independent taking care of her family and fighting off japanese soldiers advances until RAMBO shows up and she become submissive and helpless. The alternative is the DRAGON LADY/SEX OBJECT like the woman in Volunteers (movie with Tom Hanks) in the tight fitting QiPao and slit in the dress up to the waist…

    In the end, if you are a MAN (white black, yellow, purple…) you are conditioned to envy White men or pursue White Women, Latin, and Asian (in that order)

    If you are WOMAN, you want a WHITE MAN and a BLACK Man in that order

    ASian men were portrayed as sidekicks (even bruce lee in the green hornet was a comedic side kick), or COMEDIC actors long duc dong (sixteeen candles), any Jackie Chan character of late . Jet Li is likely the exception but has not been known as a sex symbol, only a kung fu star… (more of an Asian guy for the GUYS)

    With the east opening up… Asian women I met in China/HK over the last few decades want that Western life … but there are many who don’t… you can see that those who do, prefer white men, the ones they see in the media. Those that dont… well they marry Chinese men…

  138. Wow...
    Posted February 3, 2010 at 12:27 pm | Permalink

    Almost everyone in here is completely nuts…

  139. Paul
    Posted February 4, 2010 at 7:38 pm | Permalink

    If you don’t value your own race and culture imagine if other people would value your race and culture?
    Did you ever think about if your future child would prefer a clear asian identity? Will the child feel the lack of identity being “mixed”?
    Your race is asian, honor your race by keeping your race and culture alive.
    It’s every asians resposibility, do your part, choose only asian partners.
    Please meditate and think about it young lady!

  140. Paul
    Posted February 4, 2010 at 7:43 pm | Permalink

    Please everybody respect their own race, let’s make the world more natural!!!

  141. jpoif
    Posted February 6, 2010 at 3:40 am | Permalink

    Asian men CAN only date Asian women.

  142. TJ
    Posted February 9, 2010 at 11:57 am | Permalink

    Hey Chris, why didn’t you phrase the your question in 3 parts: (1) your original premise; (2) change it to first guy being white and second guy being asian; and (3) both guys equal except for ethnicity. Where you afraid that regardless of neurons, the white guy would still be the one of choice? As for Chan/Li, Chan’s a buffoon who’s rich by satying stay within racial stereotypes and has done nothing to enhance asian mens’ good qualities. Li has tried to do more, but hsan’t succeeded probably due to Chan’s overriding antics.

  143. connie
    Posted February 14, 2010 at 9:07 pm | Permalink

    I am a white woman and I am happy that so many white men prefer asian women. I don’t want them anyway- I much prefer asian men to white men so this gives me more good available men. Asian men are usually raised with very good manners and know how to treat a lady. I think that many of these white men are in search of some type of sterotype that isn’t really true. Most asian women I know are not docile- maybe the ones straight from Thailand or somewhere with limited financial opportunities but this would be true of any race.

  144. Friend of Clarity
    Posted February 15, 2010 at 4:33 pm | Permalink

    To Venganza:

    It’s so disturbing to have read so many negative things about Chinese people especially during Chinese New Year!

    Perhaps you don’t notice, but your comments are really racist and full of disgust towards Asian women especially the Chinese “dime-a-dozen” and who “latch on other women’s’ boyfriends and husbands”.

    When some guys praised about Asian women, you immediately stated that Asian women are really no different from other women. But you on the other hand hold so much grudge against Asian women and keep saying how much we go out with old men for money and we control our men blah blah. Anyone who has a brain would think that you probably had been stabbed by an Asian or your boyfriend/husband was latched on by one. Listen up, Asian women are really just like any other women. We come in different shapes or sizes, nice or mean, educated or illiterate. There are probably just about as many “dime-a-dozen” in Asian as in other cultures. Evolutionary speaking, women are attracted to power and financial success, perhaps including you, Miss Venganza. Women can be independent and it is natural to have standards choosing mates. Nobody wants to date someone who cannot even afford dinner or simply who is cheap. It is obvious that you fancy Japanese and Indian and my guess is that because one is your roommate and another one is your sister-in-law, which means they are who you personally are close to. Chinese is such a big population by which its people, of course, come with different personalities. The way you generalize Chinese women is like some jerk comes out and makes a statement like, “all women are whores”, which is completely nonsense and stupid. Mind you, if you ever have a Chinese roommate and you finally get to learn the culture and love it, you might then have an utterly different attitude about Chinese people and will you then come back to this thread to praise her? Had your tone of voice not been so spiteful, there wouldn’t be these many of us having to come out and comment to you.

    For your information,
    Indian, Pakistani = South Asian

    Japanese, Chinese, Korean = East Asian

    A lot of Asian women are NOT attracted to White males and will never consider dating one, with some exceptions like Brad Pitt, David Beckham who are like 1 in a million.

    Asian women perhaps are open to date older men, not just older White men.

    For the past, most people like to have a lighter skin but this is changing. Like Clarity states above, lots of people are getting tanned. In the old days, lighter skin signified wealth because only the people who didn’t have to work would have light skin. Like you said, money talks, it symbolizes power. Now the trend is the opposite.: tanned skin means you don’t have to work, like Paris Hilton who has so much free time to get a tan. Lighter skin, on the other hand, means you have to stay at the office and don’t get to see the sun. The world is always changing but liking lighter skin doesn’t necessarily mean liking to be White. Lighter African American is also more desirable than its deep dark counterpart. Though it doesn’t mean the lighter ones are trying to be White–NO WAY.

    If you know anything about Chinese culture, it is a collectivist culture which family value is strongly emphasized. We seek for harmony, help out each other and those in need, and are very close to our family. Morality is what we praise and are proud of. Read up more, and you’ll be amazed.

    I do see mostly Caucasian women come out to give nasty comments on Asian women, but how often doyou see the otherwise??? Show some class, women! How well do you know about Asian if you are not one and you have attitudes toward one? And you had to agree with FunnyAsians when his post puts Asian down and he calls us whores. How and where did you come up with that conclusion and to that agreement???

    Overall, it’s what you have inside that count, not something as shallow as race, age, or Chinese dime-a-dozen. Yes I am very offended. If you open your mind, you will see much more.

    At the end, wish everyone a happy Chinese New Year! Wish you lots of love and happiness.

  145. Venganza
    Posted February 16, 2010 at 1:16 am | Permalink

    Friend of clarity:

    No. My back hasn’t been stabbed - not by an asian person, or anybody else. My boyfriend doesn’t even live here. He’s overseas!

    Sorry, but I don’t take back anything I’ve previously said. And it’s not just me. Most everybody I know has been hurt in some way by asian women latching on to their boyfriends - or in some cases, to their husbands (even fathers with children). Is this just a coincidence that these women all happened to be asian?

    These are facts, not just something I’m making up. Shame on the men too for falling for this ploy.

    And yes, sure there are good and bad in all races (goes without saying). Just somehow, one just doesn’t seem to hear about non-asian women latching onto asian womens’ boyfriends or husbands. Of if they do, then they’re at a minimum.

    Supposing the reverse were to happen, and hoards of non-asian women (and men), were to immigrate to asian countries, fill their universities, and latch on to the men and women. I wonder how the native asian populations in those countries would react to that? Food for thought.

  146. Chinese
    Posted February 20, 2010 at 11:32 am | Permalink

    I knew many women like to date with white guys mainly because they think white men are handsome. But in our country, we don’t appreciate that kind of girls. White male should aware of that usually a charming (to Chinese Men), tame girl won’t go out with you that easily. Some Asian men are laughing at white men because they could always accept dating with ugly Asian women( who are not attracted to them).

  147. artchik
    Posted February 24, 2010 at 8:58 am | Permalink

    I’m an Asian female and I’m attracted to white men. I think part of my attraction is founded by the western standard of beauty: blonde, blue, and tall. Perhaps if media and culture were not dictated by western influence, I wouldn’t be attracted to white men, but I it does, and I am.

    Although physical attraction is important, relational connectivity is also equally important, if not more important than exterior preferences. I don’t think it’s impossible for me to fall for a guy that isn’t white, it would just be very hard because ‘blonde, and blue’ pulls me like a moth to flame. That being said, I would not settle for just any guy that fits the bill. I’m not fishing for just a model-number-five-carbon-copy of the average American boy. What I’m saying is.. WHAT’S INSIDE IS more important than what is outside, particuarly what’s between the ears. That’s what attracts me the most: a robust wit and humor.

    So, in the end I could see myself going out with any guy irrespective of race, so long as they are generally respectful, kind, humble, and intellectually capable. But, my kryptonite still remains white guys! The only way to bypass my preference for white guys is to stop me in my tracks with your beautiful mind :) There’s something really irresistable about a shy, ‘dorky,’ intelligent guy=)

    P.S, I took offense at the a fellow critic labeling asians as being flat up top, with no butts.. I’m a 34D, 26 waist and 36 hip! We’re not all twigs!

  148. Notanmba
    Posted February 25, 2010 at 9:09 am | Permalink

    What would be the proper term for describing an asian that does not include south asia or west asia?

    So how do you describe an asian that is east/southeast asian (i.e. ‘mongoloid’)? There has to be some terminology right? Is mongoloid the best one oute there? It seems a little weird to say “mongoloid”… Whats acceptable?

    Just curious.

  149. Limy
    Posted February 28, 2010 at 8:14 am | Permalink

    I married a beautiful Chinese woman 15 years ago, and we are still married and very much in love today. I never went looking for an Asian woman, or meeting was pure accidental. I had admired some of the Asian women who are very beautiful, but so are some woman from every race and I have admired them as well. A beautiful woman is like a great piece of art and should be admired Ive always thought. Though since I married I have had no need or reason to admire anyone else, nor could I even imagine doing so. One reason is because i dont want to. Another is because contrary to popular belief, Asian woman will knock the crap out of you if you do. They can be very dominating at times, and not in the fun way you might be thinking of, although some of that can happen at times too, but I digress. Call it a fetish, call it whatever you want, but I adore my wife, and I always have and always will. And she has blessed me with 3 of the most adorable children in the world, a mix of her Chinese, and my Euro/American Caucasian. The older they get they more their looks get them in trouble too. Our boy, the oldest is now being sought after by many girls or all races for his looks and athletic pose. The 2 younger girls are always getting comments from people on just how adorable they are. I dread the coming years when they want to really start dating, and the wolves that will be knocking at our door( and me with my 45 in my iwb holster to answer the door)
    Point is, it doesnt matter who your idea dream woman is, or was, you end up with your perfect mate no matter what you think you want. And maybe if you get what you think you want, you just might regret it. I originally always had what you call a fetish for red heads, and I ended up with the farthest thing from a red head, and have been happy ever since. About the only thing I would have to say is not a great thing about marrying an Asian, is that you marry the whole family. And that includes having to support many of them as well. For the rest of yours and their lives. Its considered normal in most Asian cultures. Just think of that while your chasing your Asian dream girl. You might get the girl, but your sending money to her parents, siblings, and even cousins , for eternity.

  150. Limy
    Posted February 28, 2010 at 8:25 am | Permalink

    I forgot I wanted to comment on the Harvard MBA thing. Ive attended some of the Harvard business seminars over the years, and have met more than a few of the university graduates. I have to say that most Ive met even admit there parents paid for the education, but they didnt actually learn anything. Just having the parchment with Harvard on it gets them into some of the most prestigious doors in the world, and even some of the best jobs around. It still doesnt mean they know their arses from a hole in the ground. After all , think about who is most prevalent on Wall street, and in congress. Its Harvard, and other Ivy league graduates. Look at the bang up job they have been doing. Corruption, Fraud, Crimes you would not believe. And Just remember, GW Bush was the first Harvard MBA President. That worked out well didnt it? Just because the education cost more than most could ever pay doesnt mean its worth a plug nickle. This article kind of re-enforces that too.

  151. AttractiveAsian
    Posted March 13, 2010 at 7:40 am | Permalink

    Are you ready for the truth? ‘Cause I’m gonna give it to you.

    One of the reasons Asian women prefer white men, is because of the opportunity it offers in creating beautiful-looking, light-skinned children.

    In most Asian countries, dark skin is associated with poorer people who often work hard labor in fields. Light skin signifies, quite literally, a sheltered life out of the sun. It is associated with a class of people who are free to spend time indoors, and most importantly, in classrooms.

  152. happy
    Posted March 14, 2010 at 3:44 am | Permalink

    A few Asian women prefer white guys. Most don’t. Even less prefer blacks (for a good reason).

    Having said that, understand that Asian-white relationships are a natural progression….a good coupling. White women, from my observations, are beginning to figure this out although certainly not to the level that Asian women have.

    My wife is American of Korean descent. Wed have two daughters…and they are absolutely adorable. My wife is an extraordinary mother who does it right. I am awed by her.

    When I first laid eyes on here…the physical attraction to her beauty was immediate and intense. But that was then and I have concluded that as beautiful physically she is, her intelligence, class, and grace are the MOST beautiful aspects of her. She defines me and makes me a better person.

  153. kulyia
    Posted March 14, 2010 at 7:29 pm | Permalink

    i prefer white guys because their more Mature and relaxed. They tend to be more risky too which is nice, plus their very handsome and they know how to wear it. And they dont expect you to do every little sh*t. lol

  154. Venganza
    Posted March 16, 2010 at 5:59 am | Permalink

    Re: asian/caucasian marriage producing ”beautiful light-skinned children”.

    Actually, if you look carefully you’ll notice that generally speaking most of these asian/caucasian unions produce children with children resembling the ”asian” partner more so than the ”caucasian” partner. Why? Because the ”asian” partner has the more dominant gene, so offspring generally have much more prominent asian features and skin tone than the caucasian parent.

  155. g454
    Posted March 21, 2010 at 9:33 am | Permalink

    this topic is racist one and ugly one

  156. Danny
    Posted March 22, 2010 at 12:24 pm | Permalink

    Hi. I’ve thought about this, and come to the conclusion that I’ve thought way too much about this…

    Now if you’re an obnoxious white guy, feel free to take the pee, since over the years, I’ve developed the uncanny ability to drown it out, and for the majority of you peetakers, I’ve had fun with way more women (yes EVEN ‘your’ stereotypical white ones) than you could ever dream of having in your entire lifetime.

    If you’re asian and angry, please stop posting. It almost sickens me to think that every time I meet another fellow asian male, they persist in drumming into their head that they can’t hook up with anyone but asian girls. ‘Whine whine whine’ - no wonder they don’t like you! That’s why personally, I choose carefully which asians I associate with.

    Anywho, money is awesome. When you make a packet, the world’s your oyster. And funnily enough, all the women seem to notice!

    P.S. I’m fully aware of all the ‘highly intelligent’ responses I’m due to receive. Most probably laden with some form of ulterior motive as per usual. Well, intelligence for all the Christians out there is linked to evil motives in general, but I happen to like apples. Oh well, just to say I won’t be back here, the world in general is a little twisted, and at least I’m having fun!

    Sayonara xx

  157. Jeebus
    Posted March 24, 2010 at 6:06 pm | Permalink

    I’ve seen ugly Asian American girls get white guys out of their league. I on the other hand went abroad and eventually married a gorgeous mainland Chinese girl instead of fighting over the slim pickins back home.

    And about white girls, all I can think of when describing white girls is “raunchy”. They like to put on an act to look innocent when they see Mr. Right even though they have a long history of banging random guys.

    Of course, one day Asian girls will follow suit and probably be seen drunk in clubs, having random sex, and popping out little half-black babies naming them CashMoney or something like that. When that day comes, white girls will be the ideal brides again.

  158. Joe Brown
    Posted March 25, 2010 at 7:21 am | Permalink

    I know lots of White guys that don’t like Asian women. I live in a city which has many of them and when you are surrounded by them, they lose their exotic appeal. They become as common as telephone poles! I think this constant beating of the “Why do Asian girls dig White guys?” drum has gone on too long and has got to the point where it is getting nauseating.

  159. Letashia Jackson
    Posted March 25, 2010 at 7:30 am | Permalink

    I am a Black woman and only date Asian men. The main complaint about them is that they are so short in height and small down there! They more than make up for that with the amount of money they have and they like to spend it on me! An Asian man having sex with a Black woman is like me sticking my pinky into a major league standard size baseball glove! I don’t even know when they are in! Asian guys do have the money and nice cars and that’s what really makes the world go round. Right!

  160. my 2 cents
    Posted March 28, 2010 at 7:57 am | Permalink

    I feel sorry for the asian female from above posts that only want to date white men.

    Do you know that he will soon weight 500 lbs. and his penis will shrink down to a needle size?

    Or, he will dump your ass when a nice looking blonde girl come around.

    either way you lose. Don’t say that I didn’t warn you. Just looking out for you.

  161. just passing by
    Posted March 28, 2010 at 8:20 pm | Permalink

    first off, many white guys are homo that fasinated in asian penis. They are on the look out for asian penis in porn or in the rest room. You will never hear asian guy mention about other race penis because asian men don’t care about other man penis.

    Secondly, asian women love money more than anything. You see them all in nice car and wearing brand name products all the time. These asian women see white guy as cash cow so they only want to get their hand on the white guy’s money. Do you really think asisan women are thinking about your penis? All asian women see white guy is cash whore. If asian girl like big penis then she would go after black guy, but you never see asian girl with black guy, right?

  162. Kora B.
    Posted March 28, 2010 at 9:36 pm | Permalink

    Asian Girls are easy, they have no standards, they will be with any gross white guy. I’m glad–they are taking one for the team. I also have to mention, a scrubby loser white guy could get with and Asian girl because that’s the only vagina that would deal with it. A white woman would not deal with a broke loser like that–Oh! and the Asian fetish and the White worship thing go hand in hand as well. Cheers!

  163. Ann
    Posted March 30, 2010 at 7:41 am | Permalink

    I’m a black woman who dates only white men. Has nothing to do with a fetish, I’m just around them more and they approach me more than other men. A good advice for Asian women, stay away from fetish type men. Find a man that truly loves you. I’ve had my encounters with white men with “junger fever”. They only wanted sex, nothing more.

  164. Karl
    Posted March 31, 2010 at 5:56 am | Permalink

    Admit it: asian guys r not attractive…

  165. liz
    Posted April 7, 2010 at 3:11 pm | Permalink

    Ok. I got bored with the continued “asian fetish” comments half way in.

    Lets face it. People are either initally attracted to particular features physcially or they aren’t.

    I am a short, Chinese American female. I have a natural set of 34D’s (thank you mom for great genetics) with a rounded backside and abs that I got from working out at the gym and watching what I eat. My mother is 13% bodyfat, with a nice natural rack, and she is a retired USAF officer. My father is a programmer.

    Go ahead and look at her mom to figure out what she will look like in the future. lol. That saying is universal. It applies to everyone’s mom. lol. Look at a few of my ex’s mothers and you’d probably shudder. They look 10yrs older than they actally are. They let themselves go, have a lot of sun damage, and are 3 times the size they were when they first started dating. They got confused when the marriage vows said, “Through thick and through thin”. Marriage is a lot of work, both sides have to want it. If one stops caring, it starts showing, the other will eventually lose interest, and move on.

    I happen to love my consistently smooth, toned (I am complimented frequently on my “natural tan”), non-stretch marked, and mostly hairless body. I love my long, thick, wavy black locks. Yes, I said wavy. My hair has a slight wave in it.

    My 6′3 250 pound German fiance also loves my body. lol. We went to medical school together, our family backgrounds are similar (serving in the US military, belief structure, and both are matriarchal), and we have a lot in common (hobbies, interests, etc).

    I think with the May-December couples, it can vary. Financial motivation, or some other reason, perhaps because they just “click”. I know a nurse and therapist in our ER who got married. The nurse is 22, and the therapist is 45. So, it’s not always the “pretty young thang lookin for a sugga daddy”. lol.

  166. jane
    Posted April 9, 2010 at 5:01 pm | Permalink

    I am a Chinese gal who was brought up in South East Asia, married to a Chinese guy from North America and currently living in North America. I grew up in a 100% Chinese Asian culture. Do I prefer white man? No. Green/blue eyes turns me off. Totally. I like guys with brown/black eyes and black/dark brown hair. So really its not a matter of what race you are or how much money someone has, its personal preference. It really is what you like.

    I also think the Eastern and Western culture are at the complete opposite ends of the other so it really depends on what path a person would take when it comes to choosing a wife. Its ALL personal preference.

  167. duke
    Posted April 16, 2010 at 4:11 am | Permalink

    vengaza is a tired, wrinkly, fat, old white woman who hen-pecked her hubby until he rightfully saw the light and started chasing asian tail. so now, rather than look at her nasty, angry self and do a little self improvement, she got bitter. that’s much easier than self-improvement anyway.

    white women, be warned: white men are tired of your nagging, uppity BS, of your wanting the benefits of equality and then not fullfilling your end of the bargain and of your turning into HUGE, fat wildebeasts 2 years into the marriage, then divorcing them and taking all the money.

    that’s why i married a nice korean girl. she slobs my knob every night and serves me dinner. i work every day and she keeps her end of the bargain.

    i don’t even give white women a second glance unless it is to imagine the cows they will resemble in 5 years.

  168. venganza
    Posted April 17, 2010 at 2:56 am | Permalink

    Sorry to disappoint you ”dukeeeeee” - or whatever you call yourself. I’m not even white. I’m semitic (and proud of it). I’m 31, tall, olive complexioned and complex free.

    I’ll tell you one thing though. I’ve been looking at the middle-aged asian ladies and if you like short, wizened and shrivelled up old bats, there’s plenty of them!

    If you don’t like white women then that’s ok too. They probably don’t like you, either. So then you’re both quits!

  169. Seliny19
    Posted April 20, 2010 at 8:15 pm | Permalink

    Ahhh, and the failure of the human species and reasons to annhilate humans as a whole is now very blalantly obvious. It’s 2010. And people are STILL stuck on skin color. How amusing. How people STILL cannot get over dying shedding skin cells is very sad. Apparently to some people their largest organ which is infested with trillions of dustmites that slowly devour the dying skin cells is so important to them they freakishly obsess over it in unhealthy amounts.

    This article and many others like it also prove that a good majority of people are extremely shallow and ignorant. Notice how nearly every single comment and post save two of them. Discuss about physical qualities and triats. I find it hilarious that NO ONE has mentioned anything about PERSONALITY. You know that extremely underrated thing that people have that attracts people. Whether they be friends or partners.

    Apparently personality and the beauty of a person on the inside has become so useless to people now that the only things that matters is looks. Sooner or later we wil all age, get wrinkly, and DIE. Looks are NOTHING. You can be the most beautiful man or woman in the world. But if you don’t even know what 6 x 4 is. Then…. You’re not going to be useful.

    It’s sad that most people only care about physical aspects in a partner. And not about how they are as a person or how intelligent they are. And THIS is why there are so many unhappy scorned people around the world. Because way too many people focus on physical assests and then realize they made a mistake because all they were searching for was shallow beauty and NOT aiming for what truly makes a person. Their personality and who they are.

    Stuff like that - stuff that makes us HUMAN WHO WE ARE doesn’t matter anymore. Only skin color and how big your boobs, ass, or penis. Is what’s important now. Just think about it. Think about how PATHETIC that sounds in your head. How ridiculously mundane and disheartning is seems. Does LOVE matter anymore? Of course it doesn’t. People are too shallow. Love is cheesy and overrated. All people want now is a quick fix and some quick ass. Then they whine about how they can never find a “good person” who they can love. Because they THEMSELVES screw themsleves over by not SEARCHING for love in the first place.

    Personally. I don’t give a RAT’S ASS about who dates who or who falls in love with who. What does it have to do with me? Do I know those random people I see walking down the street? Do I know their life stories? Can I read their minds? No. I can’t. So why should I judge them? What business of mine is it to judge some random ass person just because they’re dating out of their race? So what? So some person I saw walking down the street, in a cafe, or a library fell in love with someone and now they’re dating.

    What should I care what they do? Should I SCREAM at them and be ignorant and tell them to go jump off a cliff because they can’t love each other because they made different personal choices that won’t and will never effect me? Should I care about what their skin pigmentation is? Do dying skin cells matter that much in life? Will someone else’s dying skin cells help pay your bills? Buy you a car? Help you fix your sink? Find a couch for your living room? Decide what to make for dinner when all you have is ramen and ketchup? No.

    People who obsess over nonsensical things are forgetting that what they are obsessing over are… NONSENSICAL THINGS THAT DO NO MATTER IN LIFE. And when you obsess over nonsensical things it truly does show the mentality, worth, and complete uselessness of a person. What point is there to argue over something completely stupid that will never effect your life?

    People who whine and complain and discuss things like interracial relationships, homosexuality, religion etc. Things that will truly never have a big impact on your life. What will you gain from it?

    Will pushing someone down on the internet of all places just to boost your own self ego and self esteem make you feel better inside? The sheer amount of ignorance and racism spewing from so many people just because some people want to date another person is appalling.

    Who cares if someone else has a weird fetish? Or if they’re ugly? Is there truly a concept of ugliness or beauty? No. EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL in their own unique way. Even if you are a flmaing racist who has superiority issues because you think your dying skin cells are better then another person’s. You too are beautiful. Arguing pointlessly over which human being is better then the other is stupid. There is NOTHING to brag about in skin color OR looks. Both will fade away sooner or later. It make more sense to brag about how many degress you have or being the first person to build a submarine that can explore the very deepest depths of the ocean floor. Discovering a new type of species. Saving someone’s life. Or curing AIDS. Something that you have ACCOMPLISHED in your life that you can be proud of and admirable. THOSE ARE THINGS TO BRAG ABOUT.

    Not your aging soon to be dead body or what your skin color is. Those are completely irrelevant things in life.

  170. Posted April 26, 2010 at 7:09 am | Permalink

    Complete nonsense. Economist Ray Fisman published a study in 2007 that shows women are the gatekeepers for interracial relationships.

    Most women have a revealed preference for men of their own racial group, the one major exception being asian women, who discriminate against black or hispanic men, but not white men. Since white men are far more prevalent than asian men in the general population, and that probably still holds in asian women’s social circles, they tend to hook up with them more often.

  171. Harry
    Posted April 26, 2010 at 4:31 pm | Permalink

    I married a Chinese woman but I disagree that white guys prefer asian women over white women. I think the truth is that we hold them about equal. We just like to brag or obsess about the partner we picked. It’s a typical, selfish human behavior.

    And, damnit, we’re not all fat and bald white guys. I’m not anyways even though I think it’s stupid to poke fun at fat and bald guys because they could have a lot going for them.

  172. tommye
    Posted May 2, 2010 at 8:36 pm | Permalink

    “Moreover, black men are, on average, more masculine than white men”

    By what definition? A large portion of Black men are criminal-prone, have little desire to hold a job, and think violence and shouting is ‘manly.’ Any slight of their ‘manhood’ is met with physical confrontation. These same people can’t pay their bills or hold a job but that’s manly? lol.

  173. Tom
    Posted May 7, 2010 at 5:01 pm | Permalink

    This phenomenon is very simple:(1) White worship & self-loathing, (2) Various Asian cultures are still ingrained with Confucian values which obsess over prestige, status, hierarchy, and brands. Look at how many Asians are obsessed with what college their kids get into, what car/clothing brands they buy, or starving for months to save up for overpriced handbags. It’s no surprise why the most avid consumers of Euro fashion products are actually Asians, not Europeans. Same goes for diamonds or gold, shiny symbols of status and prestige, the biggest consumers of overpriced jewelry are Asians.

    This directly plays into dating too, Asian people in Asia & America are brainwashed by media which globally is very Western/Caucasian-centric. In Asia the commercials, malls, ads, and movie theaters glorify Caucasian faces the vast majority of the time. It’s no surprise why eyelid and nose ridge surgery, to emulate Caucasian looks, are the #1 surgery in Asia.

    Think about how lucrative/effective the multi-billion dollar advertising industry is. Then think about how effective product placement is on TV or movies. Entertainment is just as effective in ‘branding’ various males, just like product placement. Western media repeatedly ‘brands’ White males as the best, while simultaneously marginalizing Asian males or giving them outright racist or demeaning roles. Asian women (and other women) internalize this about White & Asian men. Many prestige-obsessed Asian women thus see dating White males (even extremely low quality ones) as a weird status trophy. Some (like Michelle Malkin) go so far as to say self-racist things, or denigrate their own people, for approval from certain supremacist Whites. The Uncle Tom behavior is despicable.

    White worship, self-loathing, obsession for status/prestige, & media-brainwashing help explain why you see so many Asian women in Asia, and in America, with low quality White males who anyone can see on any city sidewalk represent the bottom of the barrel, a combination of fat/old/ugly/bald, or extremely weird/awkward White males who oftentimes simultaneously harbor closet racist views toward Asian cultures & Asian males, while also having extremely negative, bitter (and sexist) views toward White women.
    —–
    Also, the sexist stereotype is so false. Asian cultures aren’t hindered by Christian/Jewish religions like White males are, which state that women were to blame in Genesis, that they are 2nd class should serve/obey men, and belong only in the kitchen. In 1950’s America men controlled the money and only gave wives small allowances and limited opportunities. This is completely different from “traditional” Asian philosophies. In Confucian cultures women run the families, which includes control of all the money. This is why in East Asia the commercials, TV, & movies are so cutesy/pink/feminine – women are the dominant consumers in Asia, as opposed to America which is male-dominated and has media that caters to men with constant violence/sex/casual relationships. In major East Asian cities (like in China), the husbands do most of the cooking, house cleaning, & child rearing (think about dating supply and demand). East Asian women never change their maiden names in Asia after marriage, in America women need to change their names/identities after marriage. Kids in America generally need their father’s approval for who they marry, in Asia it’s the opposite. China has a higher % of women in politics, compared to the % of female US Congresswomen or US Senators. China has 7 female billionaires, which already make up half the world’s female billionaires, even though China is still poor and their economy is only 1/5 that of America.

    You can only hide the truth for so long – people are beginning to realize that Western media, especially as it pertains to Asian men, is extremely racist/distorted & is designed to help White males who are extremely insecure & extremely supremacist/territorial.

  174. Posted May 9, 2010 at 8:57 am | Permalink

    Amazing how people can speculate in a general fashion about all of this, and worse, kid themselves.

    There actually wasn’t anything either insightful or even particularly off here.

    I guess we can surmise the following if we want to be honest: most Asian women are - compared to other groups - both more feminine and lithe. There is one guy above who is very honest (and shallow - he seems to think that having Thai trophy wife above and “modeling agency material” children somehow puts him on top but then admits to bending over for her every day). He gets right to the core - I laughed at the beautiful truthfulness of “turnip calved women” with “fat upper arms”.

    What nobody wants to admit is, just how masculine and ugly most non-Asian women are. It is as if dimorphism and neoteny in women were somehow in evolutionary reverse.

    Recently, it was discovered that everyone but Africans have somewhere between 1 and 4% Neanderthal DNA - very shocking stuff. Well, let me tell you what shocked me - I thought everybody but East Asians would have Neanderthal genes. The Neanderthal women hunted beside men and both sexes were about the same size (and probably hairy and muscular and smelly) and hunted only large animals with crude weapons (and so went extinct).

    My personal experience has shown me that Asian women have less body hair, odour, smoother skin, less bunched up muscles, and lack the jutting brows, noses and jaws that make for instance caucasian women more masculine. We can all pretend this is not the case and crank out Hollywood movies with bitchy masculine chicks who are 6 feet tall just out of the gym with hunking shoulders kicking peoples’ asses and call it beautiful but … here is what we should all note:

    As soon as men are given the chance - let’s say Asian countries suddenly open up their borders and let all the women out - they are going to stop drinking the cool-aid and dump the big bird-nosed Olympic-athlete with Neanderthal brows and chase after the lovely little Asian girl(s). Then … well … let evolution take it’s course.

    By the way, the guy with the Thai wife has one thing wrong. His wife rules the roost because he’s a softie. That has nothing to do with a woman being an Asian or even a woman. The person with more mack rules the house, and the only thing I would suggest is different about Asian women in relationships is also true for Asian men; getting your way through pushy conflict may be the way for a few people, but it is generally not admired in Asian societies.

    PS: I don’t consider India as part of Asia for the purposes of this conversation … totally different in every respect than say China or other East Asian countries.

  175. John
    Posted May 9, 2010 at 11:22 am | Permalink

    According to Economist Ray Fisman in a 2007 study:

    “Another clear gender divide, this one less expected, emerged in our findings on racial preferences, reported in a forthcoming article in the Review of Economic Studies. Women of all the races we studied revealed a strong preference for men of their own race: White women were more likely to choose white men; black women preferred black men; East Asian women preferred East Asian men; Hispanic women preferred Hispanic men. But men don’t seem to discriminate based on race when it comes to dating. A woman’s race had no effect on the men’s choices.

    Two wrinkles on this: We found no evidence of the stereotype of a white male preference for East Asian women. However, we also found that East Asian women did not discriminate against white men (only against black and Hispanic men). As a result, the white man-Asian woman pairing was the most common form of interracial dating—but because of the women’s neutrality, not the men’s pronounced preference. We also found that regional differences mattered. Daters of both sexes from south of the Mason-Dixon Line revealed much stronger same-race preferences than Northern daters.”

