Comments on: I’m a 34-year-old single woman. Where do I find a decent guy?

By: Carl Schaefer

Carl Schaefer — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 03:47:35 +0000

How do I contact the 34 year old single woman who wants children/good man. I’m 43 year old, male, divorced, Christian, 5′10″ and 225 lbs. truck driver/owner, two cute sons born 2002 and 2003
good looking, brown salt/pepper short hair.
Caucasian-White- Icelandic/German/American heritage
Wanted- SWF Attractive, Tall, Fit, Caucasian woman, Christian, long hair, prefer 26-36 years old
who wants children. Carl P.O. Box 265, Wilmington, Illinois 60481 Tel.815-790-9637

By: Indianfemale

Indianfemale — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 08:11:06 +0000

@ Freakmagnet; We have a lot in common! I could have written that as well…

By: Indianfemale

Indianfemale — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 08:08:34 +0000

@Katherine;

You live in NY city! So much to do for single people? And being a nurse has nothing to do with low working class. I am a IT consultant surrounded by men every day; but still nothing, like I said, just married guys who think they can have an office fling.

And you want to go to an MBA class. I really admire you, job as a nurse and going back to “school”. Well, you will meet people during a class and that’s a good thing right?

When you get older you just know what you want and what you don’t want; so yes, people think I have high standards and maybe that’s just the case…otherwise we all could have started a relationship, just to have someone.

By: admin

admin — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 05:34:36 +0000

Katharine,

The good news for you is that your profession (nurse) continues to be attractive to men. It may be that men are simply intimidated by you or your vibe.

My recommendation is that you seek out group activities that will bring you into contact with other people. Perhaps if men get to know you in a non-dating setting, they will be more likely to have the courage to ask you out.

Barry,

Sadly, we still live in a society where men need to make the first move. If you never make a move, your fears may come true.

But that doesn’t have to be your fate. This may seem crazy, but have you considered asking out less attractive women?

I think that part of the issue is that you’re simply nervous and out of practice. Anything feels nerve-wracking if you haven’t done it in a while.

Ask out any woman who seems friendly and interested, even if she’s not beautiful. You need to get some “reps” in. After you’ve had more practice asking women out, hopefully with good results, perhaps you won’t feel as nervous.

Or perhaps you’ll find that one of the women you ask out for practice will turn out to be the right one for you after all…

Alternately, perhaps the two of you should get together! You’re roughly the same age….

By: Barry

Barry — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 03:45:48 +0000

I don’t know about some of you, but when I see a really nice looking girl that I like, I just can’t bring myself to say hi, or even look her in the eye. I just think, she’ll never be interested in me, and I move on. Beautiful women are one thing, but beautiful and very attractive to you is something else.

I’m 34, 6′4″, have a good job and love animals, I have a cat! But I don’t remember asking anyone out in the last 10 years. I just stay in all the time and presume I’ll be on my own till the day I die. I blame the media for some of my misgivings.

By: Katherine

Katherine — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 19:49:07 +0000

I am a 29 year-old single female in New York City. I am the last single girl among my friends and coworkers. I haven’t had a date in about 2 years. I know I need to go out more and meet people, but there is no one left to go out with. I know I’m beautiful, I’ve been told so by many men and get noticed all the time…yet no dates. I also have a masters degree and make well over 100K. I’m a nurse, which I think makes it worse, as it is perceived as a low class, working class type of job. I’m very shy when it comes to dating and don’t know what to do.
I’m also considering going back to school for an MBA because I’m tired of my job and want a change. However, I don’t know if this will only prolong my search for a boyfriend/husband.

By: Listen

Listen — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 05:12:09 +0000

Try Asian American men. They are often hidden jewels. The media has portrayed them as unattractive so they may be overlooked. But many have the qualities of an ideal husband: intelligence, talent, quality, integrity, etc. I didn’t think about dating Asian American men until later. My guy is unbelievable and quite sexy when you get to know him.

By: FreakMagnet

FreakMagnet — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 11:12:42 +0000

I’m 33 and Australian - I too have given up hope of meeting an emotionally available, honest, single man who wants a relationship. (Yes men, those are my criteria - I live alone so know I can get by on my own salary, and live a good life, just fine. I have never been interested in good looking men as I have always observed them to be womanisers.) Like Indianfemale I too attract married men at work