  176. M
    Posted May 9, 2010 at 11:58 am | Permalink

    It’s interesting how the situation is completely switched when American-Chinese are abroad.

    if you’re an American-born Chinese or American-born Korean in Asia, you will have more game than any white guy (or local Asian guy), simply because foreign-born Asians are perceived to have the power and status that they’re apparently lacking in the U.S.

    Here in Hong Kong, the Chinese foreign-born or international school kids get all the play… I, myself, grew up as an international, and let me tell you, white guys here are not even a remote threat. The wealthy, foreign-born/international school Chinese here make up about 5 percent of the population… but get 80 percent of the women, particularly the attractive ones.

    I’m actually surprised how bad the Asian guys have it in North America. If it’s so bad, you guys should come home to Asia! Sucks to be an Asian guy in America!

  177. venganza
    Posted May 9, 2010 at 8:30 pm | Permalink

    Caucasian women come in all different shapes and sizes. For example, Scandinavian women don’t generally resemble women from Mediteranean countries, such as Italy or Greece, for example. These women are all beautiful in their own particular ways, but in different ways.

    Asian women are no more attractive than caucasian women, in my opinion. Except for one thing. They all look like each other’s sister or relative. Same ol’ same ol’ And of course there are unattractive Asian women, just look at the ones with the buck teeth, pudgy down-syndrome like features set in flat faces, greasy hair, flat chested, un-feminine figures (nothing voluptuous or sexy in that).

    Many men don’t seem to realize that when one marries an asian woman one will probably be marrying her whole family, too. Including helping to support them financially. This is part of the culture in many asian societies.

    And India is certainly part of Asia, whether you like it or not. And Indian women have their own particular kind of exotic beauty and class and are far more classier than Chinese or Korean women.

  178. Mark
    Posted May 13, 2010 at 4:15 pm | Permalink

    From an asian male point of view…it’s not about “why asian women prefer white men”

    …it’s more about WHY ASIAN MEN DON’T HAVE GAME?

    There are asian guys out there who have NO problems dating outside of their race and asian guys should try to learn from them.

    Where do you find these guys?

    ==>http://www.AsianPimpStatus.com

  179. Posted May 22, 2010 at 10:50 am | Permalink

    Any time you have guys and gals together, they are going to pair up.
    Someone sees two different races together and tries to make some kind of phenomenon out of it.

    Just let love “be”.

  180. Linda
    Posted May 30, 2010 at 2:51 pm | Permalink

    I’m an Asian girl, grew up in Asia and live in the US. I can tell you a lot of things about this.

    1. Most Asian girls you see in the US are much less attractive than those in Asia. This is due to the fact that most immigrants come from certain areas of Asia and people from these areas tend to look less attractive.

    2. White guys tend to go for the ugly ones (can’t say I blame them, because that’s all they see). The same is true for Asian girls. Very often (though not always) you’ll see a lot of unattractive white man/Asian girl couples.

    3. Some people say Asian girls are gold digger. It may seem like they are, but most are not. Some people even say white girls can get better looking guys and that’s why most Asian girls get the less attractive, old white guys. The reason why Asian girls tend to get with less attractive men or seem like gold diggers is because, compared to white girls, Asian girls tend to care less about the looks. Asian girls look for intelligence, politeness, maturity, and stability… all of these are often the qualities you find in older, less attractive men. Of course, this is not always the case.
    4. Asian guys are actually pickier than white guys. If you really know and understand them, you’ll notice that Asian guys, compared to white guys, tend to marry better looking and nicer (usually Asian) women. Most Asian girls that are left to white guys are often the ones that Asian guys find unattractive. Of course, this is changing. White guys today start to have better taste in Asian women.
    5. Just like most white guys who have a thing for Asian girls, we Asian girls do have a thing for white guys as well. Many factors have contributed to this: difference attraction, post-colonial syndrome, etc. For me, I just find white guys more attractive. Sometimes I see an attractive Asian guy, I know he’s better looking than another guy who’s white, but chances are I’m still more attracted to the white guy. That’s talking about physical attraction. Honestly, I still find Asian guys more of marriage material, because they’re more mature, more stable, and much more reliable.
    6. Just fact check for those who made some comments about how Asian girls are less intelligent than white girls: In the US, Asians have the highest college graduate rate, 50% compared to 30-something% for white (source: PEW Research Center). Of course college degree doesn’t say much about intelligence, but if anything, most of us are more educated than a typical white girl.

  181. venganza
    Posted May 31, 2010 at 2:43 am | Permalink

    I don’t know what you mean by ”a typical white girl”.

    Sure, there is a high percentage of asian students in the University of California system. And at universities in other states, too. At UCLA, for instance, over 50% of the student body are asian. Why? because those whose parents live in Asia and want their kids to have an American university education, pay higher fees than most American students can afford to pay!

    Money talks. Higher fees = better education. Source: (The UCLA admitting office from staff who work there).

  182. God
    Posted June 5, 2010 at 12:52 pm | Permalink

    Asian people are superior to white people. Asians are smarter and more attractive then stinky white people.

    You can’t deny that Asians are simply THE superior race!!!

  183. audrey
    Posted June 12, 2010 at 5:34 pm | Permalink

    As an Asian American woman, I prefer white men as much as I prefer other races. It’s just that I’m more likely to find a guy who’s in the same economic class with familiar interests that happen to be white than other race. I find men of my race attractive. But I tend to go for men in my original country when the ABC born over here since they’re more likely to be better dressed and have less issues with their ethnic background and wouldn’t reject all things Asian in order to assimilate as I’ve seen many do around here.

    As for Asian women being more submissive thing, that for the most part, is absolutely wrong! Majority of the Asian couples I know have equal footing in the relationship and I’ve known many Asian women who run the show both at home and in husband & wife owned businesses. Men in my extended family are definitely not afraid to be a stay at home dad or help out with household chores. I think for relationship where the Asian woman is the submissive one is usually one where there is unequal power play involved such as he is the one who is sponsoring her green card or he’s the bread winner or bring home the bigger bacon. Personally, I would not be happy in such relationship even if I never came to the US.

  184. Mark
    Posted June 19, 2010 at 4:26 am | Permalink

    Who cares if Asian women want White men.

    It’s really not an issue. The issue is why aren’t Asian guys getting white girls??

    I’m Asian who has never had any trouble dating outside my race.

    How do I do it?
    ==>Asian Man’s Player Guides

  185. venganza
    Posted June 22, 2010 at 2:17 am | Permalink

    http://www.latimes.com/business/realestate/la-fi-china-bachelor-20100621,0,6167359.story

  186. beck457
    Posted June 29, 2010 at 1:46 pm | Permalink

    Man, can someone please push the off button on venganza? Go get a life.

  187. venganza
    Posted June 30, 2010 at 2:02 am | Permalink

    Beck457 :

    If you’re getting annoyed, then it means this blog is definitely working!

    Live & let live.

  188. Asian Hero
    Posted July 14, 2010 at 5:48 am | Permalink

    LOL and u’re a harvard student? looks like u need to do more research or get ur refunds for shit that school didnt teach u. u got ur facts all wrong buddy. pigs r ugly but do hav a good career and stinkin rich. asians r born with good looks but not as smart and rich as the white men. and lucy liu is fugly.

  189. opinion
    Posted July 15, 2010 at 8:01 am | Permalink

    I think one reason Asian women like to date white men /westerners is because they appreciate them better the culture the women take care of the men and the white man doesn’t get this type of attitude with the western women as much. And Asian men just expect it while the white man is surprised someone actually wants to treat him like a man and is greatfull for it. I’m tired so if this makes no since, sorry

  190. Asian Veteran
    Posted July 17, 2010 at 7:40 am | Permalink

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    opinion
    Posted July 15, 2010 at 8:01 am | Permalink

    I think one reason Asian women like to date white men /westerners is because they appreciate them better the culture the women take care of the men and the white man doesn’t get this type of attitude with the western women as much. And Asian men just expect it while the white man is surprised someone actually wants to treat him like a man and is greatfull for it. I’m tired so if this makes no since, sorry”

    Really? You really believe that shit? You have no idea how guys talk about you in the locker rooms. You know how many times I’ve heard the four words “asian” “tight” “girls” and “pussy” in one sentence? Please, you know damn well it’s not about respect. They just wanna beat that pussy because they see asian women in porn and have no plan to marry you. Dumb skanks like you make it hard for me to defend my asian sisters that aren’t in denial

  191. angela
    Posted July 17, 2010 at 1:29 pm | Permalink

    Susan Su
    Preference for Asian women is mainly a White man thing. Very few black men have “yellow fever” or “asian fetishes”. Normally, Asian women possess nothing what the typical black man finds physically attractive.

  192. Madysin
    Posted July 18, 2010 at 4:40 am | Permalink

    BTW - Jessica Alba is patr Asian. lol

  193. Rach
    Posted July 24, 2010 at 11:37 am | Permalink

    It makes me kinda sad to see so much racism. Towards Asian women. Towards white women. Towards white men and asian men too.

    The heart wants what the heart wants.
    Gosh. Society these days.

  194. Lucas
    Posted July 24, 2010 at 11:42 am | Permalink

    Asian women are pretty.
    I’m bored of white women and their bossy, b*thy ways.
    My Asian girlfriend is controlling too, don’t get me wrong. But her ego isn’t as big as those white women who think that their so superior.
    Also Asian women and generally smarter.

    I’m a Caucasian male. 22. My family is rich and I have the money but my 20 year old girlfriend insists she pays for dinner when we are on dates. I think it’s adoorable.

  195. David Liu
    Posted August 4, 2010 at 1:11 am | Permalink

    Hi everybody,
    I’m David From China,and I was born in China too.I’m very family with the country.In here,the place of women has changed that due to the strong desire of a traditional family wanting a boy,not a girl to inherit the family name.So, the balance rate between boys and girls is being broke down.The quantity of girls becomes littler and litter,when a thing is rare, it becomes precious.

  196. colorblind
    Posted August 11, 2010 at 1:05 am | Permalink

    After reading most of the comment here, all I can say is that is that I am appalled by most of those AW comments who say that they prefer WM over their own…it really shocked me(not telling them who to date but the way they’re portraying their own men), they’re just lynching and showing so much disrespect to them. I really feel sorry for all of you(who think that way) and at the same time you really disgust me at the highest level talking down about your own man that way.

    Already the media’s love portraying a bad image of AM, and you (AW)just make it worst by saying all these horrible things about them while you should have done better…”protect them” and show to the world that all AM are not as they’re being portrayed by the media. To all of you (AW) who said all these horrible things about your men, not only you’re saying it to all AM but to your fathers, brothers and sons as well because don’t forget it they are also Asian just like you…really can’t believe what I’ve read.

    For you(AW) to act that way toward your own men you must be very, very and I mean very uncomfortable in your skin and I think that where all the problem is…you don’t love yourselves and have a huge lack of confidence and self-esteem(and this is according to all these comments I’ve read)…I know that each races have their complexity but your one is just reaching the point of ridiculous by the way you are praising WM.

    Most of you are saying that you want to marry WM, so you can have children with lighter skin,hair or eyes, good looking etc…???…can you really hear or should I say read yourself???…well, guess what your children will never ever come out a 100% WHITES, believe me I saw mix-race white/asian kids and from the first glance it easy to recognize that the kid has an Asian parent before even seeing both parents as the genes are so strong…so I guess in China, Korea, Philippines and those other SE Asia countries WM/AW mix race children are more precious than AM/AW children??? If that’s the case then I don’t even know what to think of you anymore and you don’t know the trauma you are causing to those poor little innocent children(asian ones)…

    I wander how you(AW) will react if an handsome AM such as Takeshi Kaneshiro marry a white, black, hispanic or Indian woman??? will you tolerate it or be green of jealousy?

    Just learn to love yourselves in the first place and you will be able to see the beauty in others (not only on AM but other races as well).

  197. alicia
    Posted August 14, 2010 at 6:13 am | Permalink

    As an Asian girl most of these comments hurt me. I am not a self-hating insecure gold-digger, and neither are many other stereotypes. A lot of these comments are based off of hateful stereotypes.
    I admit, I will most likely end up with a white man. Why? I live in America. Only 2% of the population are Asian males. Am I really expected to limit myself to Asian men just so I don’t come off as a gold digger? If I date Asian men, I am racist and narrow minded and if I only date white men, I am self-hating and greedy. Honestly all of you are the racist ones for making such assumptions. Can’t you just let me date people I like? It’s as simple as that. The reason why I like mostly white men is because I’m surrounded by them, and they are mostly what I have to choose from. I only know a small number of Asian men and out of the ones I know, most have personalities I don’t like or are too shy to ask me out. So I’ll say it loud and proud. I’m an Asian woman who likes White men!! And if I were surrounded by Asians, I would like Asian men. And the same applies for any other race. You are all the racist ones here.

  198. rich bastard
    Posted August 14, 2010 at 11:57 pm | Permalink

    This is old news. I sometimes think of Asian girls as a low-fat, white-girl with a mocha or a lemon twist. Love is random anyways and everyone likes to boast about whomever they’re with. Even black girls whom once said bad things about white guys will start preaching about white guys if they ever start dating one, people are fickle.

    Thank god for asian women though. I must admit, even a chubby asian lady can look attractive to a fit white guy and then you have white guys who like the skinny asian look too. There seems to be a cultural reason for why we appreciate them more and not purely physical because we don’t put up with the same things for other races as much.

    Personally, I think the white guy asian girl combo looks classy and not taboo. That’s why advertisements and films in the West mostly show white girls with black guys to get peoples’ attention. White girls are still the biggest consumer group in the West and they aren’t comfortable with seeing Asian women being portrayed as superior partners/wives/mothers.

  199. venganza
    Posted August 16, 2010 at 4:04 am | Permalink

    WHO is portraying asian women as being superior partners/wives/mothers?

    It’s the individual personality and temperament that counts, not the race, regarding partnering, mothering, etc.

    White women have no reason to feel inferior, while asian women have no reason to feel superior. Actually, this applies to ALL races!

  200. Me
    Posted August 16, 2010 at 10:42 pm | Permalink

    First of all, I’m a white girl. I think white guys prefer asian girls because they look like cute bunnies, and they are calm and look open to intimacy. White and black girls are generally bigger :) and more defensive, and sometimes more aggressive.

  201. sterio
    Posted August 21, 2010 at 6:27 am | Permalink

    My personal answer to the original question is the same as alicia’s above - there are more of them around and they tend to be a bit bolder about flirting, asking out on dates, etc.
    So here’s MY question… how do I avoid the men (of any race) that say/think “I love Asian women”? We don’t choose who we are born and although the media hype is slightly to our advantage right now as Asian females, it becomes a disappointment when this is the attracting factor. I don’t approach a man with “I love (insert race here) men!” Why do these guys think this pick-up line is a compliment? Or another question - are there Asian women who DO indeed take it as a compliment and therefore reinforces a ridiculous behavior?

  202. Lani
    Posted August 25, 2010 at 9:42 pm | Permalink

    This is what it is.
    I’m mixed with white and hawaiian decent.
    I’m living in Canada right now,
    and most white men do like asians.
    Out of all the asians though, I tend to see white men more attracted to the Filipinas.
    Because Filipino girls have figure unlike the Chinese asians.
    They’re tanned, black hair beauties and that tends to get the white men other than the pale skins.

  203. Nick
    Posted August 26, 2010 at 6:56 pm | Permalink

    Interracial marriage problem won’t be a problem. If there is a fair equal number of people in each race and there is a an equal percentage of interracial marriage between races. White male & asian female interracial marriage is kind of a problem because there are a large number of couples compared to other types of interracial couples. If there are a large number of asian male & white female couples as well it won’t be a big problem.
    If the asian american population in America is more than 20%, I personally won’t have a problem with all white males dating all asian women.

  204. lang
    Posted August 27, 2010 at 10:30 pm | Permalink

    Here’s my two cents.
    Someone above has said that the majority of asian women marry asian men. Same goes for white women. This is absolutely true. What we are talking here is about a minority of asian women. You must distinguish between the asian-american (-european) women and those from asia.
    1. the asian-american/european women like to date white males for many reasons such as the lack of asian suitors or wanting to be integrated (i.e. want to be white)
    2. the asian women from china/thailand/vietnam etc…would like to marry white men for economic reasons. This is a one-way ticket out of poverty. By the way vietnamese women don’t mind marrying japanese/korean/taiwan men too as long as they pay.
    Of course, somewhere in the between, there are true love cases too.
    That’s how life is. It is obscene, but on the scale of things, there are worse things around.
    About the chinese women, some of them are very beautiful. Most of them are god-awful!

  205. lang
    Posted August 27, 2010 at 10:53 pm | Permalink

    I would like to make a further comment.
    I don’t know about the USA but in Europe and, in particular, the UK where I live, it has been reported by the british police that the brothels here are half serviced by chinese women (the other half consists of eastern europeans and other asians). This phenomenon is repeated in Ireland, France and Italy. In Italy, they charge as low as five euros for a go. If you are in Paris, go to the bois de boulogne, the chinese prostitutes are fast replacing the brasilian transvestites.
    Most of the comments on this site, treat this as a matter of personal taste between individuals. It may be so, but do not forget the socio-economics factors. In Europe, we are now facing a massive chinese immigration wave (legal and illegal). Chinatowns are now popping all over europe and the chinese are becoming more assertive (see the riot in Milan, the demos in Paris).
    The chinese, and chinese women in particular, have a very twisted and aspirational view about all things western (not only men). Years of communism have destroyed all hang-ups. These people will do anything to possess what they want.
    I personally think we, as a culture, are not prepared for it.

  206. Mark Steinberg
    Posted August 29, 2010 at 8:23 am | Permalink

    Venganza is the typical ignorant American that makes all Caucasians look bad. You should be ashamed of yourself, have you taken philosophy or anything to shape your intelligence? Your comments rank amongst the highest rank for annoyance and stupidity. I came across this and have found it to be quite the amusement of how biased one could be. A few Asians do some crazy things and they’re whores? What about all the white mainstream gold-diggers of America? I’ve seen so many white girls jump onto middle eastern men(especially prestigious Persians and Europeans) and not to mention all the athletes—I’ve sat court-side watching all the white Jersey chaser girls and nobody really cares. It’s part of psychology, hate comes from jealousy or some sort of resentment. And obviously you’ve built some sort of belief in your mind about Asian women. This is the millennium, you’re stuck in another time period. I would highly recommend you to be more open minded if you want to get anywhere in life and be respected. I would also like to remind you that everyone in America right now had ancestors that were immigrants/foreigners at some point unless they were Native American. Educate yourself. Besides, you don’t see the Asians complaining about us white people coming over to their countries now and making 6 figure digits over there do you? Universities in the U.S may be in trouble because of people coming out of college with a narrow mind like yourself. I love Asian people, they’re highly family oriented and cultured! My advice to you is take some time in life to smell the roses and put yourself in others shoes.

  207. Engineer
    Posted August 30, 2010 at 6:41 am | Permalink

    Wow! I have been reading this post for a few hours and I’m amazed at the comments! I’m an American half white half puerto rican raised in foster homes and adopted by white people. I think I’m white period. I don’t know jack about puerto rican culture and don’t care to. Anways, it looks as people on here haven’t dated at all. I’m 34 and let me give you a rundown on American girls. MTV has destroyed most chances for the average guy to find a suitable wife. All the gis want nothing but tall, built, tatted up so called bad boys. They say they are real men and they feel safe with these guys. Ok cool whatever! The flipside is those guys have jobs, not careers! You don’t get careers being tatted up from the neck down. They are construction workers and very low class of people. These guys think they are the shut and then fuck those girls over. Then I have to hear them whine and cry. Good thing I already banged them and don’t care if they cry or boo hoo. It’s what you get. American girls are all about the moment and not the future. I’ve dated them all from short, tall, thick, skinny, smoking hot, to just ok, rich, poor, confident, to girls that just want to jump off a bridge 24/7. They are materialistic and right out mean. They lost the idea of what a relationship should be and love… Well forget it! I’m 34 and I’ve been with a TON of women and still none that I would have a kid with, never the less, marry. All my friends and family all been dirvorced. Money and unhappiness has always been the reasons why. I have an opportunity to go to Korea here in a few weeks for 8 months for work and I’m very excited to see how an Asian will treat me because I know I’m a great catch for any woman…PERIOD! I’m tired of the silly high school games girls play and the thought of always being available when they really aren’t. I will admit I love fast women but I’ve dated so many others and found out that fast or not fast women, they’ve all been the same. So thanks MTV for making every American girl fake as can be wanting all rich or just the “look” of what the media has told us what a real man should look like and be like. I’m so glad I’ve held off this long from having kids and a wife because now I get to see the world and experience other cultures and women. I dint hate American women, they are hella beautiful! You can deny that. I’m just exhausted because they are so damn demanding! They want want want and offer nothing in return. Sure great porn star style sex but how long does that luster last before you say…you are one dumb bitch! Great sex but damn your stupid! Next! I’m anxious to get out of America for a bit and live a little. Korea is where I’m hoping to call home for the next 8 months to be a judge for myself on the comments here. Everyone has thought of dating a foreigner at one time or another. If Asian women are demanding and try to rule over the men, then those guys are just pussies and are to scared to stand up to themselves. Ok sorry for being so upfront but alot of people on here are clueless with their comments. Will I date an Asian woman being an American? Perhaps but it’s work that’s bringing me over there. So why not see what’s up? I know what I’m looking for in a women and that’s respect, loyalty, compassion, willingness, truthful, and attraction plays a big part. I may seem like a superficial male but I’m in tune with what’s in, I dress nice, I can dance my ass off, I’m easy to talk to (I’ll actually talk to 5-6 girls in a night) I don’t stand in a corner and be a mute like MOST guys do. I do fun things and always up for something different and new. So if an asian girl finds these qualities in American men then that should tell the other men of the world something…it’s called tighten up your game and stop whining! I’ve already been forewarned that ill be like a rockstar in Korea but that’s not my main focus there. But it will be nice having my pick of he liter so to say instead of being the selectie which is pretty standard here in the states. The girls et to pick and choose and I hate that mentality.so take a hard look at yourself and don’t hate other cultures of people that want to date outside their race. Really it’s 2010 who cares!

  208. venganza
    Posted August 31, 2010 at 2:02 am | Permalink

    MARK STEINBERG :

    Actually I’m NOT Caucasian. I’m Semitic. And proud of it.

    I’m not ashamed of my opinion, as you seem to think I should be. It’s my way of thinking just as yours is your way of thinking. Period.

    Re universities in the US. Almost 70% of the student bodies (especially UCLA) are of asian origin and not necessarily because they’re smarter. No. It’s mainly because they pay HIGHER FEES than the rest of us. Money talks. This is extremely well known on campus at UCLA and leaks are constantly coming out of their admittance office concerning this.

    And no. I hardly think that ”whites” or others are flocking in droves over to asia. So the asians don’t really have to complain about that anyway! Sure, there may be some whites, or others, making high salaries in asia, but not to the extent that you see asians doing the same in the US and Europe (and elsewhere). No comparison. Oh, forgot to mention, there are some ”white” retirement communities in Asia, especially Thailand, mainly Europeans and Americans.

    ENGINEER :

    You may be an engineer, but you need to do a spell-check before posting! Hope you get over your problem with the American girls you keep mentioning. It takes all kinds to make a world. And believe me, Asian women can be just as demanding as American (or other) women. It’s the individual that counts. Not the race. Personality, temperament, unselfishness. Qualities hard to come by today in any race.

  209. Engineer
    Posted September 1, 2010 at 2:54 am | Permalink

    Spell check is right! This damn iPod seems to auto correct my words into something that makes me sounds like I can’t write :) good thing I don’t need to spell right to be an engineer or I’d be in trouble relying on my iPod to correct anything. Everyones been complaining about it but in my case….WHO CARES!? It unimportant to my survival and health and that’s all I care about

  210. asian guy
    Posted September 3, 2010 at 3:15 am | Permalink

    Asian women prefer white men? I think white men looks down on asian men well not all but quite a lot. I remember eating in the food court in a mall and this random white guy just came up and said to my girl friend “Why are you hanging out with that loser he’s asian, you should hang out with me.” Thats not exactly what he said but something along the lines. Obviously my girl friend said no. Both of us just came to North America and already we have this kind of experience. I hope not all the white guys are like this.

  211. Tim
    Posted September 3, 2010 at 10:57 pm | Permalink

    Die thread! Die!

    An asian man.

  212. whatever
    Posted September 5, 2010 at 2:22 pm | Permalink

    I totally agree, but conceited is, conceited does, Sir. I like when the girl posted on another site that Asian men aren’t as assertive as white men. It just feeds exactly who she is looking for - an attention getter and Asian men aren’t going to feed her attention and lots of it, but white men will, because the ones she dates are just as superficial as she is.

    Re: Tim
    Posted September 3, 2010 at 10:57 pm | Permalink
    Die thread! Die!

    An asian man.

  213. JodieG
    Posted September 9, 2010 at 12:01 am | Permalink

    Stop basing Asian Guys. I’m a White Girl that happens to like Asian guys. Especially ones that are Asian/White.

  214. Rick
    Posted September 9, 2010 at 12:58 am | Permalink

    I’m a white guy engaged to an Asian gal. She’s beautiful. Are all Asian gals? Hell no. There are as many ugly Asians as with any other group. It’s just opportunity, for both of us.

    She was engaged to an Asian guy, and it didn’t work out, so she decided to look around. I was married to a white gal, divorced, and looked around.

    I don’t hate white gals, and she doesn’t hate Asian guys. We just each have decided to broaden our interests. Life is grand. Diversity is not a fetish. She likes my “pointed” nose. I like her legs. It doesn’t have to be complex. :)

  215. rachel
    Posted September 10, 2010 at 3:41 pm | Permalink

    This blog post is pretty stupid (and bitter) for many reasons. As an Asian girl dating a White man, I’m sick of being slandered.

    So, some flawed assumptions:

    1 - “Most white guys have Asian fetishes.”
    The statistics just don’t support this assertion. A vast majority of white guys date and marry white girls. Perhaps many (or most) white guys would be or are attracted to some Asians girls (i.e. hot ones). So, what’s the problem with that?

    2- “fetish” - This is obviously a pejorative term, employed intentionally to make white men look creepy and predatory. I’d imagine a majority of white guys who end up seriously dating or marrying an Asian girl don’t do this out of some larger creepy pathology, but interest in that specific girl.

    3 - A GLARING flaw: why do Asian girls give into white male attention so often??? For the sake of argument, let’s say white guys all have asian fetishes ad creepily pursue this fetish… Why do Asian women so often indulge them?

    Ah, here is the crux of the matter. Chris and a large chunk of Asian men online are so bitter and territorial about this issue that all they can do is cast smug insults at white guys and downplay the agency of Asian women.

    Perhaps its this very lack of confidence (white guys are creeps! They only date ugly Asians!) is part of the reason that we Asian women gravitate toward white men in the first place…

  216. AM
    Posted September 21, 2010 at 7:09 pm | Permalink

    In reply to Rachel’s post, more specifically her point #2, anyone that has traveled throughout Asia can tell you the majority of white douches that infest that region of the world are losers. Rejects. They are beta males, rejected by Western society, and desperately looking towards Asia as a last resort to pass on their DNA. If someone brought those white rejects back to America, by American standards, based on their appearance, body language, and the vibe they give off they would be viewed as sick, perverted creeps.

    What is is with creepy white losers and asians? I have been on the receiving end of this vibe myself and I am male.

    Finally I would like to conclude by saying a lot of us don’t care who asian women date. I do feel bad when I see single asian women. I just hope they’re not waiting for an asian guy because most likely they’ll be waiting forever. In America especially, there is a very, very, very tiny percentage of eligible asian males. If you think in America asians make up less than 5% of the population. Males are half that, so 2.5%. Eligible males are a fraction of 2.5%. And of that fraction, an even tinier fraction might be considered what you call an alpha male. That is a very minscule amount.

    Also, I realize people have different tastes. I myself find caucasian women the most attractive.

    But there seems to be a lot of asian women who seem to want to “stick it” to us asian males psychologically, or non-verbally or whatever. Daddy issues? Blaming us for your insecurities? Sorry if you didn’t want to be asian and our sperm cells made you asian, lol.

  217. Natalia
    Posted September 22, 2010 at 4:10 am | Permalink

    I actually think why white men prefers asian women because at the end men are men and they like a woman who can take care of them and not be overly superior than they are. Typical asian women are very family oriented, very caring and more dependent in general life, while white women are more independent and wanted to be in the same level as their men. Asian women have no problem with washing the dishes, cleaning up the house etc, while white women raised amongst a caucasian environment tend to want to do a simple house hold activities equally.

    I guess that’s one of the reason why white men like asian women better sometimes.

  218. tony
    Posted October 8, 2010 at 4:08 pm | Permalink

    And do the Asian girls who like white guys look like this?
    http://www.japansugoi.com/wordpress/japanese-bikini-gravure-idols/
    Cuts both ways! It’ simple, people want to be with attractive people, no matter what race.

  219. Steve
    Posted October 10, 2010 at 1:08 am | Permalink

    White guys cannot differentiate a good looking Asian girl and a not so good looking Asian girl. Being a white guy and lived in Asia for many years I can say that most white guys pick up the wrong ones… based strictly on looks that is. Not meaning that the Asian girl is not nice in other ways — just that what they think is great looking often is average or less than they think.

  220. venganza
    Posted October 10, 2010 at 1:50 am | Permalink

    It’s NOT that Asian women are MORE into being dependent or enjoy doing housework MORE than Caucasian women. It’s the ECONOMY! Many Caucasian women would love to be able to stay at home, having more time with their kids, and for this would gladly do their share of household chores too. Fact is - for most this ideal picture is downright impossible in today’s economy. Today, generally BOTH spouses must work, just to make ends meet. Sometimes, they work more than one job, with different shifts. So. Having to share household chores just makes good sense these days. No shame in that at all.

    ‘Nuff said ……..

  221. haha
    Posted October 11, 2010 at 3:54 am | Permalink

    This is pure satire right?

  222. Renée
    Posted October 17, 2010 at 6:43 am | Permalink

    I’m Asian (Filipino) and I like guys of all races. I like filipinos, latinos, blacks, whites, indians… you name it! As long as they’re attractive and have a good personality then I’m not going to rule them out. Attractive to ME is the square jaw, nice nose, and tall thing… that’s because: (1) I just find square jaws to be more masculine than round ones, (2) nice nose because my family has always made fun of MY nose… but at the same time I’m not going to date some hawk-nosed guy, and (3) I’m tall for an Asian (5′5) but short for my family (my mom is 5′7 and my dad is 5′10… all other relatives are of similar or higher height).

    It turns out that most guys with those qualities (that I’ve met) are either white or hispanic. And that’s probably because I’ve lived most of my life in the Midwest and in Florida. I’ve therefore grown to have a preference for white or hispanic guys. That’s not to say, however, that I haven’t met some extremely attractive black or Asian guys. The only problem is that we’re geographically incompatible, they’re douchebags, and/or they’re boring.

    Anyway, personality is the most important to me. And I like dominating guys. And I can, because I’ve figured out how to without actually being mean about it. I go for shy guys who turn out to have a good sense of humor and values compatible with mine, and I really haven’t met many Filipinos who are shy at all. All the ones I’ve met are either very outgoing and out there or are quiet but very domineering. I like guys that are the opposite of me :]

    And no, I’m not an easy lay. Guys often get frustrated with me when they realize that, but whatever. I have more dignity than that. And also I would NEVER go for a guy that’s taken because my dad cheated on my mom, and I saw how my mom got hurt. I never would nor could do that to anyone.

    P.S. Asian guys don’t like me. I’m not pale, I’m usually as tall as them, and I have almond eyes that only look chinky if you stare long enough. Did I mention the dominating personality part? Anyway, I *look* like a mix of Latina and Asian, so I don’t think I could ever really be an object of one’s fetish since I don’t fit any mold. Or I could be an object of a super-fetish combo of Latina and Asian.

  223. javanesegirl86
    Posted October 19, 2010 at 1:03 pm | Permalink

    O My God. I knew it. I should have just started packing my bag and move to US. That way, I will get not one but many many dates with this Melanesian-Indonesian look!

    I live in Java, the central part of Indonesia. If you wonder how we look, compare to the more wellknown, Malaysian or Balinese. The problem I found from my experience of spending these twenty something years of my life here, is that: Most Javanese men are into these standard of beauty commonly accepted : white skin, short height (averagely Javanese men are around 155 cms-170cms) which I am lacked of

    I used to have these moment where I am the tallest one standing on a public transportation, and I am not that tall, only 165 cms. And not mention the fact that I am lacking the white tone for the skin, and the yes-man attitude. Fu fu fu. Sure somewhere in the state or the Coast, more people would appreciate these “exotic” look I have, since not many people here seemed to do so.

    But anyway, what I’ve found as the most interesting qualities from western men: they tend to be more intellegent, gentlemanly, funny, and dominant without emphasizing the chauvinistic gesture. Asian men are okay. Most of them are okay. But for centuries we live in this patriarchal system, and women often and still considered as second class citizen. So for me, it’s very fresh to be able to communicate and interact with someone that will consider me as an equal.

  224. jin
    Posted October 29, 2010 at 1:27 am | Permalink

    Let me say something some Asian women and Western men might be unhappy to listen to or unwilling to confess. someone who thinks Western men respect women is totally naive. Most of western men respect women on a superficial level, when it comes to something related to even a little bit personal interests, western men are extremely self-centered. Are there any sensible Western men thought about if these Asain women would treat or think western men are better than their own country’s men if Western nations are poor undeveloped and less powerful nations, and if an Asain girl tell western men that chinese men are better would western men be happy to sponsor this Asian girl to go to their western countries. Moreover, if China is more developed than western nations would some Asain women put chinese men down to please western men. In fact, chinese men normally are happy to support their wives or lovers financially, and would like to coax and pamper their ladies, but they require their to be good quality(good looking , educated etc.), they do not want to be with a woman who has other men’s children. And I am sure if some western ladies know more about chinese men and the truth how chinese men really treat their wives, they will cry and try their best to find a chinese men. I am a chinese girl, I am in Australia at the moment, I cant brag about how good quality I am , and I am not very young, but there are quite a few excellent chinese men appreciate me. Even some Caucasian there confessd why they want Asain girls is because they just want housemaids, cook and sex workers. I do not deny there are some cases of true love between western men and asian women but it is also unwise to deny many western men and asian women take advantage of each other. and in my native country a lady who is above middle class or very excellent would not suck up to Western men for developed nations’ passport or be very easy to Western men , they normally go with excellent chinese men. There are ladies who is beautiful outside, and not beautiful inside. But, this does not mean all the goodlooking women must be bad inside. In my native country, there are some women not only have pretty appearance but also excellent inner quality, but these ladies will never be easy for any western men.

  225. Annkay
    Posted November 1, 2010 at 12:48 pm | Permalink

    Wow! So much to comment on here. I think there are numerous reasons for interracial dating. - Especially the much lamented preference for white guys.

    Obviously, one factor has to do with economics. Women in particular do like men who are good providers. And white males are the alphas in the west because they tend to have the best prospects and most money. They hire each other for the best jobs in companies, they do business with each other, they hold most political offices, etc. So this may be a big reason why young white guys (20’s-40’s) tend to have their pick of women from other races.

    Of course some interracial attraction is simply based on a preference for certain looks or behavior. Muscular versus slight physiques, square jaws versus round, tall versus short, dark skin versus light etc. Plus culture can shape how agressive a guy is or isn’t.

    However, the biggest reason people do or don’t date members of other races is because people have deeply ingrained stereotypes about other races.

    And that is evident in these posts from some of the derogatory comments made about black, white, and asian men. Here, black guys are often portrayed as criminals, white guys as ugly, and asian guys as effiminate.

    I am black but I am also a product of both native american and european ancestry. Because of this my skin is light brown and my facial features would be considered more “indian”. I’ve dated guys of different races, however I am sought after mostly by white guys. So I’ve dated them more over the years. My best guess is that they probably see me as “approachable”, because of my looks and the way I speak.

    Interestingly, I find that when dating interacially it is really hard for me to find an asian guy to date - even though I’m really attracted to asian guys. But if they date interracially they seem to prefer white women.

    I would date asian guys if I could, however I know that asians often regard blacks as inferior (moreso than whites even do). This isn’t my stereotype - it is what I’ve been told by some asians who’ve confided in me.

    Even though I am well educated, it is unlikely that an asian guy would see me as marraige material because black women are typically stereotyped as stupid and loose in the U.S. And I realize I am stereotyped as such even though that presumption doesn’t fit me at all. But asian guys don’t know that from afar, therefore they don’t approach me.

    Interestingly, I have an asian friend who is approached by old white guys all the time, and she hates it! Her preference is actually for latino guys. But she never gets approached by latino guys and she rarely gets approached by white guys in her own age group (30’s). I actually think she may be avoiding asian guys because she happens to have a traditional domineering brother, so I think she is turned off from dating asian guys for that reason.

  226. Francine
    Posted November 16, 2010 at 7:33 am | Permalink

    At the end of the day we all choose our partners with respect to shared values, goals, physical attraction & lifestyle. As a result of this the issue is compatibility. But as we are all individuals sometimes this will be with a young Asian lady & older white man; or young white lady with older Asian man, WF/AM or AF WM & I have seen all these combinations. The only thing in common with Asians is their cultural heritage/traits which is a more patriarchal than individualist culture. Other than that there are Asians who tend to only date Asian men or Asians who prefer dating white, uneducated Asian women sometimes from the South-Eastern areas, rich Asians, you name it. One thing is for such half Asian children are beautiful as are cute pure Asian children. For all of you out there be happy with who you are, be gracious. Life is too short to be simmering away with resentment!

  227. sarah
    Posted November 27, 2010 at 10:21 pm | Permalink

    I am black and i think asian and black women are both unattractive outof the race. But we blacks have it a little more because we have the body asian have the hair. But many black women do have natural long hair. You people look like grey aliens that is the truth. If you mixed with black majority of the time your kids will look great. Look at Latino women many of them are mixed with black and they are so pretty and same with middle eastern mixed they have african ancestry they are pretty also. They are a few white and asian mixed kids that are good looking but compared that to black and white mixed way better looking offsprings. Go down south and see creol women very pretty women and they are mixed with black and white ancestry.

  228. sarah
    Posted November 27, 2010 at 10:27 pm | Permalink

    By the way i am with a white men and we have a son. He is so good looking he looks like southern european mix or north african mixed :) black and white make great looking kids. I do not know many white men that go fo asian because majority do not and if they did why are european men like black women way more then asian? If the asian women are so go looking i am talking about the slanted eye looking ones. Why didn’t the european mixed with them when they went all over the world? they mixed with native americans and black women not asian ones. The white and asian thing is new before that it was black and native american women. That is why white men go to south american and the carribean to get a mixed looking beauty not asia.

  229. Ron
    Posted November 30, 2010 at 12:24 am | Permalink

    i think all asians have a white fetish. people from india also. and i think if they had their way they would kick african americans out of the USA. they are just covert about their white worship. they like to go on and on about “their culture” if their parents get angry if they date or marry someone white its only because they didnt get a chance to date or marry somone white.

  230. Dan
    Posted December 1, 2010 at 5:35 pm | Permalink

    All you asian women on here make me laugh. Most of you make excuses as to why you don’t date asian men ie. personality, open-mindedness, understanding etc. Ultimately you’ll list all these gross generalizations and then ultimately say you find caucasian men “physically” more attractive, anyway.

    Hitler would be ecstatic about what’s going on with the asian community. You hear so many of these girls spew the same racist/whitewashed bs that the nazi’s use to teach. Nordic beauty, caucasian superiority, I want good looking (white) children etc. What’s funny is they won’t admit it, but if you put them in an SS costume they’d fit right in.

    Am I bitter? Not really, I’ve never dated an asian women (mainly white) though I would have like too. Unfortunately every single one (literally and I know many) prefer white men. Many openly stating that they do not find asian men attractive. After decades of this kind of experience I can honestly say I would never date an asian women.

  231. Ron
    Posted December 1, 2010 at 10:19 pm | Permalink

    more power to you Dan. im not bitter either. i am one of those crazy mulattos half black half german. ive never dated an asian women. yea some of them are nice looking. i try to take people as individuals. but some of these asian women are a trip. i had this chinese women from china, come to my country and tell me that i cant have an opionoin on certain things because i have color in my skin. she was actually nice looking, married to a white guy who look like hed been beat with an ugly stick. but hes white so she gets a step up in clas she thinks. i totally agree with dan, asian women cant wait to put a shine on hitlers boots.

  232. Marilyn
    Posted December 4, 2010 at 5:41 am | Permalink

    asian women resemble chimpanazees, but loser white males can score one easily as long as he has a few bucks, as one marine said you meet a filipina and within an hour she’s in bed with you, simply put they want what the white man can povide.
    if not to leave her impoverised country then to live in his country, the house, mabey her own business. money to send her family.
    some want mixed kids, if you like flat noses then go for it. many asian women use skin lightener and get eye surgery.

  233. Jas
    Posted December 7, 2010 at 8:41 pm | Permalink

    I think it’s just a matter of exposure and conditioning. Historically speaking white men have had the priveledge of traveling all over the world and usually whites are the first exposure other countries ever had to an outside race. Much of their priveledges have been afforded at the cost of other cultures and racism has put them at the top of the food chain. Asians also tend to be notorious accommodators and usually seek to fit in more than stand out to whatever the status quo is. So basically you have a mutually attraction between a very unaccommodating culture (white) and a highly accommodating culture (Asian) coming together. Media also plays a part because white men portrait and are the dominant culture. It’s a psycological norm for the dominant culture to be the preferred culture…that’s why historically whites have put so much effort into racism so that their future offspring (modern whites) will be the preferred and richest culture.

    Females in general are also genetically predisposed to choose a mate that they feel their offspring will be best taken care of. If the dominant culture where Black you’d seem most of them with blacks. If the dominant culture were blue you would see most of them with blue men, and that goes for any combination of dominant and accomodating or defeated cultures. Being with a dominant culture is a symbol of status and success even if that isn’t the actual truth of the individual relationship or the intentions of the individuals.

  234. evcas
    Posted December 10, 2010 at 1:35 am | Permalink

    in my opinion white men should go to Argentina to find women because women are obsessed with looks. They never seem to age plus they dance tango.

  235. Kain0117
    Posted December 11, 2010 at 8:43 pm | Permalink

    Hmm. As a 5′ 7 tall and having a curvy figure Asian female, the reason that I’m not attracted to asian male is that they seem more feminine than white males.

    Often they have smaller figure than white males, and because I’m curvy and tall for an Asian girl, it’s hard for me to find attractiveness towards Asian guys because they have smaller figure than me!:( [most of them are so skinny] Whereas more often white guys are more buffed, taller, and have bigger figure.

    Also, Asian guys dig petite, skinny girls anyway so I guess I’m not even attractive to them.

  236. Mikey
    Posted December 12, 2010 at 7:14 pm | Permalink

    I’m an Asian guy and I don’t really feel that Asian girls prefer White men necessarily. I think this is a more complicated situation and I do understand why you came to this conclusion based on what we see in public.

    I think this phenomenon you mention mostly affects North Americanized/North American born Asian females.

    I myself have never had a problem getting attractive Asian women or white women, women in general. Not to toot my own horn but I have masculine attributes, square jaw, and I am considered a “pretty boy” with a muscular physique (Asians can actually be leaner and more esthetically appealing based on fashion standards when we are cut and ripped). I also have a successful professional career and business. I.e. I would be on the top of the food chain anyways regardless of my race. So I take some offense when a goofy, fat, ugly white man is better than me lol. Coz they are not.
    I find a lot of white guys are cheap, classless and poor.

    Going back to the real point,North Americanized/North American born Asian women who like white men may have many reasons, though I suspect these women tend to be women that are shunned by Asian men. Growing up they were probably told that they are too fat, dumb, ugly etc. Asian families tend to more blunt and hurtful with superficial traits. The white culture appeals more to them over time as many whites are also fat, dumb, and ugly. So these would make this less attractive Asian girl feel more attractive.

    Some asian girls who would never land a top notch Asian dude like myself, would rather go for an equally good looking white guy because they have a better chance of securing him considering most white guys think any Asian girl is hot even when we Asian guys think she’s gross.

    The third situation would be the Asian girl grew up around white guys and that is all she is attracted to. This is probably the usual case. But many of these girls are also attracted to Asian men. Just simple, they are attracted to men.

    Now for the exception what about women from Asia?

    Simple. I know this because I have been around many of these women from high social status to low social status.

    Asian women from Asia go for white men for 3 reasons.

    1. They were burned by Asian men in the past as Asian men in Asia can be horrible partners, they are selfish lovers, cheat, or abusive.

    2. They are doing it for citizenship or monetary gain. Asian women are smarter than white women in the materialistic/goal oriented sense, so they want to find an easy to fool white guy, esp the ugly fat loser that no one wants who has some money or citizenship coz she can wrap him around her finger. She will tell him how nice he is or how big is dick is only to trick him to make him feel better about his pathetic self to control all aspects of him. Asian women love power and Asian men would NEVER give them that. Don’t be surprised she is fucking a pretty boy like me on the side when she is spending some idiot white boy’s money to buy gifts for me.

    3. They are interested in what is different and exotic.

    These may be just reasons why Asian women go for white guys but I am still not convinced that this is generalizable.
    Don’t believe me? Just look at the numbers.

    There are like 1.6 billion Chinese people in China alone, so including all the other Asian countries there are probably over 2 billion Asian people. There are 300-400 million North American people in the world (these are just rough estimates that will help
    illustrate my point), ~5% are Asian american, (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_American#Demographics)
    we’ll bump that up to ~7% to account for non American. But ok whatever the accurate number it is, it’s less than 10% even if you include Canada. So that’s say 35 Million Asian people, in NOrth America. How many of those are women? ~17.5M how many of them are in Interracial relationships? I don’t think all of them are. Even if you say half, that’s only about 9 mil Asian women in interracial. Now take that number and combine that with all the Asian women from around the world say 1 billion, and less than half are in Interracial relationships. You might get a figure that is STILL LESS THAN 1-2% of all Asian women.

    Now you take a look at any race including white folks. White folks is too general of a term as there are many different European cultures. Are you telling me that there is less than 1-2% of every kind of white people that don’t go into interracial relationships? I just think it is less obvious because they all have white skin colour though they can be of difference race i.e. Irish guy with a French girl so it is NOT AS visibly noticeable. As say a white girl with an Asian guy or black guy. Hell there is probably more than 1-2% of the white population with Asians.

    I will get a lot of hate for this, but I speak the truth. I am not a bitter Asian nerd because chances are, I am better looking, more educated, wealthier, and get more women (white and asian) than most men. And I don’t have a small penis. Am I cocky? sure, I have every reason to be. But this is not what this message is about, this is about why I think you see a lot of Asian women with white men and my take on it.

    With increased globalization and increased racial tolerance, you will see that there will be more interracial couples than in the past. Even Asian men are going to have a lot more white girls, especially with the trend that China is becoming the next super power in the world and USA will fall. Asian men will soon be the highest status in the next 20-50 years. We’ll see if this phenomenon will still exist.

  237. venganza
    Posted December 14, 2010 at 1:07 am | Permalink

    Mikey :

    So we’re all goin’ to be taken over by the Chinese are we?

    YIKES - I’d rather emigrate than submit to that! Still, as much as you may boast, I don’t believe the USA will fall, as you claim. Hell no!!

  238. venganza
    Posted December 14, 2010 at 1:49 am | Permalink

    Currently we’re all being flooded with the cheap, and often defective products from China, not to speak of the often unhealthy stuff (such as high levels of lead) found in childrens’ toys and jewelry produced there and which are a definite hazard to public health in the USA and elsewhere. We are to blame too for demanding cheap products and our manufacturers going overseas to produce their stuff by low-cost workers. We pay highly for that in the long run. Cheap is expensive! Remember the contaminated pet food that was discovered not that long ago. Another prime example of defective products.

    Sorry, my comment is a tat off subject. But it’s just a small example of how we’re being flooded with cheap, hazadous products from China!

    BY MADE IN USA WHEREVER POSSIBLE!

  239. Mikey
    Posted December 15, 2010 at 4:10 am | Permalink

    vengenza, it is unfortunate but will happen. USA won’t fall but the majority of those who will be living it large in the urbanized area will be Asian. Pushing the whites into the undesirable living areas.

    In response to this possible threat, old money white people are already limiting the number of asian students accepted into prestigious schools such as harvard. If you look at universities in asian dominated areas or “fancier” schools you will see a disproportionate number of Asian students in relation to the number of Asians proportional to the American population.

    Chinese are the new Jews. Chinese aren’t stupid they won’t cause the fall of America. America will still be run the same way but the economic power will shift.

    USA will still be USA, just like how the UK is still the UK. BUt UK is nowhere near as powerful as it once was.

    BUY USA lol good luck with your campaign. It is very impractical unless you are willing to pay a lot for it. Not to mention its impact on the world economy if everyone thought that way lol…the rich would not want to get poorer just because some poor idiot said so.

    George W. Bush only said that so that bankers would benefit from the whole situation. As we know, bankers run the world.

  240. venganza
    Posted December 16, 2010 at 3:51 am | Permalink

    Mikey,

    The reason there are SO MANY asian students at UCLA, for example, is becàuse they pay higher fees. And I know this for a fact as I have several friends who work in their admittance office.

    What do you mean by your comment ”the Chinese are the new Jews”? Are you an antisemite? Very bad taste!

    And yes, the Chinese are making tons of money off of their cheap and hazadous products.

    However, times will change, and I’m already starting to see many more products that AREN’T made in China than before. We have to start somewhere and the USA will eventually become a manufacturing mecca again. We need the jobs, after all.

  241. rob
    Posted December 24, 2010 at 6:46 am | Permalink

    I think people make this too complicated. There are many interracial couples in the usa. To generalize about races and attraction is impossible. Individuals take into account many different things (and weight them differently) when considering a mate. I prefer a woman who is kind, strong, beautiful, hardworking, intelligent, loves family, not materialistic, and is chaste. It just so happens the person I recently found is Filipina. I have dated White, African-American, African(big cultural difference w/ African-American), Latin, Japanese, also and race was never the deciding factor in deciding to discontinue the relationship. You can’t stop love, and I am a White man in love with an amazing woman who just so happens is Filipina. Race was not the deciding factor.

    As for the prevalence of wm/af, its the USA, a lot of white,black, and latin guys to choose from- why limit yourself to am/af? Love doesn’t observe racial bounds– it’s a human thing, and we are all human aren’t we?

  242. Asian Girl
    Posted December 25, 2010 at 4:02 am | Permalink

    I am a Chinese girl from a upper-middle class HK family. I am mostly attracted to Asian guys, although I admit caucasian guys with dark, Asian-like features (especially hispanic) can be nice to look at. I am not attracted to guys with blue eyes, pale skin, or blonde/red hair. Conan O’brien? gross… I’ve also noticed that white guys tend to smell bad even minutes after showering.

  243. Lindsay
    Posted December 25, 2010 at 2:22 pm | Permalink

    STATUS SYMBOL and upward social mobility

  244. Mikey
    Posted December 30, 2010 at 6:45 am | Permalink

    Asian girl you’re awesome, and I love HK girls that speak their mind :) White guys do smell. Whenever I’m at the gym, the fat white guys smell the worst. Lindsay, may be in the USA, if the rest of the world, no one cares.

    Venganza, no I love Jewish people. In fact, my current gf right now is Jewish. The blonde type though.

    Rob, you are dating my maid’s relative. Filipinas tend to be Chinese people’s maids lol
    White guys are like scavengers when it comes to Asian women. They get all the scraps that elite Asian men don’t want lol.

    Creeps me out thinking about how fat most Americans are. European girls and Asian girls are the best. Can add South American girls to the list too :)

  245. venganza
    Posted December 31, 2010 at 6:54 am | Permalink

    Mikey,

    You’re sounding particularly prejudice against Filipinas. Do you honestly think Chinese are superior to other Asians, or other races in general? I found your comments about American people being ‘’smelly” in very poor taste. Even somewhat childish. I somehow doubt that Chinese body odor is less obnoxious.

    You need to come down off your high horse. Might do you good.

  246. kels
    Posted January 3, 2011 at 4:38 am | Permalink

    im a white guy, i always date beutiful asian woman,and have no problem finding willing asian dates,asian woman just attact to us like we do them, some dont go with their own race, just like i dont go with mine, we prefer them, they prefer us..i think iv made it clear..its quite simple :-) plus i find them more polite, less foul mouthed and spoilt than the woman of my own race, and they are much more feminine.
    i would also just like to add something, i think the statement at the top of this page was orrigionally writtenby a closed minded american who thinks hes supremist because of it, the british loser he refers to is hugh grant..is he just jelouse of the fact a brit guy took some american girls, it happens all the time, and who cares, people are people, at least we are not all fat on cheeseburger quater pounders like you..your a moron and i dont like how you write, why do you think your so supreme over there in your failing has-been of a violent messed up country, id sooner lick a toilet seat than go there haha( sorry but it annoys me when people think they are better than others for no good reason ;-)

  247. Kojiro
    Posted January 3, 2011 at 7:46 am | Permalink

    what about your white parents? your racist white mother will go into rampage when seeing you guys dating our women. They only wanted you guys to be marrying blue-eyed and yellow haired females only.

    And there’s another thing I would like to tell you retards is that the Asian population(including Indian and middle east Asian) in both Australia and America are 8.7%(aus) and 5%(usa) which are far lower than the African american population of over 10% in america and the mexican population of somewhere 25-35% in usa as predicted for the year 2050. On the other hand, the indian, shilanken and the middle east asian will probably dominate the UK. So when you people keep telling us that we’re populating the earth and taking over your country then obviously you people are asking for a fight…if not a war…

  248. Kojiro
    Posted January 3, 2011 at 7:58 am | Permalink

    Population projections by a Census Bureau report (2008)[34] 2008 2050
    Non-Hispanic whites 68% 46%
    Hispanic (of any race) 15% 30%
    Non-Hispanic blacks 12% 15%
    Asian American 5% 9%
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Race_and_ethnicity_in_the_United_States
    As you people can see, the Asian American will make up around 9% of the US population by the year 2050. And for China their population will be falling from 1.2billion to 800million while comparing to India which will be rising from 1.15billion to 1.4billion in the year 2050. So stop insulting us EAsian and trying to bring us down to control us…

  249. Mikey
    Posted January 10, 2011 at 3:29 am | Permalink

    venganza, it was asian girl who brought up foul smelling americans. I was just supporting her comment. Simply put no, I don’t believe Chinese are superior than any other race. But I KNOW I am superior to YOU.

    Kels, I’m not going to even bother with you, you can’t spell and are completely incoherent. It’s a waste of my time to reply to you. Epic Fail. Perhaps that is a term that even a simpleton such as yourself would understand.

  250. Wakako
    Posted January 10, 2011 at 4:00 pm | Permalink

    To Kojiro: My fiance’s parents have no problem with me being a Japanese American. In fact, they love asking me questions about the culture and are always learning something new.

    To Mikey: I’ve been with Asian guys who smell just as bad if not worse; especially when it came to their breath. It goes both ways. And what’s with the Filipina hate?

  251. venganza
    Posted January 13, 2011 at 3:48 am | Permalink

    Mikey :

    Oh dear dear dear! You poor old thing. Seems this blog is really getting to you. But there you are. You’re on a public blog, me ol’ chap, so lighten up and do, PLEASE DO, finally come down off your high horse. Those who think they’re superior to others are usually the ones who aren’t. KAPISCH?

    Have a lovely day ……

  252. YetAnotherAsianGirl
    Posted January 14, 2011 at 10:22 pm | Permalink

    It’s quite amusing reading these posts and it seems to go around in circles after a while.

    There was 1 post that I would personally agree on the most, which was that the asian men never asked me out.

    I have mostly dated white men that have had the guts to ask me out properly, while the Asian men that were interested kinda just floated around hoping something was going to happen. There is a dating etiquette that Asian men don’t quite seem to get.

    In saying that, I have dated white men who were just as hopeless, but they did make an effort to ask me out for a date at least at some stage. So, it’s to do with ratio of invitations in my case.

    But I do have a preference for blue eyes over brown eyes, even in white men… The hot body helps too, but if they have a wicked sense of humor. Money? I can make my own, thanks.

  253. Jamesjane
    Posted January 15, 2011 at 8:10 pm | Permalink

    Chinese men are pickier on appearance of women and ages than white men. They want girls as young as possible. Most of girls I know have relationship with white guys, either the girl passed desirable age for example 30 (most of the cases), or girls are not very good at showing her feminine side such as not good looking (small eyes, dark skin), not good at makeup or tomboy. Normally, tomboy girls came from family lacking male child, and girls were treated like boy.

  254. JamesJane
    Posted January 15, 2011 at 10:47 pm | Permalink

    I read many articles about Chinese women attracted by Western Men. In my opinion, it is so not true. There are much less Chinese women prefer adventuring life style than white women. Naturally, yellow race are timid and less aggressive. Chinese women prefer their partner grown up in the same culture. Western men are aliens to them on certain level.

    Chinese women have their own difficulties. So far, most of Chinese girls I know have relationship with white men are “left over”.
    Chinese men obsess with couple of things such as age, virginity, appearance, unwilling accepting children from woman’s previous marriage (except he has the same situation), and unwilling accept woman making more money or having higher degree than them.

    In traditional Chinese culture, male dominate the family. Wife making more money or having higher degree will consider as threat the domination of husband.
    Raising child from wife’s ex-marriage, without his own, it is last thing many Chinese men would consider. On contrary, a lot of western man seems more open mind at this.

    Chinese men are very sensitive on partner’s age, but this rule only applies to women.
    When Chinese women reach certain age, typically 30, they consider you are not desirable anymore, even though themselves passed 40. If you compared the Chinese dating site with western dating site, averagely, Chinese man expects the girl whom he will date is 10 years younger than him. In western dating site, a lot white men want date girls who are 5 older or younger than them.

    Chinese men are pickier than white men since they pay more attention on small details.
    If your behaved a little bit tomboy, you may scare them away. It does not matter deep inside you are a very gentle person. They want you wear your gentleness inside out all the time before the marriage, which it is difficult for some girls who is not good at pretending or raised in a family lacking boys. They were bringing up like boy.
    Why do Chinese men pickier than white men? In my opinion, there is a historical reason. Comparing with western culture, Chinese start sexual relationship quite late. Most of Chinese married to his/her first or second lovers. Boys do not have much idea about girls except from love storybooks. They intend to image their future girlfriend faultless until they married, but girls are human, they do have faults. White people intend have sexual relationship early. White men have better idea about what women look like, and their expectations about future girlfriends are more reality.

    To please Chinese men’s eyes, you have lot works need to be done. Dark skin, small eyes are definitely unpopular features, and good at makeup and fashion is definitely “Yes”. If you consider yourself as professional person, paying less attention on makeup and fashion, it is another turn off to lot of Chinese men.
    To white men, things are much simple. As long as you are not very fat, which is very rare among Chinese women, white men think you are good enough. They are more open mind on you having high degree or making more money than them as well.

  255. TheObserver
    Posted January 16, 2011 at 6:46 pm | Permalink

    It is actually much more severe then this blog describes:

    My Asian girl friend #1.
    We had a open relationship. She dates who she wants freely. She dated both Asian and white men. She only dated Asian men from very wealthy families. The Asian men she dated showered her in gifts and took her out to the best places. She never showed them a ounce of affection. Put them down for no reason. And dumped them after a short time. Especially if the Asian male would get serious, like inviting her to meet his parents.

    When she dated white males, there were no financial requirements. Most of her white male dates were poor. She stayed with each one considerably longer then she did with the Asian men. (Keep in mind she dated Asian men and white men at the same time). She would go out of her way to find them jobs, even in her own company. She would give them money. And this is the wow part, most of the white men she were dated cheated on her. Strange that a girl in a open relationship would ask for exclusivity with men. She ALWAYS forgave for cheating.

    This was many years ago. Now she only dates white males. And the abuse continues. Each one cheats on her, each one asks for money and she is never the less madly in love with each one.

    I am just tired of her calling me at night when these white men break her heart.

    With all these rich, tall and handsome white men in America, certainly the largest group of rich men in America, she dates any white male indiscriminately.

    She can witness racism from white males toward Asian males in the form of institutionalized racism or even personal and still love the men that treat her race so cruelly. Human right is at the bottom of her list. After all White men love Asian females. It’s NOT her concern.

    Asian girlfriend #2.

    She was emotionally abused by a white male who was dog ugly, and even lacked the ability to have sex (erection challenged). Her first white boy friend. He cheated on her with 20 other Asian girls. White girls wanted nothing to do with him.
    Yet she couldn’t love him enough. Even after getting dumbed by the cheater and being my girlfriend, she alway wanted to return to him. I gave her the loyalty and attention she never got from him. We made love for hours everyday, something she never got from him. Yet, she could do nothing but think about her abusive time with this men. She even bought sexy clothing and hid them, waiting for the day he would accept her back.

    This is not a preference or even logical.
    It’s a mental illness that is engineered by the white media and all the other forces that highlight white males in society.

  256. Mikey
    Posted January 16, 2011 at 11:07 pm | Permalink

    venganza, simply you just suck dude.

    That’s pretty much the bottom line.

    But let’s not make this into a personal feud as I’m done with you. I gave you your 15 minutes.

    Wakako, I don’t hate on Flipinas. I just had to make light of that situation because whoever that dude was, he was being an idiot, so I had to be an idiot to respond to him. I think his name is rob.

    I just question the who topic of this here premise. I don’t believe that Asian women prefer white men. Period. The numbers show that this is not statistically significant. I made that pretty clear in my first post. The rest is just to hype up this forum. And to get people’s reaction. It worked. It goes to show how narrow our view of society is as we only look at North American society and think it is the be all and end all. I’m just waiting for China to take over everything and we’ll then see, a great change in the members involved in interracial relationships. I think it will be balanced out.

    We all have this misconception that blacks are supposed to be the best athletes, but the Summer Olympics showed that China won the most gold medals. Proving that may be race doesn’t really play a factor in athletics. And perhaps race doesn’t really play a factor in most human interactions?

  257. venganza
    Posted January 17, 2011 at 2:31 am | Permalink

    Mikey :

    And what makes you think that you’re somehow entitled to MORE than 15 minutes. THIS IS A PUBLIC BLOG you dumbo. And who honestly cares who or what you’re ”done with, or not ”done with”?

    So when it comes to sucking (seems to be a favourite word with you), why not apply that to yourself - if you can reach it LOL ……

    Oh, and BTW, I’m not even American, or white, (I’m Semitic and proud of it) but don’t go around boasting about my roots or whether this, or that, particular ethnicity is going to ”take over everything” as seems to be a habit with you.

    Oh, and in my humble opinion, Olympic medals don’t equate to superiority. I think there used to be a guy called Hitler who did apparently think along those lines though. Hmmmmmmmm

  258. What the
    Posted January 22, 2011 at 7:49 pm | Permalink

    You’re logic is incomplete and disregards the opposite possibility. What if the Asian was #2 and white was #1? You can’t universalize a logic that you use without considering all the possibilities first.

  259. asia
    Posted January 23, 2011 at 8:13 pm | Permalink

    sigh…everyone in these posts just go around in circles. And there are so many generalizations and stereotypes about asian women, interracial dating/marraiges. Being a filipino woman dating a caucasian australian man for two years now, i do not appreciate comments that asian women are submissive because i am not one, this is just a negative stereotype and comments such as a white man only goes for asians because they cant get white women. I believe before me, my man dated white women and it just did not work ouit. Before my current boyfriend, i dated an indian guy and that did not work out either. I am attracted to my boyfriend’s beautiful green eyes but ive also been attracted to good looking men from other cultures and have dated men from different bg, chinese, indian, fijian, german, caucasian american, lebanese and also my own kind filipino. A few were serious relationships and some did not last that long. I do believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and everyone has their own preferences in terms of looks. Attractiveness is one thing becuase as for me there are a lot of hot men from all different cultures but lasting relationships are another, for those people who have made relationships work whether its interracial or not, good on them. Relationships aere obviously more than just skin colour or making beautiful mixed babies. For asian women, who feel inferior about themselves and for that reason just prefer dating white men, well i feel sorry for u, dating a white man isnt going to fix your insecurities and for white men who sees asian women as objects, i feel sorry for you too becaus we are people. And for white women who feel that asian women are stealing all the white men, id say get a grip, asian women are not any better or worse than white women. I have beautiful caucasian friends from all over the world who think that way of thinking is just wrong, if your love life is suffering, its not because asian women are stealing all the white men, its cos u need to do something about your love life. We live at a time of globalization and multiculturalism, interracial dating is a choice, in the past while it was shunned, its becoming the norm but it doesnt mean its everyones preference. Statistics show that couples who survive in their relationship usually have a great deal of compromise, understanding each other, have similar values, accept each others differences, respect and honesty. Although some asian women marry white man to get out of third world countries this is their choice, i dont agree to this being an immigrant myself whose filipino middle-class family worked hard to come to australia. Bu then again, people marry from all races marry for different for reasons good or bad so i dont think its for anyone to judge either. I also agree to the generalization that asian women have stronger family values but it doesnt mean western white culture doesnt have family values because my man is very close to his family. Its just that in a lot of asian cultures, being family orientated is expected and the oned who is better off than most is expected go provide. And on a final note, i love my boyfriend not because he is white, its certainly a part of him but not all of him. I am very lucky that he is good looking and he finds me attractive as well but also we share the same values that we both love our families, we are both introverted, dont smoke or drink much, love to get fit, excercise and go hiking together, both have agnostic/atheist belief, honest to each other, sensitive to each others needs, he is more relaxed and more adventurous than me but i am more organized and practical than him which means we balance each other out and we are defintely good in bed together which i think are all aspects in having a lasting relationship.

  260. HRK1
    Posted January 27, 2011 at 3:59 am | Permalink

    If this is the sort of quality of advice from a so-called MBA from Harvard, I’ll be asking for my money back. I hope your response is not typical of all Harvard MBA graduates. Your response of “fetishes”and “martial arts” is somewhat a stereo-typical response from a narrow-minded white American who havent considered the different dynamics of cross-cultural partnerships. Although, there is some economics involved, important aspects to your response are lacking. Let me explain and hopefully provide a different perspective into the issue of “asian women marrying foreigners”.

    My cultural, educational and professional background:
    I am a full-blooded Native Filipino male (my tribe is called the igorots), I was born and grew up in Philippines. When my father worked in Middle-East in the 70’s, I did high school in Kuwait for a short time, however, when my father saved enough money, I was sent to study in Manchester, England. I finished my highschool in Manchester and finished my double-degree in BA Arts (linguistic history) and Bacherlor of Social Studies (Social Behaviour) at the University of Manchester. I majored in Malay and Spanish languages (the two languages that forms the filipino language) and in Asia-Pacific international relations. I did my Masters Degree (Social Behavioural Psychology) at the University of Edinburgh, Scotland. As part of my research thesis, I did exchange studies at the University of Massachusetts (Lowell), USA and University of Sydney, Australia. As an adult, I have worked in UN’s UNICEF and in various Embassies (Ottawa, Manila, Canberra (Aus) and Wellington (NZ)) as a senior case officer, processing and investigating so-called “spouse visa” applications by foreign men on behalf of their so-called asian “fiancee”.

    Asian women who grew up in white countries (ie USA, UK, Canada):
    Asian women, who from the moment of their birth were born in white countries, will grow up in that society and culture. They will be assimilated into white society through the process of growing up, going to school and the society they grow up in. These Asian women will consider themselves as part of white society and therefore more likely to find white men as partners. Since these women have grown up in a white society, white men (normally of their age group) will see them as part of their white society and consider them prospective partners (along with the rest of the female demographics of that society).

    American military and the Asian wife phenomenon:
    Since World War II, Korean War and most definitely, Vietnam War, as well as the permanent American bases in Okinawa Japan, Subic Bay and Clark Air Force Base (both in Philippines), the phenomenon of American white military men with Asian wives have become common over the decades. So much so, that it had a big impact on the wider population on both side of the pacific. As American men bring their asian wives into mainland USA, other white american men will see their compatriots with wives and they themselves will want to try their luck. Also, in countries like Philippines, more and more women realised that their fellow filipina women are bagging white husbands, they too would like to try their luck…so it became a meeting of wants-and-needs on both sides (ie white men who couldnt find a wife within their own race will want to try finding an asian wife, whereas an underclass asian woman will need a foreign husband at all cost to get out of her third-world country). The impact on this is the growth of the so-called “mail-order-bride” industries in the late 70’s - 80’s (currently evolved into “internet-order” brides).

    Percieved and hidden racism - Old white men with young asian woman:
    There is a hint of racist prejudice on both white men (who wants a young asian wife) and asian women who deliberately prepare themselves for the mail-order market. Older white men looking for an asian wife tend to be divorced or they could not find a white wife (wherein white females consider them not suitable). You will not find these kind of white men with 18-year old blonde, blue eyed, well endowed cheerleader girlfriends (I doubt it if their fathers will let them date that sort of person). These white men tend to be what you see in Jerry Springer - common white trailer trash. Interestingly, you will not find these kind of white men with asian women who grew up in white countries. Currently, there is now a second or third generations of Filipina women who are American born and yet older white men will rather “order” a Filipina from Philippines. That is where the hidden racism is. Old white men, sub-conciously know that they will not be successful in getting wives in their own society (where they find themselves at the bottom end of the pecking order). However, when they go to third world countries (like Philippines), they will be treated like kings, get the special treatment that they could not get from their own people. Hence, from their point of view, they will find success from a country, who’s economy, culture and society is percieved as “lower” than their white society. And local Filipinos, perpetuate this hidden racism by actually “bowing” to the so-called “superior-ness” of these white men.

    Also, Filipinos in Philippines (knowingly or un-knowingly) contribute to this hidden racism. There are Filipino parents (sad to say), that groom their daughters to make them adorable to foreign husbands, hence this will allow their daughter, including the parents, to get out of their provincial under-class existence. These sort of Filipino parents tend to object to their daughters dating local filipino guys (also, these sort of daughters tend to be snobbish towards filipino guys and yet absolutely pleasing and submissive to foreign men…which is the trump card in bagging a foreign husband). So, you can almost say that these Filipinos are racist towards their own kind. And yet they do not realise that these sort of behaviour discriminates against their own people. In contrast, there are the minority of upper-class Filipinos who marry within the Filipino society, due to the fact that they are financially secure within their own rights. They do not need the so-called financial security that an old white guy can allegely provide.

    During my time at the American consulate in Manila (mid 90’s), an old white guy came into my office complaining that he went to a bar to pick up chicks and he was completely ignored by the filipina women. I told him that the bar he went to was for high society types and the girls in that bar are from affluent families of Philippines upper-class and that the society they are from and education they have (most are educated in America or Europe) are well above his Arizona-slack-jawed-trailer park upbringing. He took it well. I think he was more mesmerized that a short, chocolate brown skin, curly-black haired filipino guy spoke with an accent similar to Timothy Dalton or Peirce Brosnan.

    Speaking of accents, my time in USA did not actually “bring in the chicks” for me regardless of my accent. I actually thought that they saw me as a circus exhibit wherein my racial features did not match the level of English I have or the accent in which it was spoken. As for your martial arts comment, not all asian guys do martial arts nor should martial arts be the only criteria in dating an Asian guy.

    I recommend you stick with economics and provide a solution to the global financial crisis. Solving complex multi-dynamic inter-cultural issues is not in the curricullum of Harvard MBA program…I checked it, when I was a visiting researcher at UMass (Lowell).

  261. Shelly
    Posted February 12, 2011 at 7:42 pm | Permalink

    Wow, it’s good to know that sexism is still alive and well today.
    The comments people leave here are just sad. Things like “all Asian women are submissive” or “white women all have attitudes and don’t know how to take care of themselves or their significant others”. The comment that makes me laugh the most though are the ones that delusional white men make about white women looking less youthful longer. Newflash…white men hardly age that well themselves. Look at how many white men go bald and/or get pot bellies by the time they’re 30. Being overweight is as much of a problem with white men also as much as it is for white women. Get over yourselves-you don’t look any better when you age than white women do, the only difference is that men don’t have to actually look good for a women to be attracted to them. Women don’t discriminate based on age or how young a person looks when considering being in a relationship, either. It’s a double standard.
    And not all white men prefer Asian women either. Most white men date/marry other white women.

  262. Dan
    Posted February 15, 2011 at 6:10 am | Permalink

    I am finding this thread interesting… I was married for 16 years to a snobbish white woman who only thought of herself. I know that is not all American woman, but their is a certain general attitude from both the men and women here in America that we all “deserve” certain criteria when choosing a mate. The goal for most people is to find someone who you can love and spend your days with. If they are also attractive, it is a nice bonus - let’s also separate the primitive instincts of physical attraction verses real love. Deep down we are all still animals and have those instincts. After I was divorced I was involved with a totally smokin’ hot girl from Philly who was 15 years younger than me. Problem was, she and I were at different stages in our lives and I knew it was not a good idea. Sad as I was to break it off with her, I did. After a break, I jumped back into the game. By total chance I met a 36 year old woman from China. She looks younger - 25-30, but so do I. I am 44 but everyone I met thinks I’m 10 years younger. Even people I’ve known for awhile. She is a great mix of traditional and modern/western styles. She has a college degree in law and works in commercial real estate in China. She is very attractive (to white guys, Asian guys - all guys). But to be truly honest, I fell in love with here because of her brains, her wit, value of family and personality. Looks fade, as we all know. There are tons of good looking people out there. In the long run I realized that she is the right woman for me based on what I was looking for in a spouse. I did not go looking for a “China doll”. I was looking for my partner. If she was Russian, Italian, Brazilian, American - whatever - it would not matter because I separated the primal “looks” instinct from my true criteria. The fact is, a good looking woman is a good looking woman. If you have a preference, turn on’s, whatever - that’s fine. Everyone has them. Its chemistry and biology that will not be changed. In the end, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Is Uma Thurman hot? Not to me - sorry people. What about Denise Richards? I can’t stand her. To many men it’s not just about the wrapper, it also about what’s inside.

    Another consideration for the recent interracial marriage trends is that our world has become much smaller in the last twenty years. Modern technology, media, travel and foreign trade are bringing cultures closer and engage more frequently. With that continued exposure there is bound to be a continued growth of mixture of cultures. One earlier post talked about Vietnam and Korean war. Those were two obvious points where American men were exposed to a new culture and its “native beauty”. Again, if he or she is good looking - so be it. Again, my nephew in the navy said he could not believe how hot the woman were in Fiji when he was there. Polynesian - not Asian, there is a difference. The question remains as to whether two people are willing to make the cultural, social and economic sacrifices - if any - to have a successful relationship.

    My fiancee is Chines. I am American. She is learning to speak better English and I am learning Mandarin. We will live in America, but I am not opposed to living in China either. I have former co-workers who live there and say t is great. Bottom line to me is I love here and she loves me. We will do what it takes to make it work. The fact that she is Chinese is a simple fact, not fetish. We will enjoy our life together regardless of what critics may say. AS far as I’m concerned, we should see more mixed marriages. Maybe it would help us all understand each other better. That may seem stupid, but it’s easy to hate what we don’t understand. The world is a big place with lots of colors. Enjoy…

  263. k
    Posted March 13, 2011 at 9:12 pm | Permalink

    Subjective answer without any statistical data or facts to support your conclusion. Harvard has lower cut-line nowadays.

  264. hector
    Posted March 20, 2011 at 6:11 pm | Permalink

    Beyonce can’t hold a candle to Jessica Alba or Megan Fox?? What planet are you from and how much crack are you smoking?

  265. Jennifer
    Posted April 17, 2011 at 5:29 pm | Permalink

    I think there’s an awful lot of stereotyping on here… so let me add to it.

    I have a white guy friend married to a Korean woman. She’s super ambitious, runs two companies, has kids, and nags him to death. My experience of Asian women is that they’re even more critical, demanding, unreasonable, and emotional than most white women. They also seem a lot smarter and more grounded.

    I don’t think white men are looking for submissive geishas. I think they are looking for controlling, dominating, brilliant women who will order them around, nag them, and ultimately take care of them. White women want to be rescued like Cinderella. So do white men. It’s a wonder we’re not all dating Asians.

  266. sean N
    Posted April 17, 2011 at 6:03 pm | Permalink

    I believe this is cause half by perceptions of races and male/female masculine/feminine difrences bewteen races. The more masculine the males ussualy the more attractive. The more feminie a women the more attractive which is a biological respones. Asain women generaly the most feminie of all races reasons theses an asain fetish by white males. The perceptions of raciest plays for example white males and ussualy the most desired but black men are genrally more masculine. White males are though to be more superiory and succsesful if you want to belive it or not causing them to be more desired dispite being less masculine then blacks. Although I feel gene difrecities in whites an many other factors play a small roles in causing this aswell.

  267. Eric
    Posted April 19, 2011 at 8:26 am | Permalink

    To HRK1:

    There are plenty of older white men dating younger white women. Besides, what 18-year-old young woman would take dating advice from her father anyway?

  268. Coolguy
    Posted April 21, 2011 at 6:58 am | Permalink

    Back in the 1800’s white men would go to asia (particulary japan or china) to get a girlfriend because they thought they asian women were so exotic. As a black man who likes asian women i wouldnot go to japan for a girlfriend even though i would be heavily liked.

  269. didi
    Posted May 3, 2011 at 8:11 am | Permalink

    well am making a comment here from shanghai:you will find these days that the best looking chinese girls are not going for white men at all. period. it is truth that asian women find the white men attractive, because they are taller and better looking. however these days, the asian girls are better educated to realize that there is serious culture difference there, a marriage with a man of their same race can be challenging…adding the culture difference, it is extremely tough to make a cross-culture and cross-race marriage work!!

  270. Posted May 7, 2011 at 3:18 pm | Permalink

    The commenter JL, up at the top is an idiot and sounds like a racist. Black men are more muscular? Really? White women are less feminine? If you want to use intelligence studies on race, or studies on health, lifespan, etc, fine, but when you say things that are totally subjective like that you sound like a moron.

  271. The Word
    Posted May 7, 2011 at 5:18 pm | Permalink

    Chinese guys are UGLY…By the world’s standards. The chinese people are dirty, uncivilized, rude, racist, sexist and xenophobic sub-humans (low evolution). I know, I had to work there for two years.

    I want to address the issue of crime in the USA compared to chimpland (chiner)…

    Some people say that China has a lower crime rate than most developed countries including America but how about the quality of life. I would like to address this question and others.
    Crime is lower than in the U.S.A.-Only because the statistics aren’t always accurate. How many women get the shit beat out of them, often on a public street, just because they refuse to do what their husbands tell them, and nobody helps? How many women are raped and trafficked every year because of the sick, twisted cultural preference for a son-and-only-a-son has resulted in virtually all Chinese couples wanting a boy as their only child, and now there are not enough girls in China left to go around; how has the outdated patriarchal chauvanist belief that males are the only people in China with a right to live, a right to be number one how has it permanently scarred Chinese society, how is it that GIRLS must always swallow bitterness?! What good is holding up half the sky if your husband, in private, beats you with the other half or if you are poor sells your “services” to another man in the village, like a peddler sells vegetables? What good is it when you are told from the day you are born to suffer in silence because nobody gives A DAMN ABOUT YOU and only care if you are a good cook, a good fuck, and a slave who must bow down ever lower so that when your husband takes a mistress, you will finally bow so low you will never be able to get up again?!!
    How many bribes does it take before a public figure finally is sated?-By my estimates, it is a black hole of money, and oh, what was that?-IT IS ALL ILLEGAL. A few years ago a party member, some local bureaucrat, got caught with his pants down and several thousand RMB in his back pocket, plus half a dozen fake passports from different nations. It is a well known fact that this happens from time to time, but isn’t it a bit odd that it usually comes during a cycle in which there is some civil unrest directed at Beijing? Isn’t it a bit odd that multiple times, businessmen from multiple countries and four continents have recorded incidents of much higher level officials throwing tantrums when they were not presented with MILLIONS OF RMB in bribes and the Chinese public, conveniently, knows nothing about it? Isn’t it convenient that every single business within China is ultimately owned by a tiny group of men within the CCP…..and there are almost no laws preventing them from skimming off the top??!!
    China and the printing press and other inventions and imperialism: Sorry, Charlie, sounds to me like you have read to much propaganda. You did invent gunpowder, the compass, and paper, but that really isn’t useful when your country stagnated socially, scientifically, and economically sometime around 1580. The world shot right past you because you got complacent and snootily stuck your nose in the air and declared yourself the center of the world. You were still using scrolls when books were being used everywhere else in the world by 1600. While Locke was formulating ideas about government being derived from the people, you still had an emperor who was worshipped as a god. You were so insular that when you first saw a U.S. flag on the back of a ship, you thought the symbols on the blue part were flowers, not STARS. YOU invented gunpowder for hand cannons and fireworks, but you did not take it a step farther and invent new weapons like guns and cannons. You did not learn any new mathematical discoveries and thus learned absolutely nothing about aerodynamics, meterology, medicine, and physics: thus, when the Opium Wars broke out, the Chinese ships, based upon 15th century design, were woefully outmatched by Royal Navy ships of the line, the latter armed to the teeth with cannons and with men armed with bayonets and rifles. When the Boxer Rebellion, Sino-Japanese Wars, and Rape of Nanking came,the whole cycle happened again: Japan had opened up during the Meiji Period and in so doing traded a lot, getting very new ideas on science, technology, and philosophy. The result of this was, by WWII, Japan had enormous fleets of airplanes that were technologically advanced and deadly accurate, warships made of steel, factories, you name it. China, by contrast, didn’t even have areas of the country that had electricity….and in some cases, still doesn’t.
    When the Third Pandemic broke out around 1855, the local population reacted by scrambling for traditional medicines and ancient superstition and as a result of not adopting any new methods because they were too gwai lo the plague stuck around in China for decades afterwards (it wasn’t until 1894 that a Frenchman in Hong Kong discovered the cause of plague….not a native Chinese…a Frenchman.) On top of it all, for many decades continuing well into the 20th century, whenever there was an outbreak of cholera, smallpox, or the like, instead of looking for scientific causes the local population reached for “traditional” superstitions and in so doing, all perished or sometimes made epidemics worse; as per usual the powerful reacted by pretending nothing was wrong and investing minimal time or effort into saving lives (funny how the action in Beijing today is similar with regards to HIV.)
    Over the past hundred fifty years China did not invent the computer, locomotive, refrigerator, ultrasound device, GPS, sonar, atomic bomb, nuclear warhead, internet, sewing machine, lightbulb, combustible engine, assembly line, and so many medicines too numerous to mention. And in its rise it hasn’t invented anything either-but it sure as hell has made a lot of copies, some of them costing people lives due to shoddy workmanship. Gee, I wonder what the future has in store…. Fuck, I may go bust if I get cancer in America, but at least there will be drugs to treat me and there is no danger it will be pumped full of lead instead of its label as mushrooms because of the FDA!!
    Gitmo-Lao gai. That is all I will say. You have had them in place for over 50 years. Gitmo has barely existed for 10 and none of its prisoners are citizens as most were caught in Afghanistan; in fact, there is currently a push for civilian trials. Your only Nobel Prize winner sits inside one right now as we speak and don’t you dare give me the bullshit about “it is all an act to embarass China.” You did that all on your own. 10 years ago, as I recall, in many Chinese bookstores virtually every Nobel Laureate was translated into Chinese. It all changed only when you were forced to confront inconvenient truths about yourself: that the Chinese people cannot bare to hear any kind of criticism about their nature and can only resort to racial epithets in private when discussing the so-called audacity of “foreign devils” to say (HORROR OF HORRORS!) negative things about China. (Sorry, fools, some of us understand Mandarin, Cantonese, etc.) It also reveals government will do anything to silence dissent and call it “maintaining harmony” (all it really means is “maintaining power.”) It will even kill people for it, just like Russia did years ago with gulags. Gitmo is a national embarassment, but that will end someday soon because the idiots who started that mess are due for retirement within the next ten years and a new generation will come into power (incidentally, your cultural obsession with worshipping the old is going to bite you in the ass, very, very hard, as it means anybody over the age of 25 canot hope to inherit power for another 45 years…and because of the one child policy, there will be too few to fill the gaps.) With the Nobel Prize, this isn’t even the first time it has happened: Gao Xingjian, a playwright, had to flee China before he could win his Nobel and currently ALL of his works are banned in China. He is currently in Paris…and got persecuted for saying anything about 198+.
    Oh, and btw: America also has free public education, stupid, up to the age of eighteen, and more than half of its population goes on to college. Yours does not. You have literally millions of migrant workers who are barely literate who have zero hope of ever attending school beyond a certain point. You have people, usually the poor, taking a shit in the middle of the street and brag about education. You have snakeheads who are trying their hardest to sneak as many people out of Fujian as possible and making millions off it. Meanwhile, party hacks, especially the rich fat Beijing or Shanghai pigs at the top, always seem to manage to get their child the best of everything….including an education abroad for college, not in China, ABROAD. They did a brilliant job of planting as many little larva of the insects that run China in the audience when Obama was there, really, I congratulate you (clap, clap) but the only thing proven that day was China made a fool of itself…AGAIN. Because wealth does not always create freedom.
    Communism-No, dumb dumb, we dislike Communism because after WWII Russia tried to eat Western Europe and pretty much gobbled up Eastern Europe in the process, not to mention Central Asia. Karl Marx’s giant mistake is that he placed too much faith in the committees that run things and did not set up much of a plan of what to do AFTER the revolution was finished. The stories of Poland and others as to what their lives were like under such systems, what is happening right now in North Korea, what happened to Russia under Stalin-THAT is why we don’t like Communism. The only difference is, we can hear those stories and you never will: because there is more than one Great Wall of China. THAT is freedom. So enjoy communism…I am going to go watch whatever movie I want, read whatever book I want, and tell my leaders to go fuck themselves with a red hot poker if the mood so lifts me because I won’t be sent away to a lao gai and I don’t believe they are my betters whom I should give “gifts.”

  272. Ben
    Posted May 9, 2011 at 4:04 am | Permalink

    Wow, this post will never die! So I’ll contribute my bit, too. I think HRK1 is pretty much spot on. Asians do not make up a big percentage in America. So we generally grew up around whites. I grew up kind of thinking I was white, except that I wasn’t–not even close. For Asian women it’s a lot easier to be accepted by white society. We see a lot of Asian women paired up with white men because they simply can. It takes a lot of work for the other way around to happen–Asian men with white women. I’m an average guy, and I’ve had relationships with hispanic women, black women, and white women. I’ve never had a relationship with one of my own, an Asian woman. WTF? If an Asian woman was born in America, you can be sure 90% of them will only date white men. One other thing, I don’t know where the author gets this “most white guys have an Asian fetish” thing. I don’t think that’s true at all. A handsome white guy most likely will date a pretty white woman. Just look around. BUT, a dorky loser, bitter old failure of a white guy–they go after Asian women. Why? Because they think they have a better chance with them since they are failures with their own race. They’ll make up all kinds of rationalizations too, like how American white women are this and that–but the cold hard truth is that they are FAILURES with their own women, so they need to seek out what they consider “lesser” women, who in this case still turn out to be pretty damn hot.

  273. Jon
    Posted May 10, 2011 at 8:29 pm | Permalink

    Some white guys (not all) have Asian fetishes because some Asian women (again, not all) have white men fetishes. Gender roles almost dictates that men do the chasing; they will ultimately take whatever they can get. But if given a choice of women, they are more inclined to chase those who give them more success, all else being equal. In purely financial terms, men invest in assets that offer the best risk/reward premium. It’s that simple.

    Now the more complex question is why do some Asian women have white men fetishes. It’s not purely a “numbers game.” We know it exist because those women say so, “I only date white guys.” Even more interesting is why too often these women feel compelled to throw their Asian men under the bus to justify their fetish.

    The author’s explanation of the white men fetish was quite feeble and ridden with all sorts of generalization and racial stereotypes. But what do you expect from a Harvard MBA? All fluff.

  274. Jon Woo the 3rd
    Posted May 13, 2011 at 4:46 am | Permalink

    Its because Asian women are very horny love to blow cock and get down and dirty(hence why a whole lot of horney white men are hanging around,Hugh Grant the biggest star/slut now hes got some asian dirty girl) so hes happy also not all but its known fact asians have smaller equipment women love/crave agood sized cok.

  275. woman
    Posted May 14, 2011 at 8:47 pm | Permalink

    I think men like women who are different, and they believe the stereotype of a submissive Asian women. I cannot understand the attraction. Most Asian women have bodies like a 14 year old boy. I notice that many Italian guys date Asians because they’re dumb enough to believe in the submissiveness stereotype. The Asian women I’ve known don’t take crap from any man.

  276. White Guy
    Posted May 17, 2011 at 4:44 pm | Permalink

    I don’t get it either, my best friend dated beautiful women, I mean REAL beautiful women and he ended up marrying a very unattractive Asian!?!? Don’t get me wrong, she is very nice, but my god, she is not pretty to look at. I don’t know what men see in Asian women, I am missing something. Asian women are infatuated with white guys, at his wedding I could have slept with about half of the Asian women, I mean they were all over me, but I am not attracted to them. Asian women have no ASS, no BOOBS and they are not very sexy. The kids would not come out very good looking either, mutants!

  277. Elle
    Posted May 20, 2011 at 8:44 am | Permalink

    I live in Jacksonville, FL and I see quite a few asian male/while female pairs, but not really asian women/white male. Usually the first pairing involves a doctor asian male or some other professional. I was in a korean restaurant last night. The asian guy was handsome and fit, but the white woman was very overweight, possibly obese. I didn’t understand it at all. I am not prejudiced against an overweight woman, but the pair did not look good at all! I think everyone should pair up with people who look good together, same race or not!

  278. Elle
    Posted May 20, 2011 at 8:49 am | Permalink

    Hey, I’m an asian woman and I find some of you guys’ posts offensive
    (and very mean). But, that’s your opinion. Think of us as slutty, dirty, whatever. You will not appreciate a good asian woman because of your attitude…too bad you will not ever meet one! I am attractive and tall. I have a nice butt and nice boobs. I can’t believe I have to justify my body to a bunch of strangers on the net. Sigh. Not every asian has small eyes, is short, and lacks any secondary sexual characteristics. Just keep it real and kind, okay?

  279. Howard Crawford
    Posted May 21, 2011 at 1:26 pm | Permalink

    I think a lot of you folks have got it wrong. Firstly I speak more than just English and can speak a couple of Asian languages. Asian women do not prefer ‘white guys!’ It’s often an economic driven choice and my brother in law who is a doctor laughs at the number of ‘old’ guys who throw themselves out of windows because the beautiful early 20’s Asian does not find their ‘beer belly and wrinkles’ a ‘turn on.’

    Get real people, some mixed marriages do work and yes, Asian women have a much higher ‘marriage ethic’ but if they had the choice. They would choose a good looking guy over the old ugly guy. Asian women are not mentally retarded, they are practical. Learn the language of the Asian woman you are courting, live like an Asian for a year or two, like me and then you will understand.

    By the way, my wife is Asian and is the best woman I have ever known! Others I have known are no better or worse than the average ‘white’ woman. It comes down to the individuals concerned.

  280. Howard Crawford
    Posted May 21, 2011 at 1:37 pm | Permalink

    By the way, my Asian wife is better off than myself financially and I would never want her coming to a Western Country, as I love her too much and she loves her home. I want residency there and prefer their way of life and culture.

    People are just people the World over and what you want, they want. Show respect and you will get the same but beware, not all are genuine, same as America, Britain, Australia, Canada etc.

  281. pablo
    Posted May 21, 2011 at 11:59 pm | Permalink

    Ok, if asian girls don’t date asian guys anymore, what will happen with asian people in the future? I mean, all “asians” will be mixed, let’s be honest an asian girl have a lot of chances to score with a white male or another non-asian male (if she wants), however asian guys don’t have many chances to score with non-asian females, we will see only eurasians or hapas (white dad, asian mom) but not full blooded asians because as far i know, asian dad + asian mom = asian kid, hold on, if this IR relationships between AF and WM increases, asian women will dissapear too, at least in USA and Canada, bad news ¡¡¡¡¡ :(

  282. Brock Wang
    Posted May 23, 2011 at 10:27 am | Permalink

    I’m an Asian guy who has mostly dated black and Hispanic women throughout my life. Although, I’ve dated women of every race, I find that black women are more attracted to me than any other race. They’ve told me that I’m exotic and I treat them better than most black men who are usually broke and argumentative, or are into some form of thuggery. I am not too attracted to Asian girls because many are spoiled and naive, which probably comes from being sheltered all their lives by their parents. I find myself attracted to women who have strong personalities or are a bit on the dangerous side, which I find invigorating. I believe most people ultimately choose their mates based on a combination of their own self identity and their ideal image.

  283. Mr. CallitLikeIseeit
    Posted May 23, 2011 at 10:50 am | Permalink

    Many Asian women are into white guys because they have low self esteem and lack pride in their own cultural identity, which has been brainwashed into them from an early age by western media. They see white guys as superior beings who can help them elevate their status in western society. Meanwhile, these same white men see Asian girls as exotic pieces of meat who will be subservient to them as geisha-like companions. Most of these white men tend to be the type who’ve been rejected by or cannot handle women of their own kind due to their weak personalities and quirkiness. As a result, they seek out a less challenging conquest in Asian women, who tend to be less aggressive and more agreeable than women of other races. This is not to say lasting relationships cannot develop from such dynamics as everyone has their own personal motives for choosing a mate.

  284. Yourasiandaddy
    Posted May 23, 2011 at 11:29 am | Permalink

    I am an Asian guy who’s banged close to 100 white women in my life. Even though I’m not really attracted to Caucasian women, I do enjoy having intercourse with them simply so I can “stick it to Whitey.” I find most white men to be arrogant, obnoxiously self assertive, wannabe tough guys who like to blow things up for no reason but to make themselves feel more secure with their masculinity. On top of that they have no rhythm, and smell like wet dogs. As much as I can’t stand white men, I do find it funny watching the awkwardness at the dinner table when Asian girls bring home their token white guy fashion accessories to meet the parents and the ensuing hysterics that follow as we roast him in our language without him having a clue to what we are saying. LOL

  285. 567
    Posted May 26, 2011 at 4:48 am | Permalink

    Please…you went Harvard MBA but this issue got stuck on your mind. Please drop this out of your mind and leave your life in happiness. Please let the thread die and get yourself free.

  286. anon
    Posted June 9, 2011 at 4:22 pm | Permalink

    I have dated men from all walks and races. Literally. Yes, i am sexy they tell me. My preference is Asian men. I married one and had 2 children, now adults. Asian men, you need to either learn to be more outgoing, not part of the culture or in some cases tone it down. I see 2 types. The highly educated and dignified men and the gangbanger. Girls long term do want a gangbanger. They like strong men.

  287. K
    Posted June 12, 2011 at 5:12 am | Permalink

    This is fucking stupid. Your website is fucking trash. Ask Harvard? What the fuck does it have to do with this question. Foolish fag who thinks he is an elite.

  288. Paul Smith
    Posted June 14, 2011 at 2:30 pm | Permalink

    I’m married to a Chinese wife and asking her she says loyalty. A lot of Chinese men tend to have mistresses or affairs once married.

    Secondly is money. Western men are seen as richer (though this may be untrue), and shes more likely to get a house if she marries a western guy.

    Third Control. Western men are far easier to control. In China its very easy to get a divorce for both the man and women. In the UK and USA a women is much more likely to get a very good divorce settlement (usually 50% - 100%) of the money, so hes less likely to wander or do anything bad

    Incidently dont expect a subservient compliant wife. In most Asian societies the man is seen as controlling the outside and the woman the inside (house). In Japan for example the woman controls the finances and gives the man pocketmoney (usually not a lot). In China its the men that generally cook

  289. wise guy
    Posted June 19, 2011 at 4:23 am | Permalink

    Pablo knows what i mean,this means asian fullbloods will become extinct leading to hapa left overs.

  290. Half
    Posted June 25, 2011 at 7:09 am | Permalink

    I would hope people date other people because they like that person, not because of some weird racial fetish. Having said that, I grew up in an area where the only minority was asian. My first girlfriend was asian and so was my fifth, but I dated mostly white women. Now I have an asian women I am dating again. But each time, it wasn’t because she was asian or white, but because she was a wonderful person. And in my own opinion they were all beautiful, inside and out. I could care less what race someone is, I care what they are inside.

  291. DSO
    Posted June 25, 2011 at 8:10 pm | Permalink

    These perspectives and comments are bemusing.

    I am mostly white. I am physically built like a neanderthal with an average face and turquoise eyes. I might not be able to run as fast in the 40 yard dash but I am naturally stronger than most men. Must be the short legs, long arms and wide shoulders.

    I am successful, who cares, and have been called moderate, liberal and conservative by my diverse peers.

    I do not believe a persons looks or monetary success guarantee a lasting relationship. The author’s perspective that I prefer youthful looking women is interesting but I believe more important to affluent old geezers who dream a dream of days gone by.

    My wife is a few years older than I am. She looks younger than most women her age because she has pride in her appearance and takes care of herself.

    I discovered years ago that I prefer Asian women in our present world since all but one that I had ever befriended tended to know what they wanted, did not bore easily and actually wanted a partner not a meal ticket. Most worked to fix problems, did not excessively drink, smoke or need drugs. They usually did not pretend men read minds and were not always looking for a bigger or better deal unless their relationship was irretrievable.

    It likely helps that my beliefs tend to match Asian sensibilities. These sensibilities used to be part of our culture 60 years ago. I am a dinosaur.

    I do agree that men and women regardless of race tend to bond when they share an equal desire. However, I was always attracted to a woman who genuinely smiled at adversity regardless of the color or shape of their features.

    I like the debate. It caught my eye since I am one of the white men it references.

  292. Sarah
    Posted June 26, 2011 at 1:40 am | Permalink

    Money, power, status… will come to the grave with each person as they expired….
    Soul is the one who will live eternally and what is inside the heart.

    As a Filipino, media portrays what is desirable and if u see in the Philippines western look is being favored, tall, pale skin, rich…
    Before, I used to think only Caucasian guys would like me because of that colonization thing (so I was insecure.. but that didn’t make me not value myself as a woman and throw myself at any WM I see) that Filipino guys would think I’m ugly because I’m short, big eyes, dark skin.. … kinda exotic as they say… so I’m perceived to like White men in general because I thought they appreciate me more but I was totally wrong, men regardless of any race, black, white, asian, latins like me all three attributes above add big boobs , not flat ass but not big either… it’s a question if they like me enough to know me and respect me and love me and not to just sleep with me and have fun.

    Gold diggers girls marrying just to go to the West? not likely, they sure might want to elevate their economic status for marrying someone with a green card but they wouldn’t blindly marry someone who have an ugly personality, who will not be good to them and will not be a good influence, they sure wont go for old bald fat guys either just cause of money, I won’t. I need to be sure I can sleep with someone every night wihout puking
    before marrying him.
    Gold diggers are rare occurrence, the fact is most girls regardless of any race will choose someone who can be a good provider to build up a family, happy and secure…. so West means financially secure despite the recession, do the math, at least we , from third world don’t make designer things as hobbies like some other people simply because we know there are more impt things in life because we had it rough, and what may be a necessity to you is a luxury to us.
    In our society, most Filipino guys are perceive as two timing pathological liar individual.. seriously.. And I don’t think all white guys are handsome, hence I can definitely point out super ugly WM although I would think an average Caucasian looks handsome because I’m not brought up in the West and my perception is different with the rest of the world…race and issue, age doesn’t matter at the end of the day two very different people are together because they feel appreciated for who they are.

  293. Sarah
    Posted June 26, 2011 at 1:41 am | Permalink

    As a Filipino, media portrays what is desirable and if u see in the Philippines western look is being favored, tall, pale skin, rich…
    Before, I used to think only Caucasian guys would like me because of that colonization thing (so I was insecure.. but that didn’t make me not value myself as a woman and throw myself at any WM I see) that Filipino guys would think I’m ugly because I’m short, big eyes, dark skin.. … kinda exotic as they say… so I’m perceived to like White men in general because I thought they appreciate me more but I was totally wrong, men regardless of any race, black, white, asian, latins like me all three attributes above add big boobs , not flat ass but not big either… it’s a question if they like me enough to know me and respect me and love me and not to just sleep with me and have fun.

    Gold diggers girls marrying just to go to the West? not likely, they sure might want to elevate their economic status for marrying someone with a green card but they wouldn’t blindly marry someone who have an ugly personality, who will not be good to them and will not be a good influence, they sure wont go for old bald fat guys either just cause of money, I won’t. I need to be sure I can sleep with someone every night wihout puking
    before marrying him.
    Gold diggers are rare occurrence, the fact is most girls regardless of any race will choose someone who can be a good provider to build up a family, happy and secure…. so West means financially secure despite the recession, do the math, at least we , from third world don’t make designer things as hobbies like some other people simply because we know there are more impt things in life because we had it rough, and what may be a necessity to you is a luxury to us.
    In our society, most Filipino guys are perceive as two timing pathological liar individual.. seriously.. And I don’t think all white guys are handsome, hence I can definitely point out super ugly WM although I would think an average Caucasian looks handsome because I’m not brought up in the West and my perception is different with the rest of the world…race and issue, age doesn’t matter at the end of the day two very different people are together because they feel appreciated for who they are.

    Money, power, status… will come to the grave with each person as they expired….
    Soul is the one who will live eternally and what is inside the heart.

  294. John White
    Posted June 26, 2011 at 3:37 am | Permalink

    We prefer Asian women because they are exotic looking, still hold traditional values, have class culture and an education and treat men with respect. It’s that simple.

  295. JoJo
    Posted June 26, 2011 at 5:12 pm | Permalink

    Totally disagree. Guys who like asian females are basically pedophiles. I know guys prefere younger looking gals but WTF? most asian girls have the body of a 11 year old boy! The reason most asian girls go for white guys is that Asian guys are as shallow as asian girls. Asian guys, despite of their lacking masculinity, expects their woman to be beautiful, intelligent, and charming at the same time. On the other hand, white guys don’t expect too much from their women and they are the dominant race at the same time. If you do the math, why settle for an asian guy with so much expectation?? This is why asian girls settle with white guys. But I can’t say that asian girls get the BEST of the white guys. It’s usually nerdy and sociopath geeks or much older guys they end up with. For instance, Woody Allen and Mark Zuckerberg (Yeah, Mark makes a hell lot of money but I BET he wasn’t popular with girls in school).

  296. AM+WF
    Posted July 3, 2011 at 5:11 pm | Permalink

    I am an AM who has dated all sorts of women.
    I have not had much success dating Asian females. i am very short, stubby muscular, big lipped, round eyed, big penised, thick eyebrowed, and soft skinned. In short, I look like the laborer that many families of almost any ethnic persuasion are afraid of having their daughters marry.
    The crazy thing is that many attractive white females often find me sexy in a marriageable way. It is BECAUSE I am a short Asian little tough guy that they adore me. Beautiful white American women are hit on so much that they want a strong safe guy who’ll snarl at the suitors and stand guard over her. They might be surprised by me at first, but once they have me they won’t let go unless I say so. Most women of all races find me to be uncouth and undesirable, but not a small but sizeable number of the hotties.
    As far as Asian women marrying nonAsian men, I am all for it. A person should be free to date or marry whoever they wish regardless of the reasons. I myself am too busy wrestling out marriage issues with my gorgeous Norwegian girlfriend to worry about somebody else’s love life.
    My advice to Asian guys is to work on your physical and emotional strength first. Once you are willing defend your woman from all comers and threats, then go after the supra hotties who are sick of being hit on. You actually have an advantage because you are NOT lile the zillions of guys that hit on women.

  297. azn_male
    Posted July 4, 2011 at 4:46 am | Permalink

    I hate twinkies….

    They are ashamed to be Asians and believe that Eurocentric perspective is the norm.

    East Asians have higher IQs and on average larger brain size. Yet twinkies believe that being Asian is shameful. I have friends from all races, and I am indifferent about people’s race when I try to make new friends. However, I just abhor that East Asians girls prefer other races because they believe feel that males from other races are superior to Asians.

    http://online.wsj.com/article/SB125121641858657345.html

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Race_and_intelligence

  298. Posted July 20, 2011 at 5:41 pm | Permalink

    Im Asian girl . Whats not like obuot a White guy . What ? I want to have kid with white guy so I can inprove my race . White people are better loking than any ather race in general . Its wort it . Sure . Im with a white guy .He is little bit a white trash but Im not rich to so…The kids are going to be good looking and he has a big dick . He is a truck driver and a good man . Im living the dream life . Ilove it . I was born in rural China . I was my dream to be with a white guy . To have a white children in China is a big acoplishment ! They are movie stars here . Mix kids are very ggod loking. Its very ggod deal for a Asian woman to be with a White guy . And I love my man . Im a good cook and slim . Not like the white trush wome here in Canada . Asiam women respect men ,we are not Feminist . we dont call the police for little argument ,we have shame . Thats why white men love us !!!!!

  299. Wendi Deng
    Posted July 21, 2011 at 2:30 pm | Permalink

    That is why Wendi Deng ends up with rupert Murdoch!
    Watch out guys, or she will bitch slap you for saying so!

  300. koothyman
    Posted July 21, 2011 at 9:23 pm | Permalink

    You’re a fuckin idiot it is about race you dumb fuckin cunt……you said

    “Put yourself in the typical Asian woman’s shoes. Let’s say that you have your choice of two guys. The first guy is average-looking, of average intelligence, and has an average career. The second guy is good-looking, smart, and has a good career. Which one are you going to choose? If the only difference is that Guy #1 is Asian and Guy #2 is white, my guess is you’re choosing Guy#2. That’s not racism, that’s smart market segmentation.”

    OK, why do you automatically assume that the white guy is #2 and the Asian is #1??
    Last time I checked Asians are smarter and have better jobs per ca-pita than white guys if you knew anything you would know that either way Asian women look at white men as colonial, masculine, masters… basically they think white men are superior in every way…I’ve known women from all races that have this attitude towards white men not ALL women but groups of women from all races…for instance I’ve seen so many times when a Latina or and indian lady moves to America they hook up with a white dude because they look at the white guy as a physical representation of America which they want to be apart of…and that’s what they’re standard of beauty is…bottom line White guys represent there standard of beauty

  301. sakootakoo
    Posted July 22, 2011 at 10:25 pm | Permalink

    Your fuckin stupid…and douchebag..Harvad MBA my ass punk ass white boy

  302. Vin
    Posted July 25, 2011 at 2:13 am | Permalink

    Funny. You just generalize Asian guy as Average in appearance, intelligence and career.
    Did you even do your research on the ratio of Asian in Ivy Leagues vs the rest, before you call Asian guys average intelligence?
    and how do you define good career? Did you just look at the Fortune 500 or everyone else? How many Asians do you find working at fast food chains or other minimum wage jobs?

    The real reason Asian women prefer White men, I agree with Mr. CallitLikeIseeit’s comment above. It’s largely due to their ‘knowledge’ that they got from the media and insecurity.

  303. James Trump
    Posted July 30, 2011 at 10:51 am | Permalink

    Go to the mall and observe, you’ll find out ONLY 2 types of (East)Asian women would date Caucasian or non-Asian foreign men:

    1) Lower than average Asian women - who obviously can’t get a normal Asian partner

    2) Hookers - who date you for money in return ripping you off so they can earn to support her own Asian lover at home

    Or otherwise, she must have mental problems. However, most white men deny to believe the above, but live in their dreams with dating website articles, porn stories and hollywood movies.

  304. Sui Leung
    Posted July 30, 2011 at 10:58 am | Permalink

    As Chinese woman I can assert that the point ‘Asian women prefer white men’ is totally nonsense!@

    Some white jerks pretend to be Asian woman above(e.g. Wendy) and say that we love white because they can improve our race? Bullshit!!!

    We prefer Asian men not only we’re the same type, because Asian men better looking in general, in fact, Arabic men even look better than w. men, thats why w. girls prefer other races more than w. men nowadays.

  305. James Trump
    Posted July 30, 2011 at 11:10 am | Permalink

    Go to the Mall you’ll find out ONLY 2 types of (East)Asian women would date with white men:

    1) Hookers - who cheat/rip-off white men for money in return so as to support their Asian lovers at home

    2) Lower than average Asians women who obviously can’t get a normal Asian BF

    Or the Asian woman has mental problems herself. Many white men deny to believe this fact, but live in their narcissistic dreams with porn stories, dating website articles and Hollywood movies.

  306. Michael
    Posted July 31, 2011 at 3:08 am | Permalink

    I don’t agree. I am white and I have no fetish for women of another race. In fact I find them somewhat repulsive. I don’t like their looks or their attitudes. Where I live, if you are not white, you are an outsider and probably an illegal criminal alien. At best you would certainly be unwelcome.

  307. Observer
    Posted August 13, 2011 at 8:38 pm | Permalink

    Let’s see why Asian women go for white guys:

    1) They have bigger dicks than Asian males. They are taller. They are better looking.

    2) Asian females hate their own race so much, that they want children who are (half)white.

    3) Asian females have too much freedom. Their parents and brothers apparently don’t mind that their daughters and sisters are going for all the white guys.

    The result of Asian females dating/marrying white men: a lot of Asian men who are lonely and depressed.

  308. Ivy Tan
    Posted August 24, 2011 at 8:47 pm | Permalink

    As an Asian, I do prefer Asian men. The weird thing is that most Asian guys prefer white girls or Latinas and the only ones who do hit on me or ask me out are the white guys so don’t blame Asian girls for going after white guys when you (Asian men) never make the first move.

  309. The Third Age
    Posted August 28, 2011 at 10:24 am | Permalink

    It sucks to be an Asian guy in America!In fact I would go one step further and say that white people are by fate the mortal enemies of Asian males. Think about this; In America, the white male steals all the Asian females in the dating scene, while on the other hand the white female practically spits upon the Asian male! Asian males are seen at best as “pets” to white females. Sexless friends and errand boys. The only time they are soo nice to Asian males is when they have an agenda such as a waitress!Furthermore, as if that wasn’t enough, due to massive cultural brainwashing by the racist media in America, high numbers of Asian males are turning gay for the white male because apparently that is the only thing Asian guys appear to be good for here in America. Yeah that’s right, get on your knees and then bend over for the white guys. Just look at all the porn movies, almost all are Asian women with white guys and almost zero Asian males unless of course it is gay porn!

  310. Derek Lee
    Posted August 30, 2011 at 8:11 am | Permalink

    This subject has been beaten to death on so many forums and I have been a participant in at least three or four of them. The fact of the matter is, in America where over sixty percent of the population is over weight, Asian women and men tend to be always thinner, age better and in better overall shape.

    On top of that, height wise, taller men have always preferred smaller women. So for the Asian male, especially recent immigrants, the height differential and weight differential of dating non-Asian women is daunting.

    I have always found that in the Latin and Caribeen cultures, being Asian is a two sided sword. On the one hand, they totally love the whole martial arts master thing. But on the other hand, they swallow all the stereotypes even more readily. But if you do like women from these other cultures, you can use your Asian cultural and looks to snag women from these countries, like I did.

    But this does not guarantee a happy relationship, you still have to work at any relationship, no matter how you initiated it.

    To all my Asian brothers out there, let your preconceived notions of dating go. Think outside the box, date taller women, darker women, older women. Date women from countries where you can’t pronounce any of their names. Especially those Eastern European women, they appreciate a man that treats them well, the way most of us were raised to treat women. Well not all of us, but definitely we have an inside track to some of those women.

    Besides all that, in the coming decades, the Asian world will become more and more dominant, whether economically or militarily or culturally, with unfortunately a very skewed sex ratio, so I have a feeling that Asian men all over the world will gravitate to meeting women from the countries with more skewed ratios in our favor…

    I raise my glass to our eventual take over of the world and toast all my brothers!!!

  311. DgrH
    Posted September 10, 2011 at 5:58 am | Permalink

    “You better listen” has it so right I’m not sure I can improve on it, but here goes. I’m 20 years into a relationship (13 of them married to a Hong Kong born but raised in SF Bay Area Chinatown woman, college educated, but it’s a BA in business from state univ., so it doesn’t really count as “education” in the real sense.) I have two graduate degrees, professional level, seeped in classical western philosophy, i.e. Enlightenment rationalism.

    The culture clash with the kids is absolutely palpable. The kids speak chinese fluently because the in-laws raised them (my biggest mistake was letting those old superstitious ancestor worshipping irrational-fear-inspiring whack jobs anywhere near them). Even though the kids speak Chinese fluently, they see the dominant white culture around them and never want to speak Chinese if they don’t have to, and they get accused by their mother of disrespect, when it’s totally understandable from their perspective. All the cool video games, tv shows, and school is all in English, and the only people who speak Chinese to them are the crazy old ladies who come up to them on the street and pinch their cheeks, and tell them how cute they are because they’re half white and like to hear them speak chinese like it’s some circus trick. They don’t like it. What a shock.

    “Better listen” has one thing right, though, and it’s really the best thing about the whole mess. The wife still fits into the same cocktail dress she did when she was 25, and when we go out, she is smokin’ hot even after squeezing out the two puppies. As since I love hot women who keep their figures, it almost all makes up for it when guys half my age are seen checkin out my wife. THere is some satisfaction in that. But it comes at a high price. Caveat emptor guys.

  312. To
    Posted September 13, 2011 at 11:44 pm | Permalink

    Very interesting subject. I actually just arrived from a stroll in Chinatown, and well, I saw a total of 4 mixed race couples. Asian females (young and small) with White males (older and taller).

    If what you speak of as “market inefficiency,”is true, then cities like SF and LA should also see a huge number of mixed couples between whites and blacks. I think there’s 50% White (23% non-hispanic White), 19% Asians, and 9% Blacks in LA county. And if the only reason Asian females and White males are pairing up because they prefer one another, then this speaks to some serious perceptions of class and race.

    It represents a strong sexualization of the Asian culture by white males (which of course is tragic) and a flawed mentality from Asian females, where their only claims to success lies in a white male trophy husband.

    This is also prevalent in the gay culture. Where the subservient and inferior role in sex or relationship dynamics is held by the petite Asian (Filipino, Thai, Vietnamese etc.)

    This “oft-observed but seldom-analyzed phenomenon” is colonialist mentality at its finest.

  313. Wendy
    Posted September 17, 2011 at 11:02 am | Permalink

    Tall, broad-shouldered, trim, relatively young, delightful and well-off men are attractive, no matter what! But I especially like it when the dark-haired white guy or the blonde guy with blue eyes tosses me a smile or we check each other out…I’ve only met one asian guy who I consider handsome but he is quite a looker! All kinds of girls follow him around on fb and real life. I fantasize about having sex with a hot white guy…probably because the height, shoulder width and easygoing but slightly more aggressive attitude is hard to find in asian men. However, I think it would be hard to date a white man because the attitude and values won’t always match mine. I prefer and am more familiar with the way that an asian male would protect me and a future family. I feel they are more respectful and we would understand each other more. Although I know asian guys cheat too…..

  314. Wendy
    Posted September 17, 2011 at 11:08 am | Permalink

    By the way, if you think being with an asian women is tops, I doubt you’ll feel that way after a few years of marriage…believe me, guys, you’ll wind up remorseful and being jacked around like every other foolish man out there. I’ve seen it with my mom and plenty of my friends inform me their moms do the same. It ain’t a pretty sight, especially with obsessive, detail-oriented and determined personality types.

  315. Wendy
    Posted September 17, 2011 at 11:13 am | Permalink

    Asian communities and families have their own issues too; you just never hear about it because we can’t injure family pride and must ’save face’. But second gens friends and i usually share anecdotes that are shockingly similar and all we can do is laugh (painfully) and wave a hand to dismiss what we hope won’t follow us mindlessly..

  316. Posted September 19, 2011 at 12:45 am | Permalink

    Hi , i live in indonesia and i got something most ppl should know that asian women is not just talking about chinese,japanese or korean (yellow).

    Here we got dark looked skinny asian women who are much more attractive than the chinese women. With their big eyes, curly hair and soft chocolate skin (the similiar women in philippines). They look like beyonce or alliyah but in Asian soft skin and figure.

    In indonesia, When it comes to the choice, white men always choose them over the other asian women like chinese?

    Well this is an interesting reality that makes me agree if someone says white men always choose the ugly women for them.

    It’s Men’s dominant ego that always wants to be better and best (because we’re natural born agressors ?).

    This is the same thing happened here, Chinese men with dark looked indonesian women?

    I found a page about this that says :

    *Quote

    Western Men, Indonesian Women.

    Thang D. Nguyen has written an interesting post and subsequent discussion in regards to Western men and Indonesian women. I’ll leave my own thoughts out of this one, but would be interested in hearing how Indonesian women feel after reading this.
    Here’s an excerpt from his post:

    As my friend and I sipped our coffees last Sunday afternoon at Plaza Indonesia, he asked, “Don’t you think that many of the Indonesian women that white foreigners (buleh) go out with or marry are so unattractive?”

    “They look like maids, don’t they” he continued.

    “Not necessarily so,” I replied.

    Beauty, like many things in life, is bound by the rule of relativity. In other words, what one man considers beautiful is ugly in the eyes of another.

    Being an Indonesian himself, my friend’s view of a beautiful woman is that of a fair-skinned one, who has the look of a financially independent, educated, and classy lady.

    Thus, in his eyes, an Indonesian woman with a dark complexion, buck teeth, and a high forehead typically found among remote mountain villagers in Java, is not beautiful.

    *Unquote

    Another reality that has something to do with the sex-leisure between chinese women and dark looked asian (indonesian) women, we have streotype here that chinese women are always “get wet and loosen” (i guess you understand what i mean). Sorry no offence,just telling you ppl what we got here so everyone will know.

    Why is dark asian women are so good in bed? That maybe because “theirs” are so “tight” and not wet? Same asian women but totally a different feel in bed.

    I got one link here : http://www.livinginindonesiaforum.org/archive/index.php/t-12194.html that has so true saying (i feel it my self) :
    once you go chocolate, vanilla tastes pretty boring… (vanilla refers to a light skin tone)

    So it’s not always about the slanted eyed women if we talk about asian women, there are other better asian women physically and in characters as well.

    Not all chinese women are that bad, i went out with some of them that were truly nice women (with housewife characters). But the last choice still goes to the best one.

  317. mrfixit
    Posted September 20, 2011 at 7:44 am | Permalink

    you guys have it all wrong. theres only reason why you see so many asian woman/white man couple. this is because whites wont date blacks, arabs, spanish, you name it because white people see them as low class citizens. its the same reason asians can buy a home, and why white people sell homes to them and not blacks. call it racist but its true. you see a very small minority of white guys dating spanish or black. they might date spanish but they will rarely marry them unless they are from a really classy family like they are colombian or something like that. this is all about class and process of elimination. and the same is true about why asians want to date whites, the other races are usually not an option. you would see just as many asian guys with white girls if they were less scholastic and got some balls. they are just as bad as computer nerd white guys who are into studying and cant get white girls either.

  318. Posted September 25, 2011 at 5:47 pm | Permalink

    This one is especially for the most beautiful Susan suh in the first list. You always wanna be number one don’t you?

    You sound so pathetic with your comment.

    Being hurt so deeply before? or he didn’t pay as much as the respect you wanted because you got less thing he expected? :p

    You should meet the “real” beautiful asian women which is the indonesian women (or maybe the filipina women).

    You’ll be surprised to see that they don’t need to do a plastic surgery for their slanted eyes (to make it bigger. beautiful : big eyes-long eyelashes) or nose because they already have them best in natural.

    Pls check on this post : https://robin0479.wordpress.com/category/news-and-knowledge/men-women-relationship/

  319. anon
    Posted September 26, 2011 at 11:12 pm | Permalink

    There is some crazy shit in here. Blaming media, racism, sexism, blah blah blah.. I myself am married to a Chinese woman. I simply am attracted to her because she is beautiful. I am not brainwashed or any crazy bullshit like that. From a young age (as early as 10 years old from what I recall) I had a crush on a Chinese girl. Sure she was “different” from the other young girls, but there were also girls of other DIFFERENT colors in my class; I simply wasn’t attracted to the darker colored ones. I am not racist, I just have preferences. We may as well argue why do people like the color red and not blue? I think blue is a great color. Anyone who likes the color red has been deceived by the mainstream media that it is a good color. Damn you Fox and Republicans. You nazi-colorists. Also Chinese food is the tastiest food in the world. Mexican food is bleh…

    I love my wife’s beautiful thick black hair and she loves my light brown hair. I love her creamy yellow skin and she loves my pale white skin. We are very attracted to each other. It’s normal…

    Perhaps some of these women from rural places take advantage of better off to do men. These are bad people. It happens everywhere in the world. Stereotyping is a naive thing to do because not everyone is the same. There are good people and unfortunately there are bad people in this world. Just use your brain to spot them out and avoid them.

    Some men have preference in a woman’s weight, or a woman’s eye color, or a woman’s hair color, or sometimes even in a race. Nothing wrong with that.

    Obviously there is a lot of ignorance present here and it is quite nauseating. Even after all these years us humans have a lot to learn… About each other and our world.

  320. Wendy
    Posted September 27, 2011 at 10:10 am | Permalink

    I agree with mrfixit. good call on that. i wish asian guys had more balls. i met someone who i would call the love of my life and he’s the first asian guy i ever liked. however, he’s in his mid-20s, never kissed a girl or had a gf, etc and by the time he figured out how to ask me out (and I’m not even sure if going to a conference constitutes a date), i couldn’t figure out what the heck he was doing and what was taking so long. i got skitterish. aiyoh. the sad thing is, i probably missed out on a good relationship. maybe someone should offer asian guys dating seminars–they do so well in regular school (watch the stereotype flying right towards you now…) that they should ace a school course that deals with flirting and stuff, right??

  321. Wendy
    Posted September 27, 2011 at 10:13 am | Permalink

    oh ..just a follow up on that story ..a girl who moved in with him and his other roommate ended up dating him after the failed attempt to …woo me? and now they’re married. she’s hyper-aggressive. i now see why asian women need to take the reins in the household. it’s cause it’s necessary..of course this may just be this particular guy and no need to stereotype all asian men based on my experience. i don’t think any asian girl is looking for an asshole either…just a guy who’s got it together.

  322. Wendy
    Posted September 27, 2011 at 10:35 am | Permalink

    ..did i mention it took three years?!

  323. Posted September 30, 2011 at 2:47 pm | Permalink

    Hi Anon,

    Maybe you met the right one for you, but not everyone surely as lucky as you are.

    I must say not all of them, but some bad chinese women are trying to make everyone else to think that chinese women (like them) are best to choose. Doesn’t it sound so pathetic?

    They racistly don’t like the prettier native Indonesian women and treat them like shit.

    Well, i went out with more Chinese women than any woman from another race in my life and i never wanted to have one again for sure ( i think not just chinese,but slanted eyed ones).

    I had Indian and white girlfriends before and now simply a pure beauty chocolate looked Indonesian girlfriend.

    Once you go chocolate, Yellow sounds pretty boring and untasty. :p

  324. Asian Girl
    Posted October 3, 2011 at 3:32 am | Permalink

    I’m sorry I had to laugh at some of the close-minded comments on this site. =)

    Allow me to introduce myself - feminine Asian and I have big eyes with double lids, high nose bridge (aka NOT A flat face or nose), great smile, tall, with boobs and a huge butt (that I hate). I can only say this online and never in person because I’m one of the most down-to-earth girls you’ll ever meet.

    To defend some of my Asian friends, they date white men because there is a bigger percentage of “quality” Caucasian men out there. You can’t say that the US, Canada, Australia are not dominated by Caucasians because they are, and it’s the reason why they’re the majority, and if you look at STATS, there are more Caucasian catches out there. My Americanized Asian friends just want to find a man who is intelligent/well-educated, charming, and attractive. Is that so wrong?

    As for my personal preference, I love Asian men, but it seems to me that competition for those quality Asian men is so high you can’t even get in there. It’s like the 30% of the Asian guys are catches and 80% of the Asian women would be all up on that. And the percentages are not matching. I can probably find a Caucasian man who has the same qualities I’m looking for with less competition…. all because I am the typical pretty Asian girl.

    I have a thing against Asian fetish. If a white man sees attractiveness in an Asian girl he meets, that’s great. If he sees attractiveness in the entire race (and you KNOW there are butt-ugly girls in every race), then I see it as yellow fever and I get very, very offended. I once knew a white guy who liked every single Asian girl in high school (there were maybe 15 Asian girls in each grade?) and that’s just pitiful.

  325. Bubbles
    Posted October 4, 2011 at 3:14 am | Permalink

    Never mind the white guy/Asian chick thing, this comment was hilarious and SOOO true!

    “Lest you think this is a unique phenomenon, let me point out that many white girls have similar fetishes for British, French, Spanish, and Italian accents (This is most entertainingly demonstrated in “Love Actually“, where a British loser decides to travel to America, where all the women love English accents; he ends up in Milwaukee, and within a few hours, is engaged in group sex with three American girls, including Elisha Cuthbert. See also, “Banderas, Antonio”.)”

    As a white chick, I only wish soo badly that the US would import more European men and fewer Asians. Out here on the left coast, pre-pubescent-looking Asian men are a dime a dozen, while we’re starving for Euro accented men! Antonio Banderas? We can’t even imagine such riches….!

  326. samuel welsh
    Posted October 5, 2011 at 5:00 am | Permalink

    mixed kids are great no haters but faithful fathers.

  327. David
    Posted October 10, 2011 at 1:24 pm | Permalink

    I am an Asian male and this situation actually makes me mad. Before u all say “why?”, consider if the opposite situation was the norm- ie heaps of Asian guys dating white women. Imagine how many white guys would be mad about this.
    I’ve experienced on countless occasions where asian girls would prefer white guys over their own race. How many white women would devalue their own race in this way?
    If they like white culture that much, then they should really distance themselves from Asians and not associate with them at all…this includes their own families.
    What an upside-down world we live in.

  328. Daniel
    Posted October 14, 2011 at 3:46 pm | Permalink

    In America is it different from Europe. In my country is it higher status for an white man to have a white woman than an asian woman.
    But in some earian in tho countryside are there to few white women for the men. Therefore many of the must get asian women, becuase there in not women enough. But the best men her nearly always take the white women. White men who are loosers ofen get asian women from Thailand, Phillippines, Vietnam etc. But this men have ofen lover status.

  329. Daniel
    Posted October 14, 2011 at 3:49 pm | Permalink

    In America is it different from Europe. In my country is it higher status for an white man to have a white woman than an asian woman.
    But in some places in tho countryside are there to few white women for the men. Therefore many of the men must get asian women, becuase there in not women enough. But the best men her nearly always take the white women. White men who are loosers ofen get asian women from Thailand, Phillippines, Vietnam etc. But this men have ofen lover status.

  330. Lala
    Posted October 17, 2011 at 9:06 am | Permalink

    I’m a muslim south asian girl in my 20s and my current boyfriend is a white caucasian Canadian male. Recently I discovered, to my great horror, his fetish for asian women including south asian women from India/Pakistan. We discussed it and according to him its the exoticness of the asian females that draws him toward them like a moth to a flame. Although I’ve made my peace with this fact but at the back of my head and subconsciously I still feel like some sort of exotic object to him.

  331. asiangirl
    Posted October 22, 2011 at 8:46 pm | Permalink

    Hi i accidentally stumbled on this article online got curious and read it.
    firstly i would just like to ask if you have done any interviews with asian women? or survey forms why they like white men? or why white men like asian women vise verse.
    Im asian by the way and for a couple of years have been fascinated by this hypothesis. so i have done a little research myself, physical appearance ofcourse has a big factor why asian women like white men one mainly is the skin color. in asia i dont know if you have researched this, but in asia being white is considered beautiful. if you are fair skinned, you are either labled as rich and beautiful. thats why in asia there are a lot of whitenning products being sold. even asian men consider white complexion as beautiful, therefore the attraction of asian women to white men because of the complexion of their skin and vise versa, if you ask a white man why they like asian women they’ll say because their skin is perfect not too white not too dark, just right. second the background of an asian woman comes to place, as you have known half the countries in asia has economical problems in laymenz term poor. i am not generalizing all asian women but half of the population if asked why would they date a white man? they would answer because he can take me to america whatever country he lives in, most women in asia think that when your’e white your automatically rich and an answer to their prayers of becoming rich or an american citizen. it’s a sad yes, but its really reality :) i hope this helps

  332. Asian American
    Posted October 29, 2011 at 2:08 pm | Permalink

    Edit: only speaking for American-born Asians

    Because of the absurdity of some of the comments posted, I feel the need to tell people that most of us (Asian American women) are NORMAL folks without strict racial preferences. I work at a university in the SF Bay Area and I seriously believe the white/Asian phenomenon is overly hyped. In fact, many Asians may find fellow Asians more attractive simply because we share a common background and struggle for acceptance in American society.

    To all the white men who complain about unsolicited come-ons by Asian women in college or overseas: Just tell her you are not interested and that she is making you feel uncomfortable with her advances. I guarantee she will leave you alone.

  333. Jacqueline
    Posted October 30, 2011 at 1:55 pm | Permalink

    How come there aren’t a lot of white men with Latinas? I just graduated from BU Law and most of the white guys with my level of education want asian or white only. I think Latinos are portrayed so badly that people don’t even want the smart successful ones. Every guy I like, likes asians. Latinas are also being left behind disporportionately in the dating field. I dont see a lot of interracial relationships between whites and Latinas(o). Im Brazilian-American btw born and raised in Boston.

  334. Heinrich Metzler
    Posted November 4, 2011 at 5:09 am | Permalink

    Its easy to answer..

    They are slim, clean, nice skin, smile, well dressed, and intelligent.

    Most men dont want overweight, loud mouthed, swearing, tatoo wearing, drunk, smoking, whooping and squeeling morons, for wives and girl friends.

    In Asia one sees the bitter western woman frumping around complaining about the western men and their slim Asian girl friends, fuelled by western womens press all saying the same things, white men and Asian women gaulls them so much, ha ha ha its because they are jealous….

  335. halosmyth
    Posted November 7, 2011 at 6:48 am | Permalink

    so what do you do if you are a white girl (blonde hair, blue eyes)? How do you compete with asian women?

  336. Shirene
    Posted November 9, 2011 at 8:09 pm | Permalink

    I am an full blood asian girl from China. Moved to America when I was 11 and has lived here for 15 years. Interestingly I do not find that I’ll ever date a white guy. I find their color attractive, adorn with pretty blue, green, hazel jewels for their eyes. With light milky skins that has a tint of red rather than yellow like my own. However, when I start talking to them I often find them boring. They have no differences in their up bringing. Their food is simple like hot dogs, hamburgers, etc. All the festivals includes alchohal and fatty food, no specialty. Sure, I almost had a one night stand with a few but nah, not interested. Plus, China has a proud and vast history. White people just have world war I, World war II, created consumerism. Somehow had a dark ages where their technology got wipe out? WTF. I find their history very unstable. really, a bunch of weird group with weird intentions, I do not want my children to have their blood.

  337. Helpful White Guy
    Posted November 17, 2011 at 5:51 am | Permalink

    I’m a white guy, and I think the reason Asian guys don’t do as well with white women is because they are too damn nice. Too polite. Too considerate of a woman’s feelings. It may sound like a dickish thing to say, but women (of any race) aren’t really into nice guys. Sure, they all say “I wish I could just find a nice guy to love me,” but it’s all a bunch of ish. Don’t fall for it. They do NOT want a nice guy.

    So, Asian guys who want to date white chicks, take this advice: stop being so damn nice! Stop commenting them on how pretty they are. Stop being the guy they can talk to about their feelings. That just puts you in the friend zone where you will be doomed to stay. Instead, be cocky, be confident. Flirt, but don’t try too hard. Just try it for a while. See how it works out. Besides, if you havent had any luck pulling the white chicks anyway, what have you got to lose?

  338. Harvard Sucks!
    Posted November 26, 2011 at 11:51 pm | Permalink

    So this is Intel level of a Harvard MBA. Why do Asian women like white men? White men hate Asian men, so do Asian women. They sleep together, spit together… Nice combination!

  339. Asian chick
    Posted November 30, 2011 at 5:15 am | Permalink

    The fact is- white men can only get lower than average Asian women unless paying for hookers escort service(as you can see in the city),

    but Asian men usually get hot white women.

  340. james
    Posted December 3, 2011 at 7:03 pm | Permalink

    I’m a WM and personally I prefer white european or arabic women far more than asian women

    http://blog.themonastery.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/Princess-Amira-al-Taweel.jpg

  341. Posted December 8, 2011 at 5:52 am | Permalink

    Better get refund on that Harvard MBA . These days that degree worth squat

  342. D
    Posted December 13, 2011 at 1:01 am | Permalink

    You want to know whats really fucked up. More people are interested in these forum than say the the War in Iraq, I tried looking for posting about how people fell about the war (Which we apparently lost) and the number of post are nowhere near the number of post about these interacial relationships. I know for a fact by recent accounts that there are people in America, right now, who do not know which people we are fighting.

  343. Bluboy
    Posted December 13, 2011 at 4:10 am | Permalink

    What an extremely long thread with heated discussion.

    The Asian festish for caucasian males and White festish for Asian females are based on very supeficial understanding of the culture.

    Only if someone has lived long enough in a foreign country, they will experience first hand the subtleties of these so called fetish.

    It is indeed true from an earlier post that Asian women will rule the roost (at least that will be her ultimate goal) one she lands the guy, gets married etc.

    A lot of caucasian males here have scored asian females but the consequences are more longlasting that this. Its not just a one night stand with no strings attached.

    Just as in nature, beautiful things may also be the most toxic. Don’t be fooled by the sugarcoating of submissive girls.

    The so called submissiveness is mainly superficial. Asian girls won’t go all out to confront you with demands and needs but they make it up by quietly manipulating the situation to their favour.

    You have no idea but asian women really go for their rights full throttle if they are see the opportunity to do so (such as in a divorce case)

    The only reason they are willing to not behave like that to a caucasian male is because he has the status of being “white” and the social prestiage associated with it makes the girl feel obliged to behave more reasonably with him.

  344. lovebirds
    Posted December 23, 2011 at 4:24 pm | Permalink

    Why do Asian women prefer white men? We don’t. It’s WGAF propaganda. Only a minority of us prefer white guys and almost none of us want WGAF because a) most of them are creepy and b) we don’t want someone who’s only interested in us for our race.

  345. lovebirds
    Posted December 23, 2011 at 5:07 pm | Permalink

    Speaking of creepy *and sexist* Asian fetishists, Mike, stephen norfleet, steven and cory are prime examples. There might be others down the comment thread but tl;dr.

    As for the white women who bash us for supposedly stealing their men, it takes two to tango sister. White guys go for Asian women too. How come you don’t put any responsibility on them? So much for the liberated white woman.

    Btw, I believe only a minority of white guys prefer Asians. US marriage stats bear that out. White guys are the least likely to outmarry percentage-wise. The white-guys-prefer-Asian-girls myth is another one that needs to be put to rest.

  346. John
    Posted December 26, 2011 at 9:47 pm | Permalink

    I am not sure I follow the logic that there are many more white men avaialble, so it is somehow a numbers game. This is clearly true in USA but goto Asia itself and one encounters many Asian women who are a) single, b) say they do not wish to marry Asian men, c) will tell you that they find white men more attractive but, ask more, and one finds that this is largely due to many Asian women’s ‘belief’ that the white men are more ‘emotionally connected’ and may therefore treat them better.
    I am a white businessman, I travel to Asia a lot and find many Asian women make approaches with no prompting from myself. Most are intelligent, attractive and hold good jobs so they certainly do not ‘need’ someone to look after them. I am not seeking this but it happens and I have seen it happen to many others. Conversely, I hear that many white women who work in Asia can find it hard to even get a date. If it were only a numbers game then their rarity there should make white women highly sought after in Asia but this does not occur. My conclusion, formed over many years, is that there is a mutual attractiveness formed due to historical and cultural reasons. ‘Norms’ within Western and Asian cultures are such as, on average, to lead to an outcome which results in attractiveness between white males and Asian women.

  347. Observer678
    Posted December 28, 2011 at 3:50 am | Permalink

    A lot of posts here, especially from the Asiaphile white males, are flat out wrong. Their misguided reasons in their head are the same ego-inflating, arrogant, supremacist reasons why movies like Last Samurai, Avatar, Dances with Wolves etc keep getting made where the white guy has to save the “oppressed” female from her “backwards savage” culture. It’s BS, if it were the case why don’t you see more women from the Middle East or India with white males.

    Take a good hard look at a lot of these AF/WM couples. The white male is hardly this alpha male stud. He could be but is rarely good looking, young, or attractive. He’s usually a beta outcast from his country, culture, or society, and goes to Asia or dates Asian women in America because he is tired of being rejected all the time. You can see this plainly on any city sidewalk in Asia or in America.

    You can’t blame these guys though. This entire dynamic is driven because Asian women are just so EASY and eager to please, but only specifically for White males (no matter how unattractive). These Asians are normally Tiger Mother/Girlfriend princesses around other Asians, but they also have self hate and white worship. So many of them wish they had white features; having a half white baby is their dream and they think they look better than Asian babies. They love status. Think about how many crazy Asian mothers are obsessed with their kids going to an ivy school. Think about how many Asian women save months of salary, starving on ramen noodles, to buy European hand bags or purses. Asian women are OBSESSED with prestige and name brands. Dating a white male is the same thing for them - in their brainwashed minds it’s another status thing.

    The stereotype of Asian societies being more sexist than Western societies is BS spouted by white males. Go to Asia, you will see most Asian males doing the cooking, cleaning, etc. Almost all movies and TV in Asia are pink, cutesy, and effeminate because the consumer power resides with women, not men. It’s the opposite in America where media is full of sex, violence, and promoting casual relationships which benefits males who dominate the culture and consumer market. Simply due to dating supply and demand among men and women on different continents, Asian women are treated far better than white women are treated in America.

    Finally, the penis thing is another funny ego reason conjured up by white males. Studies show there is no statistical difference, with at-most a half inch difference even in the most biased studies. If one wants to talk about physician differences, than one must bring up that white males have hairy backs/bodies, age horribly, notoriously limp peckers even when erect, and also their bodies smell like dried urine after half a day without showering. A lot of this dynamic is driven by white worship and self hatred among Asian women, driven by their obsession for status and prestige. And don’t think it’s a coincidence that all over Asia all the images and commercials glamorize white people. Almost all movies in theaters are Hollywood movies even in Asia.

  348. Ethan M
    Posted December 29, 2011 at 3:04 am | Permalink

    I’m a 24 year old white male and honestly, white men who date Asian women are either very insecure, insane or secretly gay. Asian women are hideous. They have beady/small eyes and ugly chincky looking faces. I love women with big beautiful eyes, the kind that Latina women have. Plus Latin women have curves whereas Asian women typically have bodies that resemble that of little boys. The reason why so many white guys (typically nerds) are into it right now is perplexing but I have a theory behind it. It’s twofold; A because it’s trendy and B because Asian women are desperate to date white men (due to white envy and self hatred). These nasty women worship white guys and literally throw themselves at us. I know because I’ve had it happen to me plenty of times before. I used to work at Abercrombie&Fitch a couple of years ago and I can’t tell you how many Asian women came into the store hoping to get with some poor white employee. But truth be told, once it’s not so trendy anymore, more guys will come to their senses and want to date Latin women because they look like real women and not little boys. It’s only a matter of time.

  349. amy j
    Posted January 1, 2012 at 3:44 pm | Permalink

    These posts are ridiculous and so incorrect.
    I guess they are all written by loser white men who have had bad experience with white women and in turn go for lower class unattractive asian women who see white men as a step up. Let’s be honest most asians are not attractive. There are a few a far between that are beautiful. The rest no.

    Just look at what the media portrays as beauty. Who are the movie stars? Victoria Secret Models? White and Hispanic mostly. Who do you see on top of Vogue etc? Again mostly white. Who wins pageants. Never Asians for any of the above? Why? Because they are not what the world sees as beautiful. I am not racist this is just a fact. You thing the people who make these movies are stupid and don’t know who people what to see in them? GET a clue people .For the most part this is what is true: and yes there are exceptions, but not many: there are a few insecure white men who go after the lower class Asians b/c they will take them. The white women don’t want them. I know men like this who tell me they have get rejected by white women all the time so they feel that these subservient Asians will like them and yes they have better luck there. I rarely see hot white men with Asians….

    Now this is these are the facts. Goodbye.

  350. Patrick
    Posted January 2, 2012 at 11:56 am | Permalink

    First, what is more surprising is this imbecile went Harvard MBA.
    Second, in fact if you went to Harvard our nation is in real trouble.
    Third, not to mention the racially insensitive tone, and the baseless implied conclusions.

  351. RideBlackCowboyBrett
    Posted January 5, 2012 at 11:17 pm | Permalink

    I happen to be a life-size Brett doll-a boyishly handsome,58-year-old black Canadian lad said to look GREAT in my Wranglers to LAY IT DOWN EVEN
    BETTER OUT OF THEM!!!!However,despite-or perhaps BECAUSE of my looks,fashion style,love of heavy metal,garage rock and Country music,it’s white girls-AND HOT BABES AT THAT-AND NOT BLACK WOMEN who approach me in bars,etc.I wonder if it’s my appearance and dress which is turning off black gals.

  352. lisa evers
    Posted January 9, 2012 at 3:27 am | Permalink

    If it were truly white guys driving this phenomenon (that it’s more they who are chasing the asian women), then wouldn’t we see a higher % of white men with asian women? But in the US at least, it’s probably what….maybe 3% of non-asian men that are with asian women. But turn it around, and in the US, it’s probably 7% of asian women (and higher in melting pots like NYC) who are with non-asian men. So clearly it’s the asian women who are driving this.

    I mean, we all know the comments that asian women make about asian men. And we’ve all been around asian women and seen how they act when one of their friends introduces them to her new white boyfriend.

    The asian women make it very easy for non-asian men, and they are only too happy to oblige, especially if it means that at the same time they get to try out an asian gal, and at the same time be part of a new ‘trend’. It’s a win-win for both of them.

  353. lisa evers
    Posted January 9, 2012 at 3:43 am | Permalink

    What I also find is that in the US, many of the asian women who have a ‘pattern’ of dating white men are complete hypocrites.

    They usually follow a certain pattern, these women:

    valley girl talk
    try to come off as ’strong’ women
    pseudo-intellectual
    pseudo-feminists
    will explain away their ‘preference’ for white men as ‘oh I grew up in a white nabe…asian men are too shy..’ etc

    What I also find is that the asian women who are serial white guy daters…they are often the MOST vocal about guys with an asian fetish. Very clever of them. You see, by speaking out against guys with an asian fetish, it’s like saying ‘oh, well MY white boyfriend is not a white fetishist…I made sure of that because I just hate that…if I thought he had a fetish I wouldn’t be with him’.

    By saying this however, it also cleverly puts all the focus on the white boyfriend (gee, maybe he DOES have a fetish but she’s kidding herself)? And then there’s no attention focused on HER, and HER likely WHITE FETISH.

    I mean, isn’t it interesting how we hear so much talk all the time about Yellow Fever but not about White Fever? See the asian women love to perpetuate this notion of yellow fever..that it’s supposedly so rampant…because then it plants the idea in everybody’s minds that asian women are just SOOOO desirable. And that if these women end up with non-asian men, it’s because all these men were chasing THEM, and not vice versa.

    Very clever.

  354. lisa evers
    Posted January 9, 2012 at 3:54 am | Permalink

    So long as we see clear TRENDS in inter-racial dating, there can be no denying that the MAJORITY of these couples got together because of stereotypes/self-hate of their own (non-white) race.

    When we start seeing more asian men with non-asian women, and more black women with non-black men, only then can we know that people are seeing beyond race.

    But as we all know, black women and asian men are the most stereotyped against.

    Do you seriously think it’s pure coincidence that so many asian women are with non-asian men, but not so many asian men with non-asian women…that it has nothing to do with stereotypes?

    It’s sorta like all those black professional ball players. How many of these guys (or other ‘upwardly-mobile’ black men…lawyers, actors, etc) have lighter-skinned wives? Pure coincidence you say?

    Then you my friend have your head in the sand. ;-)

  355. lisa evers
    Posted January 9, 2012 at 4:05 am | Permalink

    What’s interesting is you see a number of white american males here who say that asian women are better, and then out of the other side of their mouth say that white american women are dumb, fat, crass, entitled, don’t age well etc.

    Clearly these men are bitter and full of hate. They probably got burned by one too many white women. And so what do these particular little boys do when they’ve been hurt? Why they lash out.

    And then they are happy to find that there’s a group of women (many asian women) who will bend over backward for them, simply because they are white males. Let’s face it, there are a good number of asian women out there who are absolutely fixated on being with a white man.

    And do you seriously think these loser white guys are going to admit to anyone “Well I do prefer white women but they were always breaking up with me…I just can’t seem to get a date with white women…”. Do you SERIOUSLY think a loser like him is going to admit that? Noooo… So instead he will bash the white woman, and profess his ‘ahem’ preference for asian women.

    And over time, sure, he does come to prefer asian women, if only because they cater to his little boy ego and can make him feel desired…something this white female counterparts obviously couldn’t or didn’t want to do. ;-)

    If a man truly just ‘preferred’ asian women, there’d be no need for him to bash white women. But as soon as he does that, it’s crystal clear that he’s the problem, and not the white women.

    Ditto for asian women who bash asian men as this and that, and who will only date white men. Clearly they are the ones with issues….and not the asian men they love to bash.

    It’s no different than black men who are serial white woman daters, and say they can’t find any decent black women.

    In each instance it’s the speaker who has the issues….the people who categorically REFUSE to date their own race.

  356. Billyap
    Posted January 12, 2012 at 2:57 pm | Permalink

    We have to face facts. There are many Asian-American women who are self-loathing, who would restrict themselves to dating white guys only. They consider Asian men together with Black and Latino men as inferior or not good enough for them.
    There was a survey taken some time back in the early 2000s (the website has already been removed) on women of various races and their dating preferences. Most women surveyed expressed their preference in dating men of their own race with the exception of Asian women. When asked why, they would give all kinds of stories about the ugly physical attributes of Asian men. But when they were asked whether they would date an Asian man if he had physical attributes as good or better than the white man, the Asian women still gave a negative answer.
    The worst part is that these women would usually wind up dating some white trash male because all they’re obsessed with is just getting a white guy - any white guy.
    Statistics have shown that amongst the races, Asian women have the highest rate of intermarrying outside their race and to WM. It was around 10 percent vs under 2 percent for the other races. When they broke the Asian women down to their ethnic origins, it was the Chinese, Japanese, Koreans and Vietnamese who made up this 10%. Apparently, the East Indian women who married outside their race was under 2%. It’s the yellow ones who are really self-hating. It’s gotten to the point where some of them have stooped so low as to appear on youtube or some other video making derogatory remarks at the physical attributes of Asian men compared to white men. That’s how really ugly they are on the inside. It seems that it’s the white women, as well as the Latin and Black women despite their economic woes, who remain loyal to their own men and race. That’s how sick our Asian “sisters” have become.
    There are some in the Asian community that blame the white man for suffering from YELLOW FEVER for all this WM/AF dating. But in most cases it is the AF pursuing the white guy. The real fault is that our Asian women are suffering from WHITE FEVER.
    You may also notice that those cool, successful white men do not settle for Asian women or women of any other race. They usually wind up with some striking blonde haired, blue eyed woman. I guess this tells you the type of WM our AF settle for.
    As for the Asian men who are upset with the WM/AF dating scene don’t be. You should just feel sorry for these self-hating Asian women who have gotten so sick and ugly on the inside.
    By the way, has anybody come across a merried WM/AF couple where the AF has to work 9/5 while the WM is unemployed. I have come across 3 cases just like that.
    For your consolation, just check out http://www.geisham.blogspot.com.

  357. Billyap
    Posted January 13, 2012 at 6:27 am | Permalink

    There’s still one big ? on my face. Why haven’t any of these Asian-American civil rights groups addressed this problem of self-hating AF. They are always ready to criticize Hollywood for movies like The Last Samurai and Memoirs of a Geishor for not getting it right -which is the right thing to do. But they simply ignore these self-hating AF, which is becoming a trend. Is it because some of these women running these civil rights organizations are themselves self-hating AF. These ugly and sick self-hating AF just make the KKK so lame.

  358. C
    Posted January 14, 2012 at 3:36 pm | Permalink

    I’m mixed, mexican and white. I got more of my looks from my fathers side(french-canadian). So I look more white. I prefer latino and italian men. Many italian men are more cultured and romantic than American men. Many latino men are just hotter, period. Dark hair, skin, and killer eyes. Latino men also tend to have a way with the ladies. All that being said, I have dated many white men. I have found though that in reality it really all depends on the individuals personality when it comes right down to it. You will find losers in all races, and gems in all of them. There are a few cultured American men out there. Not many, but they exist.

  359. Mark
    Posted January 22, 2012 at 9:19 am | Permalink

    Asian men have smaller penises but make more money than white men so white women who are gold diggers should seek asian men since penis is less important than money for those who only care about the money. This means that Asian men can get Jewish girls!

  360. Jeff
    Posted January 23, 2012 at 5:00 pm | Permalink

    I agree with most of the White women commenting here, especially “Proud White Woman.” Racially aware White women are a major turn on.

  361. Jeff
    Posted January 23, 2012 at 5:13 pm | Permalink

    Not that I don’t find Asian women attractive, I just stick to my own. I consider a White woman beautiful regardless of her physical appearance. I also consider most White women physically beautiful. Looks aren’t the only good quality of a White woman.

  362. Victoria
    Posted January 25, 2012 at 5:40 am | Permalink

    I don’t know what guys are saying Asian girls have no curve, ass or boobs, excuse me. I think there is no need to generalize all Asian girls in that category. I’m Chinese and Filipino, and blessed with some of the curves in the Filipino side of mine thanks to my mom. I guess my boobs aren’t too big, but not to small either with a butt at least you can see that I have one and it’s not incredibly large. I have sun every now and then but I’m naturally light-skinned, and just become a little golden but not tan. My eyes are fairly large, and I don’t have the typical Asian girl stereotype behavior. I think they’re stupid an pointless, as for Asian women mooching off money? Hello, not only them but other races do that shit. And I honestly want to smack you retards who think they are the only one who does that. I work for my money as an honest citizen in America. I don’t need a man to get money.

    As for the topic, I honestly like white men because most I’ve been with are so sweet and kind. Where I live there isn’t much Asians and when I do meet one, unfortunately they’re assholes and flirts like crazy with other girls. So it was out of the list and I find white men great in and out, preferably. I’m with a Serbian and Norwegian fiancé, he’s those guys who I’d meet once in a lifetime in my life. I genuinely love him, and he is the same with me. I won’t change him for the world and I’m excited to have a future with him. As for those insults I’ve read: no respect and it’s fucking rude, you can say it online but not in ones face. Coward much? And no need with stereotypes, just preferably go with experiences. But note not all are the same.

  363. Camille
    Posted February 7, 2012 at 9:50 pm | Permalink

    So if we are a white woman:

    We are ugly, you are cheating, you are not elegant (sorry but I live in Paris so the most elegant women are white there, sorry guys, but asian women don’t like fashion for the majority), …

    A lot of asian women have a very dark skin, some have light skin but in France it is only in Paris and it is rare.

    Thanks men

    And if it is not asian women it is russian women. Is the nationnality so important for men ?
    And do not say it is for the look because a lot of women there have very light skin and light eyes like russians women.

    So what is the problem with men ?

    Well I think men just want easy things: date with an asian women, date with a russian women. Of course in their situation, they will accept all propose, they have no choice.

  364. Camille
    Posted February 7, 2012 at 10:06 pm | Permalink

    Men who have not successfully with white women want to go with these women. They think they can date a beautiful asian women but not a beautiful white women.

  365. Octane Chick
    Posted February 8, 2012 at 9:29 am | Permalink

    I’m Filipina-Chinese, have lived in L.A. for the last 30 years. I have worked in Fortune 500 companies and make very good money (big salary, bonuses, stock options). I work with professionals and many Asian women I know who are also professionals married white men. Where I live and work is mostly white, so I don’t find it unusual to see the Asian/white combo. I married an Asian guy. We have two kids. I notice when we are around town, only white guys check me out. If we go to Chinatown to eat, Asian guys don’t check me out. I find that interesting but I don’t know why that is. I am 46. I am 5′7, big boobs (natural), light skin although I try to tan if I can, and very fit (I will be doing my 3rd triathlon this year). I have long dark hair that I highlight because I like the look on me, not because I am trying to look white. I can probably get away with looking like I’m in my late 30’s/early 40’s. I hired a personal trainer after having each child and got back in shape within a couple months after giving birth. I love my culture, I love the way I look, I am intelligent and make good money. If I was single, I would not go for a fat, ugly guy. I don’t care if he is rich. I don’t care if he is whiter than snow. If he doesn’t turn me on, it’s a deal breaker. I make my own money, so I don’t need a guy to support me. My husband works out. He’s got good biceps and shoulders. He never got fat after we got married. He dresses well if we go out. If I was single I would probably end up with a white guy because they check me out at restaurants, at the gym, etc. Hardly any Asian guys where I live and work. And besides, I’m taller than most Asian guys (I’m at 5′9 or 5′10 with heels on). My siblings and nieces are all tall, and we are all professionals. My nieces are in college taking up engineering, medicine, dentistry. We are not self haters, we are a fairly good looking family so a lot of people say (good Chinese/Filipino combo). Yes, the women in our family are confident, opinionated, and admittedly domineering. Submissive we are not, that’s for sure. But we don’t have anger issues, and we have fun with our husbands. I stay slim, make good money, let my husband do what he wants (and I do too haha). So those posters out there saying Asian women are only after white guys for their money, are only referring to FOBs perhaps. Personally, I think when a guy is hot, he is hot. Truly I have seen many fine specimen of men, no matter what race. But again, if it’s white guys checking me out…it’s supply and demand. There are so many Asian women who went to college (guess who gets the good grades in college?), got good jobs, and are dating white men. These women are not desperate, ugly self haters. A lot of them stayed slim after having kids (my observation), have careers, houses, nice vacations, etc. At least that’s what’s common in the West Coast from my experience/observation. Anyway, I have wondered myself over the years, and have asked myself why white men like Asian women, or vice versa. I still don’t know why. Many reasons, as you can see from the postings. In the end, it boils down to preference. Whatever turns you on, whatever floats your boat…hey that’s all good with me.

  366. shania
    Posted February 8, 2012 at 3:31 pm | Permalink

    many women indonesia who is married with white man and makes children the son of a mixture of ( eruasian indonesian ) very beautiful .

  367. shania
    Posted February 8, 2012 at 3:37 pm | Permalink

    Indonesians is married to an American, Dutch, English, australian, german children’s children they are very cute, flat rate of the Indonesian women like white because it wants to have a cute baby !!

  368. wilbert
    Posted February 9, 2012 at 7:50 am | Permalink

    brown skin , the beautiful and sexy of many women indonesia very interesting a white person to be married to them . and make their descendants exceedingly beautiful / handsome

  369. Mike
    Posted February 27, 2012 at 10:14 am | Permalink

    Personally, I don’t find Asian women attractive, I find them incredibly repulsive. From what I’ve seen online, they’re very manipulative.

  370. Mike
    Posted February 27, 2012 at 10:18 am | Permalink

    Most of the men who date them are pxssies who couldn’t get a white woman. Lolz..

  371. Wake up White people
    Posted February 27, 2012 at 11:31 am | Permalink

    Dating one is bad, sleeping with one is disgusting, breeding with one is highly offensive.

  372. Wake up White people
    Posted February 27, 2012 at 1:13 pm | Permalink

    You should date White women you fools!

  373. John
    Posted February 27, 2012 at 3:07 pm | Permalink

    I don’t consider asian women attractive.

  374. Wake up White people
    Posted February 29, 2012 at 3:51 am | Permalink

    Most White men don’t date Asian women. The ones who do date Asian women do it because they hate White women. They’re cowards and race traitors. They can’t handle an independent White woman so they have to downgrade, they also prefer a woman with the body of a young boy.

  375. Realist
    Posted March 1, 2012 at 1:28 am | Permalink

    The main reason that white men go with Asian women is certainly not their look, since to me, excuse my taste, they are not attractive at all, small eyed, flat chested, mousy hair… it is that they are submissive and meek, and easy to get to bed with. Can you name one intellectual oriental women on this planet. You can never hold a decent conversation with any of them, I know I should not exaggerate and I hope to find one, but they are good at sex and feeding a man and worship a white man, something that white women do not do. Most macho stupid men want these things, intelligent men normally marry intelligent women not these simple minded shallow women.

  376. An Asian Man
    Posted March 6, 2012 at 12:55 am | Permalink

    Dear Harvard grad,

    Please let your thread die and move on with your life.

    I am sorry but if you feel you have some complex please kick it out. Life is blessed and please do not get caught up with the question which has been looping and sucking your energy so deeply.

    There is a pair for everyone and when the time comes I am sure you will find someone.

    Please move on.

    I am an asian men too and I encourage you get in touch with yourself deep inside and your heritage and feel content of being yourself - which is sacred and present from a God / Jesus / Budha / Mohammad / or whatever you pray to.

  377. Yet Another Asian
    Posted March 6, 2012 at 10:41 am | Permalink

    tommye
    Posted May 2, 2010 at 8:36 pm |….and just like that, the white man is insecure :)

    What I find amusing is the asian women comments directly in conflict with the white men ones e.g. the asian woman who said she hates asian men because they expect to be waited on and treated like gods… then white men saying they love asian women because they wait on him and treat him like a god :D And then those that say “Oh I like asian men just as much as white men, blah blah”… then the last sentence is “But I like white men more because of blue eyes, white skin etc.”. Hypocrites!

    And one has to ask for all the other self hating asian women - how can we be feminine, asexual - yet misogynistic at the same time???

    Also a good point by jon, December 28, 2009 at 6:40 pm …. before this white man-asian woman fetish, Chinese men were EXTREMELY popular with white women, at least in Britain - they served for the British Navy (as seamen, lol) with distinction during the two world wars… during WW2 they were responsible for shipping vital equipment from the US to UK to help repel the Nazis… that’s right, without Chinese men the UK would be German….afterwards, they hooked up with white women in their droves - so much so that the white men took notice. Also, unlike the other minority communities who settled after the war, they didn’t want “dirty prostitutes” but rather “decent, homely” women… naturally they had children and lived as happy families for a while. That is, until the British men, home after the war, resented the fact that these “Chinamen” were sleeping with “their” women. They petitioned government and tried all the tricks in the book - they even took away citizenship from the British women. Soon after, the Chinese men were deported, leaving their wives and children behind. They were not informed by the govenment where they went - many thought they abandoned them.

    http://www.halfandhalf.org.uk/

    Finally, all those white men (it is only white men, funny that) who state that asian men have small dicks as if fact… how would you know, exactly? You need to have seen quite a few (over 400 million - over half the asian male population) to have a decent estimation - then another billion or so for the other race’s male population - in order to get a decent comparison. Even gay men wouldn’t be able to tell, because even if they are the city whore, gay men tend to be on average smaller men (in all departments) than straight - for many gays, that’s why they turned gay.

  378. mark
    Posted March 7, 2012 at 7:39 am | Permalink

    I don’t find asian women appealing. I also don’t like the fact that their subservient, or so they say. i don’t see them often where i live. so that may be why.

  379. mark
    Posted March 7, 2012 at 7:41 am | Permalink

    alot of insecure asian dudes flocking here. lol

  380. Daniel
    Posted March 13, 2012 at 11:25 pm | Permalink

    count me out of the group of white men that find asian women attractive - I think 99% of asian women are ugly - big heads, terrible teeth, flat faces - they just gross me the hell out.

    But then again I am a good looking white guy, so I am not interested in ugly women of any ethnicity.

  381. Antonio
    Posted March 25, 2012 at 5:33 pm | Permalink

    This is pure BS; look at the photo itself; it shows what kind of white guys “prefer” Asian women; fat, bald, dull in the sack and mostly ones who can’t get white women.

    Look at white guy movie stars, athletes and musicians, like Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, etc basically white guys that women want; none of them date Asian women.

    Asian women are a blessing for nerdy, unattractive white guys who have little experience with women. These guys are afraid to go with a good looking white women because there’s a chance that she once dated a black guy or a desirable white guy so how are they going to compete with that? This is where their sexual insecurity comes to play: how are they going to satisfy a woman who has once been with a couple of real men?

    To each his own, but don’t go on saying that white guys prefer Asian women because most of the ones who have any skill with women sure as hell prefer white women.

  382. whiteguywithasiangrl
    Posted March 31, 2012 at 9:57 am | Permalink

    I agree this post is stupid every time some one sees an asian girl with a white guy or ANY GUY that guy has an asian fetish -.- people who say that including the poster of this topic is either A) ugly ass fu ck white biitch or black chick who cant get a man in general and jealous of hot asian girls, or B a general jealous racist WHO GIVes a fuck about studies!!! they dont prove shiit half the people lie during studies anyway from the first time i saw my gf i knew i loved her for WO SHE IS not cuz shes asian i dont give a fu ck about that i think other racial jealous ass females need to stop hating cuz they cant get a man of their own race -.- IF ANYTHING asian girls are generaly nicer and a wait for it……LOYAL. U want a man? STOP FUC KING AROUND ON HIM and acting like a bitch all the time and maybe ull get on dont get pissed when u see some one else with a man and u dont have one.

  383. Chris M
    Posted April 1, 2012 at 2:04 pm | Permalink

    I read through the comments on here and lot of laughable and idiot responses. Women in Asia with oriental features are a large population of attractive to some not as attractive. It is silly for some white men to come on here and say that Asian women are the most attractive in the world. This is coming from a black guy who is in long term relationship with a japanese woman. I never got my current girl by just seeking out an asian women. Living in NYC our getting together just happened and it took work and a little luck my part.

    Growing up as a african american minority here in NY I can say White men and White people are considered “cream of the crop” by the fashion industry, pop culture and the media. Thus we have millions of asian american girls who desire to be with what the media tells them is sexy.

    The idea that asian american men are feminine is bullshit piece of drivel that some asian american girls use to justify why they lust for white men. My gym is filled with muscle packed asian guys who are just manly as some of the fat douchebags that can be found all over the country.

    This phenomenon of wanting to be with White men is nothing new it is all media controlled. Generation X women have grown up watching Bradd Pitt, George Clooney, Tom Cruise and were taught from a very early age that those white men are the cream of the crop.

  384. Asian Guy
    Posted April 9, 2012 at 1:30 am | Permalink

    It is sad that it is more normal to hear an asian girl say… “I am an asian woman and i go out with a white male, i have nothing against asian men i just happened to fall for the white guy”… something of that nature

    than to hear an asian girl say “i go out with an asian man”. which is actually out of the norm now.

    i think secretively, asian females just plain out aren’t attracted to asian males but they will not say it because it sounds self-hating, why? look how the media has portrayed the asian male, short, nerdy, losers, ugly, socially awkward, knows kung fu, studious, etc.. how has the media portrayed white males? heros, lovers, fighters, sexy, handsome, etc…

    now lets say an asian female has 2 choices of men she is attracted to.
    guy #1: an asian male who is incredibly attractive, handsome, respectful, athletic, caring, smart, ambitious, and what not
    vs
    guy #2: a white male, average looking, somewhat attractive, kind of a jerk but can be nice, not too ambitious, nothing really special about him.

    i guarantee you that probably about 75% of asian females would choose the white guy. why?…. well if she went out with the asian guy, she is still going out with AN ASIAN GUY. no matter how good looking, hot , sexy, cool he is, he is still the asian guy. he may not be a loser, nerdy, short, kung fu master, but that is the stereotypes that will go along with him.
    end result, the asian female going out with a white guy, but claiming she would date asian guys.
    and i know this for a fact… i am an asian male, and i have a lot of asian female cousins, dont try to deny it because if you do you are most likely
    1- an asian female going out with a white male
    2- a white male

  385. Asian Guy
    Posted April 9, 2012 at 1:54 am | Permalink

    and yes you can say that i am angry about it. most of the asian girls that i have liked…. ended up with white men.

    as an asian male, society is pretty much against us. of course you wont believe it because you are not an asian male so you would never understand.
    but we are pretty much left in the dust. asian women never flirt with us, yet they will flirt with all the white guys they meet.

    so yes it sucks. and no i am not at all mad at the white man for it, they like asian females and they get the chance to be with them.
    but i think that the asian females are the ones that make it that easy for them because they pretty much fling themselves to the white male.

    and i will pretty much hear something like this in the next posts “quit complaining and talk to more women”. its not that easy if your an asian man, and unless your an asian male, you cannot say otherwise because… you are not in our position.

    very depressing

  386. Janice
    Posted April 15, 2012 at 11:32 pm | Permalink

    I’m half Italian and half Puertorrican and I love my background and as far as I’m concern I think this white men fetish for Asian women is a bit exaggerated. I don’t find Asian men or women attractive in the least. I stick to my kind; Latin American or of Italian descent.

  387. Dana
    Posted April 18, 2012 at 2:30 pm | Permalink

    This is what I’ve been told by a former boyfriend who dated 3 Asian women:

    1. They are easy to bed.
    2. They make it very easy for the man to pursue them. They are not afraid to approach a man and press upon a date.
    3. They are pleasers, even if it means going against their wishes.

  388. Rick
    Posted April 29, 2012 at 9:55 am | Permalink

    Asian chicks are hot, anyone saying otherwise is a fool and lying. I haven’t met too many Asian women, so I can’t comment on their personalities.

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  390. TexanGirl
    Posted May 2, 2012 at 10:47 am | Permalink

    I am Asian, Indian to be exact, and for some reason I just don’t find many Indian men to be attractive at all. Only boyfriends I’ve had are white. There was this one guy back in high school that I kinda liked, but he was too shy to ask me out and one of my white friends beat him to it. Actually, you know why I don’t like 99% of Indian men: because they are wayyyy too sweet! In a relationship, I want my man to be a MAN, and let me tell you, Indian men are not like that at all. They can be quite submissive which turns me off so fast.

  391. dee
    Posted May 3, 2012 at 10:39 am | Permalink

    i’m a rather racist asian and never wants any white man. i’m thai woman of siam origin, not an insulted isan girl in the northeast of Thailand. Isan northeast was conquerred by siam and has been integrated into today’s Thailand (new name of the country). in fact, i have han chinese blood of teochew origin from my motherside, and my father is thai of full blood. I am never interested in any white man nor black man. I have no sexual mood with any white man nor black man. i mock a pairing of whiteman with an Isan girl in the northeast of thailand. a white man is not at all capable as white race were killed by mongols and could not conquerred Siam nor occupied it by military force even after WW2. During WW2, Japan agreed to sign an ally contract with thais, and any japanese atrocities never happened in Thailand. Even USA had to ask permission from us if it wanted to enter Thailand in anticommunism war, and all bases in Thailand during vietnam war time had to be controlled and commanded by Thais, not USA under the agreement with USA. in fact, Thais were an ally, not any occuppied state of USA like philippines. whitemen are sth cannot. whitemen are too kind or Low IQ to conquer any small land. whitemen are not at all cunning as they fought each other before Thais again after WW2, England & France pointed out Thais were defeated war criminal, but north American confirmed thais were good guys. So thais were not occupied by military force of Allied like were Japan. White race is good looking but i never dream of them as my sexual mate. i am racist and very attached to my asian blood of Siam or thailand. i do not want to marry out. my younger brother will marry a han chinese girl of full blood who is an immigrant of thailand. Without a thai man, i still rethink if a teochew chinese man will be suitable for me or not. i never want to marry out. i’ am racist asian. i and other siam people, mock whitemen with isan girls in the northeast who are in fact inferior to Siam people of thailand.

  392. steve
    Posted May 12, 2012 at 7:36 am | Permalink

    I am a 22 year old white male that likes asians; maybe I can share why I like asian women to help shed some light. I like the tone of their skin the olive brown complexion it gives them an almost smooth look not to mention their petite stature and naturally dark hair. Some are actually nice yet some are timid the whole good manners thing makes most of them more desirable.

  393. Emie
    Posted May 22, 2012 at 11:26 pm | Permalink

    wow.. wow.. what is happening here lol XD like asian for who we are maybe some of asian people is racist but for sure Muslim people does that or some chinese people cuz there so much religion culture but for me asian or not asian we still human ahahha i think western girl is a pretties girl tho

  394. Jake
    Posted May 23, 2012 at 6:42 am | Permalink

    They’re beautiful.

  395. Truth Speaker
    Posted May 27, 2012 at 8:38 pm | Permalink

    The fact is, only ugly and trashy “Asian” women date whites. Some are the scum shit of society with no brains, thus why so many of their white pimps say they’re stupid (as in this comment section). Banging a white guy (usually 10 different white guys at a time) will give the woman a good income for little work.

    White men’s dicks are very small and soft so they can do more work in a day and earn more money. They also know when their ugly mixed race child is born, the white father will start raping it so his small dick is a benefit.

  396. rotaryseven
    Posted June 5, 2012 at 5:34 am | Permalink

    Just wanted to add my two cents worth…
    Asian women tend to be thinner than almost any other race. They tend to be not so tall, they tend not to be so loud or aggressive except for some very Americanized ones. These are all things that are going to be things that will increase their attraction besides the fetish issues.

    On the other hand being an Asian male, all those factors turned around now are negatives. Except if you are a gay Asian dude…then again they are all positives.

    My advice to all of my Asian friends have consistently been to look outside of their normal parameters for their relations, whether it’s height or age or what ever.

    Too many Asian dudes are very very picky, which unless you are a rich, tall and very good looking dude, isn’t going to get you anywhere!!!

  397. Asianwomenornot
    Posted June 24, 2012 at 8:10 am | Permalink

    Asian women are way too easy to get. They only want green card or money. Also I have heard chinese girls only want a foreign boyfriend but do not really care who you actually are. Ive heard of chinese girls said chinese boys have small dicks, after communication with some white girls who have chinese boyfriends, chinese boys just have normal dicks. Hence I have to consider chinese girls as self-racism. On the other hand I love Japanese girls coz they are elegant and well-mannered.

  398. Lamour
    Posted June 24, 2012 at 8:26 am | Permalink

    believe me, chinese girls are far away to be a real idealist girl that men can imagine…

    - first, life is a game for them… does not matter what, married or not married… and that is completly true, men have to guess what they have in mind.
    - second, they will never accept that they are wrong… honestly i don t know why ? too proud ? mh??!!
    - no real respect for things in general.
    - if they do not have a real answer or justifitive from a question… they will tell you, here it is china, or they will tell you, well i am chinese… or people in china are like that.
    - then, if you express yourself about something that you have , notice that was bad… she will do agree with you… but she will not mean it really, because she is also like this.
    - if you do not accept what she wants, she will play the little girl.or even cry ( it s fake ).
    - most of the time, she will tell you that she bought something for you… but the real part, it will be for her…
    - they always expect more from a man than they can provide.
    - most of topic of the day, MONEY.
    - reading book, usually, love story… so bullshit.

    i think that i said the most commun… GOOD LUCK for men who want to be with a chinese women… honestly, i regret my marriage

  399. Pedro
    Posted June 29, 2012 at 6:32 pm | Permalink

    BLAH BLAH BLAH… WHY ASIAN WOMEN - WHITE MALE??? … EASY WHITE MALE BIG TIME FETISHISM, ASIAN WOMEN BIG TIME TRING TO THINK WILL CLIMB SOCIAL CLASS.

  400. john
    Posted July 13, 2012 at 8:50 pm | Permalink

    Susan Su, hey babe!

    I am in Dallas at this moment, but i could be in S.F. by 6:30pm this evening…we could hit Starbucks i you like :)

    And ok, we keep it casual today..:)

    Very best regards,
    John

  401. anon
    Posted July 14, 2012 at 6:22 pm | Permalink

    why do asian women prefer white men? seriously?

    asian woman:
    small penis? big penis? small penis? big penis?
    BIG PENIS!!!! WHITE MEN HERE I GO!!

  402. tu
    Posted July 26, 2012 at 6:13 am | Permalink

    THIS “Asian fetis” PHENOMENON NEVER HAPPENS IN THE TRUE ASIA.
    These asian women are not asian spirits but asian looks, they were born out of the motherland Asia and cannot speak their mother tongue or if can learn their mother tongue, they cannot speak with the asian accent.
    i’m a thai woman, and was born in Thailand and learns English as a career, and i’m a translator. In thailand, middle class teenagers are crazy for men of our race and other brotherhood asian men i.e. chinese men, korean, japanese men.
    Thailand is a developing country due racial conflicts, the ruling race is Thai while other 41 races have been put under rule by Thai ethic minoriy of light gold skin.
    People in the poorest northeast and south are not Thai ethics but were conquerred and have been ruled as slaves by thai ethic shan or, in anglor wat language, siam. Whitemen caucasians misunderstand their position in Asia and can get only non-Thai ethic black skin Issan women who are the lowest class. If you visit the center of the capital city of thailand, we see a typing paring of low iq whitemen caucasian with non-Thai ethic black skin Issan women. This scene makes Thais laugh at white caucasian.

  403. JAG
    Posted July 29, 2012 at 2:52 am | Permalink

    I love reading the posts from angry asian males that can’t date any race except black now. It’s very exciting. Keep it coming chicks with a dick! I love your smooth chests and fairywinkle features.

  404. mshawm
    Posted August 13, 2012 at 6:07 pm | Permalink

    Asian women definitely taste and smell better. The first time I went down on an asian woman I was pleasantly surprised out how sweet she tasted, also lacking the fishy smell of white women.

  405. Awaken Asian Man
    Posted August 16, 2012 at 12:04 pm | Permalink

    Because I know Asian women love white men so much I can’t blame the white men for loving them back. Asian women are too easy by throwing themselves at white men any chance they get. I know this deep down inside my soul about Asian women and for this reason alone I will never marry an Asian woman for fear that she will one day succumb and cheat on me with a white man. Asian women claimed they like Asian men but it’s just a facade to make them look like they’re not self-hating. Beside, how many times have I heard that saying yet in reality I see those same women who claimed that in front of my face and they’re dating non-Asian men. I read a comment made in 2009 I think it was, about an Asian Woman who claimed she dates white men because it’s the Asian men’s fault, that the Asian men never ask her out yet in her comment she said there was one Asian guy who was over-confident and shown interest in her. Did she go out with this confident guy? NO! Hypocrisy at its best. I have been researching into this phenomenon and found that most (not all) of these Asian women do have an inferiority complex disorder so they want to move up the social ladder and more times than not they are self-hating. They will bash their fellow Asian brothers if it means satisfying their white man. Now there is a question for you white men out there who love Asian women. Why would you want to date a person much less a human being like that? It is false love inspired by self-hatred. Most Asian women I’ve come across are very gullible and easily brain washed by the media. They honestly believe what the media tells them to be true. Seriously though, I’m an Asian man and I have to say I love my Asian heritage and culture so much to see this happening but it has gone too far. For reasons mentioned above I no longer have a choice but to no longer abide by my love for my culture. If they can stray then so can I. As of right now I see I have two options:

    (1) Be single and alone for the rest of my life, which isn’t so bad knowing what I have to deal with in an Asian woman.
    (2) If I am to ever marry it will now have to be a non-Asian woman. At least this non-Asian woman will love me for who I am if I ever find her. She will love every bit of Asian in me.

    On a last note, I’m an Asian male living in the US all my life so it’s a numbers game. There are more white women available to me. I find white women more attractive. Do you see the hypocrisy in this? I actually don’t care anymore. I look at it as filtering out the rotten apples amongst the good ones. So if there are Asian women out there who genuinely dates Asian guys because you like them my hat’s off to you. As for me I still stand by what I’ve said earlier. I’m too affected by this to just let it slide. There has to be a balance in all things. It’s just how the law of the universe works.

  406. Posted August 16, 2012 at 8:15 pm | Permalink

    Iam an Asian woman who married a white male, we both love n respect each other very much. I just wanted to say, the reason why white males goes for Asain women cause we let them be the men n respect them and care for them very much and same way in return.

    For my experienced, I have many of white female friends and after being friend with them for a long time I can see why white men goes for Asian women.

    White women tent to complaint a lot of almost everything, they bash their man and always have something bad to say about them n of course i am not saying very single one of them but lots of them like that! I was shocked to hear that but of course I did not want to say anything back to them, but if I did our relationship properly will end right there n of course it doesn’t do any good for me so I kept my mouth close. I even shocker even my friend the one who is being married for long n still doing the same things.
    I pity for white women. Sometime we go out for lunch or dinner if they see me lightly dress better then them and u can see the jealousy come out. My husband n I have brought a nicer house and some gfs of mine slowly disappear, they don’t call me as much as they used to n hardly see them anymore, how sad!!! But I have to say I just live my life regardless of what they thinking of me but I can only say be nice n be me. So, for them who see us with white men of course they r going to get jealous, and even somes will be angry but who care about what they think if 2 people r happy to be with each other so let it be regardless of what people think. They r saying mean things because they the unhapped with their life n have a chips on their shouder n also make them feel better about themselves.

    Just think about this, happy people naturally say n do nice things!!!!

  407. Posted August 16, 2012 at 8:30 pm | Permalink

    Respond to
    Asian man above!

    You will die alone n lonely!

  408. Posted August 16, 2012 at 11:33 pm | Permalink

    just want to say, why is this an issue to people anyway, don’t understand?

    did you take a look at people who live in Hollywood lot and lot of white young girls throw themselves to men who are celebrities and these men r a lot older then them, I mean he could be her grandfather, i am sure you properly see that or unless you r blind or portent to be, so don’t tell me the only white women can do so, such give me a break!!!!
    Asian people are very smart n not only books smart but in every way, so just stop ur B.S. you all can say whatever you want nothing is going to change, so you people got some anger issue deal with it, cause no one going to make you happy until you do it for yourself.

  409. Culture
    Posted August 30, 2012 at 1:50 pm | Permalink

    I feel that a key element is missing here that distinguishes a fetish from an informed preference. I am a white male married to a Korean girl. Lumping Asians together into one group is like saying white Americans and white Germans are the same. Asia features some of the most vast and diverse cultures in the world.

    The WM/AF fetish or any fetish for that matter is both a product of socialization and the amount of exposure. This is more of a curiosity phenomenon since a lack of difinitive cultural understanding has not been established. I grew up in a mostly white area and can remember having a fascination for making friends of different races and cultural values. As I entered adolescence I was attracted to females of different races, ethnicities, and backgrounds but did not fully understand why. As an adult I realized that this was not a fetish, but a desire to build meaningful relationships, travel, share in food and culture, and learn. I dated females of many ethnicities and cultures and just happened to fall in love with a Korean girl (who, by the way,is anything but shy and submissive) I cannot speak for every inter-racial couple, but it is the differences and the opportunity to learn from one another and work together to overcome challenges that makes the relationhips feel more rewarding.

    The problem with Americans (mainly 3rd generation and beyond) is that we have no real identity outside of loosely defined racial lines (try explaining to a foreigner what American food is without referencing a fast food chain). Many American Men and Women are, whether they make the association or not are drawn to groups that they feel are either similar; or like me are very different. The more exposure to different types of people from diverse backgrounds results in preference rather simply a curiosity. If I had to choose, I would probably choose Korean women as my preference because I love the food, the culture, and have a sense of identity. Therefore my standards for beauty, compatibility, and desire ability have transcended into an informed preference. If you don’t believe me. Live in a foreign country or an homogenous community for a year or two and not develop an attraction for the opposite sex(or same sex if you swing that way) of the host country nationals.

    As for the sexploitation by WM of AF, it is not the driving force behind prefernce. Most places around the wold bolster gender power & submissiveness as a widespread form of erotica. The men who go on sex-trips to Southeast Asia or import mail-order brides are simply fulfilling purely sexual needs that they have the ability to exploit. This is no different than pornographic fantasies.

    My goal is to provide insight from personal experiences.

  410. Johnny
    Posted September 7, 2012 at 1:26 am | Permalink

    I am a white guy, and, except for one characteristic that changes everything, I prefer white girls.

    That characteristic is that Asian girls are easy. The biggest turn on is a girl that wants to sleep with you.

  411. Nguyen
    Posted September 11, 2012 at 6:23 am | Permalink

    I am Asian woman.

    To Awaken Asian Man:
    “…these Asian women do have an inferiority complex disorder so they want to move up the social ladder and more times than not they are self-hating”.

    Let’s change this. Please, don’t say and even think that marrying a white man is moving up the social ladder because that seems disrespect to your ancestors. Some white people may consider themselves a higher level just because they are white. I believe such people have nothing to be proud of except their skin. We respect ourselves for the efforts we made to change our lives.

    By the way, the white skin that most of asian like is not the type most of white people have. It is the same as the difference of the shiny tan skin and the dull brown skin of a farmer.

    Someone above said he had never met any Asian women who are smart. First of all, that may the result of language barrier. Second, probably that he could meet someone of his level only. Smart and well-educated women dont bother talking with him.

    I myself find that white women are kind. I have no idea how they treat their husbands because I have no chance to know.

  412. Michael Jones
    Posted September 25, 2012 at 1:48 am | Permalink

    I think I just had an epiphany.

    The only other major producer of pornography on the world stage is Japan (besides the US of course).

    Porn has a huge effect on whom we view as attractive in America, and I honestly think this might be the missing (but fundamentally obvious) link.

  413. Juan
    Posted September 28, 2012 at 1:05 am | Permalink

    The reason of all this is simple, asian women (especially those who are born and raised in western countries) are influenced by western culture, in societies like ours the beauty standards are white and for some reason asian women are considered “compatible”to white men tastes, the point is that western aka “white” men have an advantage just for being whites, in this world white people are a referent and asian women have found their place with them

  414. XO
    Posted September 30, 2012 at 10:14 pm | Permalink

    Remember that most Asian countries are only a generation or two (if even that) removed from Third World status.

    The Third World Mentality stills exists among Asians, even those born in America, and that’s precisely what we’re seeing with those Asian women who will only date white men. Is there anything more Third World than abandoning your roots and heritage to “move up” to be with whites? Nope.

    If indeed the problem with Asian men was a lack of masculinity (a BS racist charge, BTW), then Asian women should prefer black men over comparatively wimpy white men. But Asian women are incredibly discriminating against black men.

    Why? Because of ingrained Third World Mentalities and White Worship.

    Asian women can hang their Ivy League degrees, drive their BMWs, clutch their Prada purses, and drink their martinis at expensive bars, but as long as they harbor this Third World Mentality that urges them to “whiten” their genes, they’re no different than a bar hostess in the “Old Country” looking to hitch herself to an American GI for the Promised Land.

  415. mlynn
    Posted October 4, 2012 at 1:30 am | Permalink

    I had to research this because it had become a frustrating reality for me recently. I am Spanish/Italian with what 10% Philippine do to the Spanish invading the Philippine’s many years ago. So some of my father’s side has slanted eyes…me just a tiny bit. Anyways, I have grown up in LA all of my life and watched my Latin Uncles and father expect their woman to serve them hand and foot. Me and my sisters had to do everything for our Father. Cooking, cleaning, make his lunch and if it wasn’t made right we had to make it again, iron his clothes, and be the boys he never had too with sports and training with weights lol needless to say…this turned me off to my own race.

    Although I have a gift for hospitality and love taking care of the man I’m with, I don’t want it to be expected simply because I am a woman. I did date all races growing up and Married a man who was half African American and Swedish so basically he looked like a Rick Fox from the Lakers. We had a great marriage till he cheated (that was 11yrs ago and he told me he regrets it)..This kinda turned me of to African American men as well. You can say I’m a bit scarred of the two races. I don’t hold grudges I just prefer White men now. I’m mostly attracted to fair skin dark hair or red heads and dirty blonde with glasses…

    Now here’s where the problem came in…I had been attending a church in Pasadena and it was pretty much dominated by Korean woman with White men. I thought I was being racist for noticing the epidemic until one of my white male friends wrote a song about how he prefers Asian Women over any race…He performed this song one night at a Pub in L.A. as he and his two other friends laughed and cheered in the audience cos they too had Asian women. I felt frustrated inside because the few men I was attracted to and liked went for Asian women.

    I am fair skinned brown eye’s brown hair and usually mistaken for early twenty’s when in fact I am 37. I thought it was interesting how one of the commenters mentioned white males prefer asians for their youthful look and fair skin.

    Well, more recently I met this guy who loves asian women. He’s a white guy living in WeHo and our friendship blossomed and our flirting evolved to wanting to kiss…He said I am an amazing kisser, His compliments vary from saying I am- a doll, a sweetheart,attractive, he loves my full lips and smile, that I am very smart, and talented…but I’m just not his type because he likes Asian women. I do feel a bit frustrated.

    It’s funny because there are a lot of Asian women who come into my place of work, and the first thing that pops into my mind is, would James like her, oh I bet he would go for her…ugh.. by the end of the day my mind is flooded with Asian Women. And Ironically there is a Korean Male who flirts with me every day…but he hasn’t asked me out and he’s tall haha.. (off point)

    James also told me he was once engaged to a Filipina, who made him give up his Acting Career to go to Medical school. She wanted him to make more money and be like the rest of her family…then she cheated on him, and broke off the engagement… But he’s still attracted to Asian women. And my friend Nathan is going through the same exact thing with his Filipina gf.

    One White Male customer who was Married to an Asian women told me he was one of those guys too, who wanted an Asian women because she looked exotic. They are now divorced because he said she lacked passion for life, was to serious, and they fought all of the time.. he later married a Latina and is very happy.

    I’m not giving my opinion on the issue, I am just venting from my last five year frustration and after reading all of these comments I realized it wasn’t just me who noticed it. I am still hopeful one day I will meet the man I am attracted to…as of today I’m annoyed. I do agree though they make beautiful babies and I find Asian people male and female really like me as a friend etc….and if Bruce Lee’s son was alive I would date him in a heart beat!

  416. susan
    Posted October 4, 2012 at 11:23 am | Permalink

    I would like to say that in europe asian women are not lusted, men consider latin women as hottest and most romantic as they are. I have no idea but its true that in UK and especially US some men prefer asian women… asians are actually very aggresive people (no offense). also here in US asian guys seem to be more shy than in EU…

  417. Posted October 15, 2012 at 12:43 am | Permalink

    A past online article made reference to research done by a Professor Hahm at Boston University, although it wasn’t about finding specific rationalizations as to why Asian-American women prefer White men, it seemed to infer that a higher STD rate among young AAW was due to their broader interracial dating patterns. I wrote this comment in response: You know … about some of those comments, that is those from what appear to be from upset AAM. I say, okay it is a serious issue with the lack of using necessary protection (i.e. against STIs); but as far as AAW in choosing sexual partners who are non-Asian, look at it from a positive point of view. Fact, AAW (e.g. Korean, Chinese, Japanese women) do go out with other men of other racial/ethnic groups and, yes, their choices are broad and diverse (e.g. White, Black, Puerto Rican, Dominican, Mexican, Indian/South Asian, etc.); but that only goes to show you AAM who are upset that Asians as a people are tolerant and open-minded. So isn’t that a good thing? So if it takes AAW (minus the STIs of course) to break up and promote the idea that East Asians as a whole are NOT insular, rigid, and inflexible then so be it — this is a good thing! From my experience, Asian-Americans in general, minus a few and there are always those in any group, are a smart, tolerant, and open-minded people. And just like any racial/ethnic minority group, assimilation into a dominant culture is a de facto “work-in-progress.” So cheer up AAM who are upset, this is really a good thing. Just think, if it were the other way around, you AAM probably wouldn’t be so upset … right? In response to the topic at hand — the reasons as to why AAW choose one kind of man over another is obviously, shown by the comments expressed here, multi-faceted. My opinion is that AAW here in America can freely express themselves as sexual beings. It is a good thing that AAW know they are desirable and in turn know they have desires just like everybody else. So what if AAW seek to explore and embrace their sexuality. For heaven’s sake leave them alone and stop it with all the labeling! One final note: To all those individual AAW out there, please do use protection (such as a condom) during sex with your boyfriend(s); it takes a few short seconds to have him put it on. I know it sounds redundant, but having him use a condom can be a life-saver.

  418. Outspoken Opinion
    Posted October 16, 2012 at 2:14 am | Permalink

    Hey, we’re all entitled to ours, but I’d like to point out that to stereotype there are anomalies:
    1) I’m an educated Asian woman (Business/Finance major/ Philosophy minor) AND I’m utterly adventurous/freaky in bed (although very selective as to the person).
    2) I do not have a preference between Asian and Caucasian guys, HOWEVER, no Asian guy has ever had the guts to ask me out.
    That’s the thing. Asian guys are generally too timid in ‘the chase.’ They’ll show interest (give gifts etc.), but generally are too chicken to be aggressive. White guys don’t have that problem. If they want me, they’re willing to show it and ASK.

    Therefore, I would like to hypothesize that it has less to do with Asian women’s preferences and more to do with Asian man’s approach (or lack thereof).

  419. alex
    Posted October 23, 2012 at 5:15 am | Permalink

    Ok so from reading all the comments it seems the majority of people here are immature and buying into every stereotype imaginely possible. Some white guys are going to go for asian girls thats just the way it is, maybe they had bad experiences with white girls, maybe they just find them phyiscally attractive. whatever. Im a white girl and yeah it is annoying when white guys get an asian girlfriend and then spend hours trolling sites about how much they hate white girls now and were trash and ugly ect ect just because theyre dating an asian girl. you should date an asian girl because you like her and stop justifying it by hating on girls of your own race -_- im dating an asian boy and i would seriously be so turned off if his main reason for dating me was because he had issues with asian woman. That being said, no I’m not dating him because im an anime freak or cant get white boys. In fact, when I was single I got approached by white guys all the time! Much more frequently then my best friend who is asian and of course she gets approached by more asian guys then me as well. Grow up people and stop making such a big deal out of interacial dating! Just be with who you like and stop bitching about it.

  420. Steve
    Posted October 25, 2012 at 4:08 pm | Permalink

    It’s all about genetics…White men are looking toward intelligence….The future of the planet

  421. Pat
    Posted October 28, 2012 at 1:08 pm | Permalink

    Shallow choices are much easier to see and understand though some women are still trained to have an aversion to foreign men depending where in the nation one grows up.

    Unfamiliarity can breed contempt also.

    In mating, though, most men are not taught to think beyond the temporal beauty of what is marketed to them to imagine that these women will not remain 18-21 forever. Such shallow marketing of beauty leads to a great many differences because of cultural differences as well as the fading beauty of the women they admire.

    Encouraging men to choose women in the same manner they choose their cars - by looks- (without considering the quality and performance of the engine) is one of the stupidest things men have ever done for each other.

    Such an approach can only lead women to believe that men are simply ignorant and shallow, regardless of race and ethnicity.

  422. asian chicky
    Posted October 31, 2012 at 2:20 pm | Permalink

    White men like asian women because of hyper feminization of the asian female. She is supposedly very submissive and obedient. And that turns straight men on.

    Asian women are attracted to white men because of hyper masculinization. The asian man in American culture is too studios, boring, and effeminate.

    Don’t shoot the messenger. I don’t agree with this but this is what I have noticed. Women are just as turned on by masculinity as men are turned on by femininity.

    Even with the kung fu stereotype, the stereotype of the asian man as shorter than the white man also contributes to this.

    My solution? Send the asian girls to asian countries lol. The only time I’ve ever been attracted to asian men was when I spent 3 months in Japan, and even though I’m Chinese, 3 months in a culture where Japanese men are the majority and seeing hot girls with hot Japanese guys, I started to develop a liking for Japanese guys.

    That went away once I went back to the USA though. :( sorry asian guys we are all a product of our culture and as much as w strive to overcome these stereotypes..they are too powerful. They effect us all on a subconcious level.

    This is why asian men never want white women. Because white women are not seen as being as feminine as asian women are.

  423. Posted November 6, 2012 at 3:02 pm | Permalink

    @asian chicky, you know what, you made a very solid point: Each one of us is a product (for some, a by-product) of our society. I’m sure most will agee that this socialization process affects us by shaping our perception(s) of who is attractive and who is not. I have an Asian boyfriend (Chinese to be exact) and it is by a small chance that we found each other at work. Yes, he is quiet and on the shy side and his manner of dress is also a bit unbecoming, but his strong personal values I find very attractive. It is personal taste I guess. @outspoken opinion, you know, being around and living near an Asian community, Asian guys do try. Hearing this talk that they aren’t game enough or give up on the chase too easily is a bunch of hogwash. You see, via hindsight, I notice that an Asian guy’s way of flirtation is more subtle, definitely a less in-your-face approach. But it is there; often it is being able to recognize this subtlety and noticing his pattern of courtship. From what I’m told (i.e. from his parents, aunties, grandparents and the like), if an Asian guy feels or senses that an Asian woman of interest is “spoken for,” he will generally stop his pursuit. I don’t know how many are still left, but I sense Asian guys still are a bit on the traditional, conservative side. That is a relationship to a particular Asian guy means finding a woman who can still bear children; establishing a family together is important. Overall, I sense Asian guys are definitely marriage-minded and less of the casual dating/quick-to-have-sex routine kind of guys. So @outspoken opinion, this is just another viewpoint.

  424. Eric
    Posted November 7, 2012 at 1:01 am | Permalink

    The question “why do white guys date Asian women” is simple. It is because Asian women are very easy to get into bed. But not just any, they have to be brought up in Asia, where they have some of the wildest places on earth (Bangkok, Manila, Jakarta). (Don’t believe that Asian values malarkey)

    I used to play a game, I would give myself 4 hours in the afternoon to randomly meet an Asian girl who would sleep with me before the end of the day. I almost always succeeded. I couldn’t do that in the US, especially super hot college students half my age. For virgins (there are plenty who are just waiting for a white guy), they play coy and state they are virgins on the first date. By the second date, they forget about it.

    The answer is supply side economics. Offer plenty of free easy sex to the white guys, and a preference is established.

  425. Frances
    Posted November 13, 2012 at 9:26 am | Permalink

    My own experience being Eurasian in Australia has been brutal. It seems that Asians are accepted by society and Caucasians are accepted by society, but Eurasians aren’t. It has especially affected my relationship with the opposite sex. Men seem to despise me because I’m neither Asian nor Caucasian. I feel like a failure, since I’m an only child and wasn’t able to give my parents grandchildren. I was wondering if there are any other Eurasians who have had similar experiences of being rejected by both Asians and Caucasians of the opposite sex?

  426. Posted November 15, 2012 at 11:24 am | Permalink

    LOL. Come on, lets’ be real, take a look around you. The vast majority of white guys who are paired up with asian women are FAR FAR from anything “hyper masculine” like that Asian chicky stated. Last time I checked, old, geeky, balding overweight white dudes are not the standard definition of “masculine,” but hey these Asian sell out whorientals must justify with any deranged reasoning their aberrant choices. And we also know that these white guys have to settle for low self esteemed whorientals because all decent white women had SOUNDLY rejected them; but realize that, that same white guy would drop the Asian girl in a heart beat if a cute white girl comes along. Sorry to burst your bubble whoriental, but that’s the truth. So when the brad pitts, the garret hedlunds, the ronaldos of the world start hooking up with asian women, then i’ll start to get concerned. But we dont’ see that happening now, and typical white loser guys like ERIC have to resort to traveling overseas and applying for teaching positions to have any chance of getting play. BEcause even this loser ERIC admitted that he can’t get any play here in America. By the way ERIC, seems like you are into young virgin girls. Another exam of a typical white trash dude who also freely admits to being a pedophile.

    Moreover, check out any Asian american wedding photoblog sites, and you will see elite, beautiful sophisticated women marrying Asian guys. So despite all the negative stereotypes and media racism that Asian guys have to go through, the upper echelon of Asian women are still hooking with Asian guys. This makes sense because women with confidence and intact self esteem would never have to resort to such whoriental type behaviors.

    Finally, don’t let these comments by these so called Asian “women” here fool you. The vast majority of times it’s a just a white loser posting as an Asian female to perpetuate the myth that all Asian females
    are into white guys. Because we know how asiaphiles love to search for Asian girls on the web. :)

  427. Posted November 15, 2012 at 11:26 am | Permalink

    LOL. Come on, lets’ be real, take a look around you. The vast majority of white guys who are paired up with asian women are FAR FAR from anything “hyper masculine” like that Asian chicky stated. Last time I checked, old, geeky, balding overweight white dudes are not the standard definition of “masculine,” but hey these Asian sell out whorientals must justify with any deranged reasoning their aberrant choices. And we also know that these white guys have to settle for low self esteemed whorientals because all decent white women had SOUNDLY rejected them; but realize that, that same white guy would drop the Asian girl in a heart beat if a cute white girl comes along. Sorry to burst your bubble whoriental, but that’s the truth. So when the brad pitts, the garret hedlunds, the ronaldos of the world start hooking up with asian women, then i’ll start to get concerned. But we dont’ see that happening now, and typical white loser guys like ERIC have to resort to traveling overseas and applying for teaching positions to have any chance of getting play. BEcause even this loser ERIC admitted that he can’t get any play here in America. By the way ERIC, seems like you are into young virgin girls. Another exam of a typical white trash dude who also freely admits to being a pedophile.

    Moreover, check out any Asian american wedding photoblog sites, and you will see elite, beautiful sophisticated women marrying Asian guys. So despite all the negative stereotypes and media racism that Asian guys have to go through, the upper echelon of Asian women are still hooking with Asian guys. This makes sense because women with confidence and intact self esteem would never have to resort to such whoriental type behaviors.

    Finally, don’t let these comments by these so called Asian “women” here fool you. The vast majority of times it’s a just a white loser posting as an Asian female to perpetuate the myth that all Asian females
    are into white guys. Because we know how asiaphiles love to search for Asian girls on the web. :)

  428. Nguyen
    Posted November 19, 2012 at 8:09 am | Permalink

    I am Vietnamese woman.

    White men come to places like bars and make comments that Asian women are easy to get into bed. Such repetitive statement is intended to devaluate Asian woman and to create a false belief (by repeat, repeat and repeat).

    In my country, most normal women dont go to such places. Such places are supposed to be a place for whores to do their job. I myself have never put a foot into a bar’s door.

    Other mention about city like Bangkok. That is sex industry. Are there are no white women whores? So any places where there are white women whores that city is a wild place and women there are easy to get into bed? and women in that country are easy to get into bed?

    You white man by your comments make the belief that not all white men are valuable.

  429. Posted November 19, 2012 at 8:47 pm | Permalink

    You people are too much. It isn’t all that hard to figure out why Asian women prefer white men or black men even. Just tell it like it is and stop trying to be PC about it. I’m sure many will not agree with what I have to say. As a white man having gone out with my fair share of Asian women, I can say with a degree of accuracy that the reason why Asian women prefer white men is entirely a physical attraction. It boils down to three things. As I said before, there will be those who will disagree and I’m okay with that. These three things are: Number one, just the simple fact that a man is white is a big plus. Asian women here in this country, the beautiful US of A, when given a choice, like to go out with white men more so than any others. And as far as white men needing to be super good looking, that doesn’t seem to be a top thing with Asian women. It helps, but it isn’t an obstacle. An average or even a below average looking white man can be capable of hooking up with an above average looking Asian woman. Number two, white men are generally on the tall side. Asian women, when given a choice, like to go out with men who are taller than they are. Being brawny helps, but for Asian women this, too, isn’t that important. You can be a tall skinny white man and still get a pretty Asian woman. The last one, number three, is the one that gets the most criticism. But before I say it, I want you all to know I got it straight from the source and they weren’t trying to flatter me neither. Number three, so I’ve been told by my Asian girlfriends, both past and present, white men have bigger penises. Longer, fatter, whatever. I know how sensitive this is to some of you men, but this information came from the actual source. I say if you can’t believe them, then who else can you believe. Now before you get bent out of shape, I know there is more to making a successful relationship than these three things. But admit it, this physical attraction component sure is powerful. By the way, Asian women to their credit, aren’t all into white men for their money. I am white and definitely not wealthy.

  430. Posted November 19, 2012 at 8:54 pm | Permalink

    [Comment with correction]
    You people are too much. It isn’t all that hard to figure out why Asian women prefer white men or black men even. Just tell it like it is and stop trying to be PC about it. I’m sure many will not agree with what I have to say. As a white man having gone out with my fair share of Asian women, I can say with a degree of accuracy that the reason why Asian women prefer white men is entirely a physical attraction. It boils down to three things. As I said before, there will be those who will disagree and I’m okay with that. These three things are: Number one, just the simple fact that a man is white is a big plus. Asian women here in this country, the beautiful US of A, when given a choice, like to go out with white men more so than any others. And as far as white men needing to be super good looking, that doesn’t seem to be a top thing with Asian women. It helps, but it isn’t an obstacle. An average or even a below average looking white man can be capable of hooking up with an above average looking Asian woman. Number two, white men are generally on the tall side. Asian women, when given a choice, like to go out with men who are taller than they are. Being brawny helps, but for Asian women this, too, isn’t that important. You can be a tall skinny white man and still get a pretty Asian woman. The last one, number three, is the one that gets the most criticism. But before I say it, I want you all to know I got it straight from the source and they weren’t trying to flatter me neither. Number three, so I’ve been told by my Asian girlfriends, both past and present, white men have bigger penises. Longer, fatter, whatever. I know how sensitive this is to some of you men, but this information came from the actual source. I say if you can’t believe them, then who else can you believe. Now before you get bent out of shape, I know there is more to making a successful relationship than these three things. But admit it, this physical attraction component sure is powerful. By the way, Asian women, to their credit, aren’t all into white men for their money. I am white and definitely not wealthy.

  431. Posted November 20, 2012 at 8:14 pm | Permalink

    [comment with correction]
    You people are too much. It isn’t all that hard to figure out why Asian women prefer white men or black men even. Just tell it like it is and stop trying to be PC about it. I’m sure many will not agree with what I have to say. As a white man having gone out with my fair share of Asian women, I can say with a degree of accuracy that the reason why Asian women prefer white men is entirely a physical attraction. It boils down to three things. As I said before, there will be those who will disagree and I’m okay with that. These three things are: Number one, just the simple fact that a man is white is a big plus. Asian women here in this country, the beautiful US of A, when given a choice, like to go out with white men more so than any others. And as far as white men needing to be super good looking, that doesn’t seem to be a top thing with Asian women. It helps, but it isn’t an obstacle. An average or even a below average looking white man can be capable of hooking up with an above average looking Asian woman. Number two, white men are generally on the tall side. Asian women, when given a choice, like to go out with men who are taller than they are. Being brawny helps, but for Asian women this, too, isn’t that important. You can be a tall skinny white man and still get a pretty Asian woman. The last one, number three, is the one that gets the most criticism. But before I say it, I want you all to know I got it straight from the source and they weren’t trying to flatter me neither. Number three, so I’ve been told by my Asian girlfriends, both past and present, white men have bigger penises. Longer, fatter, whatever. I know how sensitive this is to some of you men, but this information came from the actual source. I say if you can’t believe them, then who else can you believe? Now before you get bent out of shape, I know there is more to making a successful relationship than these three things. But admit it, this physical attraction component sure is powerful. By the way, Asian women, to their credit, aren’t all into white men for their money. I am white and definitely not wealthy. For those of you who still don’t believe me, just ask your Asian girlfriend. And one more thing, most white men with their Asian girlfriends are close to the same age and they are neither pudgy nor bald.

  432. Brad Pit
    Posted November 26, 2012 at 5:26 am | Permalink

    you are all dumps, fools and idiots. stupid comment I ever read. chinese woman just love chinese man. chinese man just love chinese woman. only idiots who thinks chinese woman love white more than chinese man. even with other asian etnics.

  433. Mikey
    Posted November 28, 2012 at 5:19 am | Permalink

    Seriously? There area a LOT of unattractive Asian women. The same goes for white and black women. I personally think Asian women have a blonde, blue eyed fetish. I am 6′, 180, blonde, blue eyed and have had some bizarrely aggressive Asian women pursue me. I get my fair share of attention from women of all races but the Asian women can be aggressive! Whats the BS about Asian women being passive? Who wrote that one up? I particularly have had MARRIED Asian women pursue me for some reason. They make me feel like a damn piece of meat sometimes.

  434. whiteb trash
    Posted December 3, 2012 at 3:47 pm | Permalink

    asian women are SLUTS!!!!

    LOW SELF ESTEEM!!!

    I can prove it, they keep changing their eyes ROUND.

    People with the most STD are asian women.

    The WHORE of Babylon: asian females!

  435. Pierre
    Posted December 6, 2012 at 12:43 am | Permalink

    Very funny! You must be from china I suppose. Here in France I would like to say Japanese girls are great chinese girls are not so attractive.

  436. Posted December 23, 2012 at 7:30 pm | Permalink

    How can you not ?? I try to be with white girls but is not working . I will admit Im not hadsome but at least Im tall and drive a new Acura. Nut still thats not good enogh for white girls . She was not butifull too so…white trash , her perents are alkoholics . Just toxic stuff . I got my self a Korean girl .She is smart , good with monye , no tatooes ,no bulshit . I love it !!

  437. Posted December 23, 2012 at 7:34 pm | Permalink

    Whats not to like about a white guy ? What ? Sexy long legs . Nice white skin . Butifful aeys. I don’t give sh.t waht kind a car he is driving .OK. I just want a white baby and white husband . It is a satuse in Asia . Big time !! Im not going to lie .
    Lai, Taiwan

  438. Posted December 25, 2012 at 3:00 pm | Permalink

    @whiteb trash, you might want to recheck your remark that “people with the most STD are asian women.” I do hope this is not true. Although, I have to say that I find little comfort upon hearing from two highly trained professionals of midwifery on two separate occassions tell me and other women during community health workshops that, for both men and women, having sex without protection is like having sex with not only that particular person, but also whomever else that particular person already had sex with. So I guess an overly active lover can spread more than quite a bit of reproductive tract microorganisms. Add to the possibility of him and/or her having multiple partners and you get this scary picture of STDs spreading like shooting pocket billiards; that is as each ball on the table touches another ball, this just spreads the various infections to another person. If you still don’t understand, go to the the local pool hall with your boyfriend like I did. Bottomline: This only highlights the very important fact of using protection (e.g. condom) during recreational sex.

  439. Babz
    Posted December 27, 2012 at 6:27 pm | Permalink

    Asian girls are for the most part dumb. And it doesn’t help that white men are insecure with themselves in the first place.

    During the times when Blacks were still slaves white men did everything in their power to stereotype them to trick white women into thinking that they are lower than dirt.

    White boys did the same thing when Asians came over to build the railroads etc.

    They did the same to every men that wasn’t white.

    They always hate on the men, but try and sway the ethnic women to their side and it worked.

    I am Asian and damn proud. There will be those who keep the culture and tradition within the same people who gave you life and their will be people who will abandon it.

  440. JoJo
    Posted December 29, 2012 at 5:45 am | Permalink

    IMO, Asian women tend to be the best at being the world’s biggest gold diggers and concealing that fact as well by not showing it.
    It’s no secret that marrying white men will give them more power socially and financially.

  441. Posted December 30, 2012 at 7:42 pm | Permalink

    Ofcorse I will marry a asian women . They like us . They cook good and they are good with money and most Important they are not feminatzis like the white women are. They respect men .

  442. Posted December 30, 2012 at 11:12 pm | Permalink

    Lie ,lies ,lies a lot blah ,blah ,blah !!!
    1. Asian women want to have white babys !!
    2. Yes it is statuse in the Asian comunity to have white husband and a white baby !! yes it is . yes it is !! Its all true . I have many asain frinds all kinds . Its true . how many more tomes a have to say it ?
    Asian women want statuse , want big dick ,want hapyness ? Is this a news ?
    Yes if you are white man yo can have any Asain girl ,don’have to try to hard too .
    A lit mu

  443. Nathan
    Posted January 3, 2013 at 11:04 am | Permalink

    I’m northern European ethnicity, and I prefer my own kind, I imagine that Asian guys would prefer Asian girls 9 times out of 10 and the same for Asian girls prefering their own men. I think it is only natural to prefer a partner you have some similar genes to.

  444. observer
    Posted January 9, 2013 at 5:42 pm | Permalink

    Not mentioned much is that since the 1960’s virtually ALL of the Chinese babies adopted in North America (hundreds of thousands) have been female. Assuming the Asians born here are roughly 50/50 sex wise, this would mean hundreds of thousands of Chinese adoptees (female) would have to marry outside their race. It is simple math. NOW, their success in doing so could stem from their more feminine size and (possibly) demeanor, but that is all subjective. Most Asian American girls I have met were just that: American girls. We have a Black president, for Christ sake, let’s move on!

  445. Posted January 14, 2013 at 6:34 pm | Permalink

    White men like me marry Asian chiks becouse they are good ! Asian women don’t call the cops for every little thing .Asian women are not bypolar ,they are never depresed ,they cook and they are good with money !!!!!!
    The truth people ,the truth !!!!

  446. Posted January 22, 2013 at 12:03 pm | Permalink

    Reply to the ‘Proud White Woman’. Actually, dear proud white woman, quite a lot of the offspring of white men / oriental girls are much more attractive than all white or all oriental children and I am sure you know it, hence your obvious resentment.

    The number of good looking mixed race white / oriental girls out there now is a real threat to europen girls. These girls are now starting to get the good looking, rich white men who only attractive white girls used to get.

  447. John Lee
    Posted February 1, 2013 at 12:26 am | Permalink

    There are tradeoffs in any relationship. White men may seem cool and sexy when they’re young, but whites age much faster than Asians. This means that when they reach middle age, they begin to look much older than most Asian women of the same age. That’s why you see these old white men with Asian women who look young enough to be their daughter. They may actually be the same age, but he is no longer young and sexy looking, while she still is. This can lead to some awkward situations for both the man and the woman. Also, statistically Asian men have more education and earn more money than their white counterparts. This might not seem important when you’re young, but once you get married, have kids, and are struggling to make ends meet and figure out how to pay for their kids’ college education, this suddenly becomes very important. And there is the white stereotype of Asian women as exotic and submissive to deal with. This is not to say that Asian women should not pair with white men. There are many happy and successful Asian woman / white man couples, just as there are many happy and successful Asian woman / Asian man couples and white woman / white man couples. The key is to understand the trade offs, and to be clear in your own mind what you want and what you are willing to trade off for.

  448. John Lee
    Posted February 7, 2013 at 8:40 pm | Permalink

    There are tradeoffs in any relationship. White men may seem cool and sexy when they’re young, but whites age much faster than Asians. This means that when they reach middle age, they begin to look much older than most Asian women of the same age. That’s why you see these old white men with Asian women who look young enough to be their daughter. They may actually be the same age, but he is no longer young and sexy looking, while she still is. This can lead to some awkward situations for both the man and the woman. Also, statistically Asian men have more education and earn more money than their white counterparts. This might not seem important when you’re young, but once you get married, have kids, and are struggling to make ends meet and figure out how to pay for your kids’ college education, this suddenly becomes very important. And there is the white stereotype of Asian women as exotic and submissive to deal with. This is not to say that Asian women should not pair with white men. There are many happy and successful Asian woman / white man couples, just as there are many happy and successful Asian woman / Asian man couples and white woman / white man couples. The key is to understand the trade offs, and to be clear in your own mind what you want and what you are willing to trade off for.

  449. Posted February 18, 2013 at 2:37 am | Permalink

    The reason white men date asian women is because they are nice. They are ladies. They are feminine. Nice white women are rare anymore, although California women are typically very nice. Who wants a woman from NJ? Not me. I lived there. Glad to be out. I think once a white man dates an asian women, especially a real asian woman… you know from asia, he may never date another but an asian, although he will likely end up marrying her. And they will stay married happily ever after unlike a white woman who is only happy for a short amount of time and then she treats the man like crapy and they split up. Asian women don’t do that and they don’t have a chip on their shoulders. Black women… maybe .5% are worth marrying. the rest are bossy, uneducated and think only of themselves. An Asian woman treats a man the way he should be treated. American white women are too much in competition in man and so clueless about life.

  450. the truth
    Posted March 28, 2013 at 12:24 am | Permalink

    This is easy. Asian Culture stresses the importance status and wealth. Not to mention racism, they are invested in a racial hiearchy. This ideology in a western world were white men hold power reinforces that. What is manifested is whiteworship, and this by itself gives white males leverage. To be honest in my opinion this pairing is more racially motivated than either party is willing to admit. Lets take an example. Koreatown if you haven’t notice has very little interracial pairings between Asian women and non-white males even though surrounded by latinos and blacks. But notice how many white males you’ll there with Asian woman. Iam just calling it how i see it.

  451. zab
    Posted April 7, 2013 at 10:16 am | Permalink

    Asian men are some of the most sexist people on the planet. Ask any white woman who was married to a Japanelse man and lived in Japan.
    Asian mothers who raise them are for the most part, really fucked up.

    Caucasian mothers in the US don’t want their sons marrying Asian women. Interracial marriages are still taboo in most American families.

    There has been a very big ‘China’ scare taking place even amongst the so called liberals in Berkeley, that have made relations amongst the Jewish and Chinese there very strained.

    But we all know that California is a very racist state, and of course very wishy washy - trying to repeal gay marriage after they passed it already LOL.

    Hollywood is predominatly run by the Jews and so any portrayals of race is influenced by their own internalized racism. They are most responsible for worship of the blue-eyed blonde.

    Let’s be reminded that Asia has been bailing us out of our economic crisis and that we rely on them. Hating the Chinese and Japanese is probably a bad idea.

    As for why we think Asian women prefer white men, one guess is that Caucasian men are nicer than Asian men. Asian men have deeply hypocritical views and have no compunction about giving away their babies to foreign countries - even if they are no longer 3rd world. They have ‘perfectionist’ standards that reveal a level of intolerance and racism only seen in extremist groups and obviously, Hitler. To be fair, I am referring to Asian men, not Asian-American men.

    Asian-American women are not so different from Caucasian women in America. As for Asian women from Asia, who knows why they would prefer white men…my guess is that it is economically motivated since their cultures don’t have white men, and if they make a major move to leave their homelands to live in America, then they would naturally be trying to find an American husband.

    Please excuse the randomness of my thoughts, it’s very late.

  452. Patrick
    Posted April 29, 2013 at 6:06 am | Permalink

    I live in Boston and I have noticed that a lot of mixed kids are having weird illnesses and allergies more than non-mixed kids. This I suspect is due to radical race mixing like pakistani with whites, jews with nigerians, koreans and irish etc. I dont think this is a very good thing. I saw this high rate of illnesses in Europe as well. A lot of these mixed kids are also not attractive, well behaved or intelligent. If they are half white, their ethnic parent raised them to think they are special because theyre half white. Those are the most annoying ones. Do not overlook the underbelly of these cultures.

  453. richardu
    Posted May 5, 2013 at 1:36 am | Permalink

    We white guys love asian women because they are more beautiful, more sexy, and most importantly, more feminine than you white, black, and latina women. I’m sorry, but this is the truth.

  454. AuroraTime
    Posted May 5, 2013 at 6:32 pm | Permalink

    Someone mentioned Asian women being more feminine and black women less feminine. I disagree, plus how would you explain Filipinos, which are black Asians. Personally, I think all Filipinos are, in general, ugly. I’ve been to several countries and have never seen a good looking one. Much better looking are some Indian and that area, including Emirate women.

  455. AForumer
    Posted June 15, 2013 at 10:46 am | Permalink

    In the SE Asian country I come from, there is an increasing no of white man-asian woman pairing.
    I have to say, in many cases it is because the woman(usually of Chinese descent, as young as 18) thinks their off-spring will be ‘good-looking’ due to the ‘caucasian’ genes from the white man.
    In some cases the woman is unattractive(to my eyes) but hey, if the guy likes her..
    You can see many such young ladies at pubs, bars after work, literally throwing themselves at their white male colleagues.
    From my own pov, some white men just accept the bounty that has fallen onto their lap. Then when they see that there Are other ethnicities around, they start to regret…
    Others(the meek, easygoing ones) stand no chance against the aggressive wooing of these women.
    I am talking only about Some of the pairings.

  456. Diego
    Posted July 24, 2013 at 9:18 am | Permalink

    I love asian women, they look younger, slim and pure. guess it’s about your preference.

  457. Posted July 27, 2013 at 5:43 pm | Permalink

    I’m Asian women . I’m Korean . Why ??? Stupid question . Stupid !! Stupid !! For the white skin for the bigger cock !! For the white baby’s . Its statutes symbol to marry a white guy in Asia ,big time ! Its a good deal for hem too ,we cook good and we don’t bitch that much and we take care of them better . Lots here in Vancouver . Lots . White women are feminists . Are you guys all pretending ?

  458. Posted July 27, 2013 at 5:48 pm | Permalink

    What’s not to like about a white guy ? What ? I married a German guy . He loves brown skin Asian women . I know . Sex is very good . He is coming to live with us in Canada . He had a lot of bad experience with ‘white ‘ women . They cheat ,they lie .German women are pigs .

  459. Larissa
    Posted August 28, 2013 at 10:11 pm | Permalink

    I’m well aware that this post is a bit past its time, but the question is still quite relevant. I’ve been told to butt out of this, but I decided not to heed that advice. And that is only because my own relationship has placed me into the realm of Asian culture. I know I’m not alone in noticing this, that is noticing this pattern of sorts and it’s troubling. I won’t mince words on this: But there is an awful lot of you Asian guys who are still single and from what I gathered appear to be having difficulty finding dates and/or marriage partners. Your numbers appear to be growing. If it is because of the ‘outside’ competition (call it Darwinism at work if you like), then it means only one thing — you Asian guys have to open up to other possiblilities. I’m trying to be gentle but blunt at the same time. Be more like your friend (my boyfriend); to put it simply, you guys have to open yourselves up to dating outside of your racial/ethnic group … or else face the possibility of being single all your life. From what I’m hearing so far, most of you guys want to marry and have a family. Okay, the chances of it being with an Asian woman may be less so for some of you, but don’t sell yourself short by not considering other women. I know a lot of you guys personally and you all are decent and would make wonderful husbands. And forget about the bride price/dower and all that banquet stuff; it is too time consuming to save up for them. Besides, many Asian women today don’t really follow all of that (If she does, it is generally symbolic and watered down). Trust me on this, if an Asian woman really loves you, she’ll love you even if you are dirt poor. Don’t forget guys, remember those Asian women that married the ‘other’ men, men whom their parents bemoaned as unfit because the men refused to follow such customs and rituals and, more importantly, remember how eventually every single one of those parents came around and accepted their son-in-laws and their wonderful grandchildren that followed. My message to Asian men: I know many of you have a strong preference for Asian women, but times have changed. For some of you, the chances of finding that Asian woman diminish as you guys get older. More than one Asian woman have already told me that if an Asian guy is five years or older, they will generally cross him off their lists. Is this an unique criterion for Asian guys? I don’t know. Are you Asian guys subjected to a double standard? Again, I don’t know. But what I do know is that some of you Asian men have to get with it and adapt … or end up becoming a member of the ‘lost generation.’ And lest I forget, like what I tell Asian women, to all those Asian men out there, please put on a condom — especially during recreational sex.

  460. Larissa
    Posted August 29, 2013 at 12:40 am | Permalink

    I’m well aware that this post is a bit past its time, but the question is still quite relevant. I’ve been told to butt out of this, but I decided not to heed that advice. And that is only because my own relationship has placed me into the realm of Asian culture. I know I’m not alone in noticing this, that is noticing this pattern of sorts and it’s troubling. I won’t mince words on this: But there is an awful lot of you Asian guys who are still single and from what I gathered appear to be having difficulty finding dates and/or marriage partners. Your numbers appear to be growing. If it is because of the ‘outside’ competition (call it Darwinism at work if you like), then it means only one thing — you Asian guys have to open up to other possiblilities. I’m trying to be gentle but blunt at the same time. Be more like your friend (my boyfriend); to put it simply, you guys have to open yourselves up to dating outside of your racial/ethnic group … or else face the possibility of being single all your life. From what I’m hearing so far, most of you guys want to marry and have a family. Okay, the chances of it being with an Asian woman may be less so for some of you, but don’t sell yourself short by not considering other women. I know a lot of you guys personally and you all are decent and would make wonderful husbands. And forget about the bride price/dower and all that banquet stuff; it is too time consuming to save up for them. Besides, many Asian women today don’t really follow all of that (and if she does, it is generally symbolic and watered down). Trust me on this, if an Asian woman really loves you, she’ll love you even if you are dirt poor. Don’t forget guys, remember those Asian women that married the ‘other’ men, men whom their parents bemoaned as unfit because the men refused to follow such customs and rituals and, more importantly, remember how eventually every single one of those parents came around and accepted their son-in-laws and their wonderful grandchildren that followed. My message to Asian men: I know many of you have a strong preference for Asian women, but times have changed. For some of you, the chances of finding that Asian woman diminish as you guys get older. More than one Asian woman have already told me that if an Asian guy is five years or older than they are, then they will generally cross him off their lists. Is this an unique criterion for Asian guys? I don’t know. Are Asian guys subjected to a double standard? Again, I don’t know. But what I do know is that some of you Asian men have to get with it and adapt … or end up becoming a member of the ‘lost generation.’ And lest I forget, like what I tell Asian women, to all those Asian men out there, please put on a condom — especially during recreational sex.

  461. Larissa
    Posted August 30, 2013 at 1:45 am | Permalink

    I’m well aware that this post is a bit past its time, but the question is still quite relevant. I’ve been told to butt out of this, but I decided not to heed that advice. And that is only because my own relationship has placed me into the realm of Asian culture. I know I’m not alone in noticing this, that is noticing this pattern of sorts and it’s troubling. I won’t mince words on this: But there is an awful lot of you Asian guys who are still single and from what I gathered appear to be having difficulty finding dates and/or marriage partners. Your numbers appear to be growing. If it is because of the ‘outside’ competition (call it Darwinism at work if you like), then it means only one thing — you Asian guys have to open up to other possibilities/opportunities. I’m trying to be gentle but blunt at the same time. Be more like your friend (my boyfriend); to put it simply, you guys have to open yourselves up to dating outside of your racial/ethnic group … or else face the possibility of being single all your life. From what I’m hearing so far, most of you guys want to marry and have a family. Okay, the chances of it being with an Asian woman may be less so for some of you, but don’t sell yourselves short by not considering other women. I know a lot of you guys personally and you all are decent and would make wonderful husbands. And forget about the bride price/dower and all that banquet stuff; it is too time consuming to save up for them. Besides, many Asian women today don’t really follow all of that (and if she does, it is generally symbolic and watered down). Trust me on this, if an Asian woman really loves you, she’ll love you even if you are dirt poor. Don’t forget guys, remember those Asian women that married the ‘other’ men, men whom their parents bemoaned as unfit because the men refused to follow such customs and rituals and, more importantly, remember how eventually every single one of those parents came around and accepted their son-in-laws and their wonderful grandchildren that followed. My message to Asian men: I know many of you have a strong preference for Asian women, but times have changed. For some of you, the chances of finding that Asian woman diminish as you guys get older. More than one Asian woman have already told me that if an Asian guy is five years or older than they are, then they will generally cross him off their lists. Is this an unique criterion for Asian guys? I don’t know. Are Asian guys subjected to a double standard? Again, I don’t know. But what I do know is that some of you Asian men have to get with it and adapt … or end up becoming a member of the ‘lost generation.’ And lest I forget, like what I tell Asian women, to all those Asian men out there, please put on a condom — especially before having recreational sex.

  462. Guy
    Posted January 15, 2014 at 10:19 pm | Permalink

    The stereotype that White men have a preference for Asian women is annoying and offensive. I’ve been generalized as creepy, a pedophile, sexist, etc. because some men have a preference.

    When are people going to ask why it’s socially acceptable to over-analyze this kind of relationship and not others?

    I prefer women with a good personality. There are beautiful women everywhere. The internet isn’t reality. Nobody is the same, everyone is an individual. Don’t get it twisted.

  463. Posted February 8, 2014 at 11:28 am | Permalink

    White man is a better provider (usually make more money) and are less strict of a husband than Asian man. Asian women will spread their legs very wide for a successful white man, so they do not have to work and can go out spending his money.

  464. Hmm
    Posted May 6, 2014 at 3:01 pm | Permalink

    Is anyone still reading this? I noticed that a few people have said that white guys have bigger dicks. I found that fascinating because doctor measured studies show that there’s no correlation between erect penis length and girth according to race. The sources that people reference that say otherwise are polls, which are only good for finding out who the biggest liars are :)

    The entire stereotype I think comes from Japanese porn, which white guys jack off to quite a bit.

    If an Asian women is telling you that white guys have bigger dicks she’s trying to flatter you. Asian women in general have more ‘girl game’ than white women, especially American/UK/Australian white women.

  465. TheHusband
    Posted June 6, 2014 at 11:53 pm | Permalink

    This article fails to explain why the asian women who end up with white men tend to be noticeably less attractive than the ones with asian men; possibly because asian men have higher standards than white men, or because less attractive asian women have lower self-esteem and want mixed race children that don’t look like them.

    either way, it depends on the individual; for example, asian women are naturally wired to find good looking asian men more attractive than men of any other race, since attraction has a lot to do with human nature. this natural instinct overrides any other factor (media, social environment, etc). this may also explain such men always get the most attractive asian women. keep in mind that most asian women are not very attractive themselves, especially when not wearing makeup.

  466. BKK TONY
    Posted June 18, 2014 at 1:33 am | Permalink

    BEEN THERE, DONE THAT.

    Am an African-American Male who has what is known among the whiteboys in Thailand as: THE SICKNESS. In other words: An unquenchable desire for Asian female flesh.

    I have been married twice, first to a Japanese national and second to a Filipina and what I as a black man have found is simply this:

    ALL IF NOT MOST ASIAN WOMEN ARE SUBMISSIVE. They are submissive due to loyalty to their husbands and their need to keep her family together—an uncommon trait among American bitches. Seen them cussed out, kicked, beaten and robbed by their own men and foreign men of all stripes, even Africans. Still they seldom if ever mention the oft-voiced opinion of Western women that all men are dogs.

    The scars seen on one Patpong lass were cigarette burns done by her Thai mother-in-law for this bar girl refusing to adequately support herself and her lazy, corrupt and whore-mongering son.

    Among foreigners, only the Germans burn these women with cigarettes.

    No matter what the Blogs claim to the contrary, Asian, Euro and Aussie women are diesel-driven pursuers of Black American men, even if they are abusive slobs, due to the growing world standard of American sports and Popular Culture, driven for the most part by African-Americans.

    Native-tongue Gangsta Rap is heard in Burma, Laos and in Mongolia of all places.

    Among foreigners, the vast majority of Asian women generally prefer white men—though many—many more than I could handle over the years—also prefer African-American men. Among Asian men the most desirable for Asian women are Japanese, due to the Japanese male’s cleanliness, high intelligence, honesty, quiet graciousness of all people, good looks, sensibility, and unswerving habit of doing what is required of him and not what he wants, as most other men of other races are wont to do.

    The least desirable men among Asian women are 1. Hindu Indians 2. Mainland Chinese men and 3. Russian men. All have ZERO personality traits. Korean men are excoriated by all Asian women for their bad breath. Also they (Koreans), and Taiwanese are disliked by Asian women for mainly two reasons: Gambling and excessive smoking. Filipinos due to their narcissism, selfishness and irresponsibility, Thai men due to their greed, criminality, brutality, corruption and senselessness. The same with Cambodian men.

    THE SICKNESS starts among some Asian and especially non-Asian men, the first time they go to Southeast Asia or the Philippines. It is the LAZINESS of it all. The tropical heat, the happy-go-lucky people, pounding rainstorms while sipping a cold beer over a quiet klong or open Bangkok bar or lazy river, or back street in Manila or Angeles City; cheap living, simple, non-judgmental and friendly Asian people who see Americans as celebrities—and WOMEN. Women of all shapes, sizes, racial mixes and skin tones. Who active search out African-Americans for their ability to dance. “White man no can dance. I like to dance.” Asian women always tell me this and was the reason I met my first wife in Yamato, Japan because Ryoko—her real name—loved to dance…and fuck like a crazed banshee. I was with two white sailors and a Mexican-American at the time and this sexy kamikaze fuck-me-now chose me. We had two beautiful girls together who are now grown women.

    After these trips to Asia I cannot but rue the poor bastard who would pursue American Feminist, money-hungry white and black bitches who will be gone the moment the money dries up. The only reason most African-American men are seldom seen with Asian-American women is simply because the men do not wish to be with them. Those that do will always find one without having to look very far.

    One Brother related to me of his Chinese-American lady who threatened to kill him if he ever even thought about leaving her. A college grad whom he wanted to get rid of…and Fast!

  467. Shaun
    Posted June 22, 2014 at 5:48 pm | Permalink

    AW and WM in these relationships always like to avoid the fact that the discrepancy between AM and AW who out marry is so high. Either that or they give very weak excuses.

    Statistically, it would make sense if the ratio of AFWM relationships who marry out of love and the ratio of AMWF relationships who do likewise is 1:1. This accounts for only 1/3 of AF/WM relationships. As for the other 2/3 of the relationships, many reasons have been given and stereotypes exist for a reason. All stereotypes have a semblance of truth to them.

    By the way, stereotypes are things that are easily observable. It is true that Asian men are generally shorter than White men. But how would White men know about the penis size of Asian men? Do they have some secret obsession with it or are they gay? No, the penis size thing is not a stereotype, but a rumor made up by white men to boost their ego and cover up for their insecurity. Every race of men would have a range of penis size.

    And to the Asian women who exclusively date White men and bash on Asian men based on their stereotype: Please, the genes cut both ways. The hypocrisy is incredible. If you think that Asian men are less masculine than White men based on physical characteristics, that makes you much, much less feminine than White women. You have no tits, no ass, you are much shorter than White women, and you have the body of a prepubescent boy. If you are really shallow and superficial enough to define masculinity based on perceived penis size, then femininity is defined based on breast and ass size. And unlike our attributes which are rumors, yours are easily observable. Why would any White men want Asian women if they can get White women with all these feminine attributes? For the other 2/3 of the relationships, White men settle for Asian women only because they cannot get a women of their own race or they have yellow fever. To Asian guys, next time Asian women insult you based on these perceived stereotypes, remember to insult their physical characteristics too.

    To the 1/3 of relationships who marry out of true love, well good for you. As for the women involved in the other 2/3 of relationships, maybe you should take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror and question whether you are comfortable in your own skin and whether you truly feel as if you are an equal in your relationship. Additionally, these are also the people who are generally unattractive to the Asian race and have a White partner who is much older than them. Love? I think not.

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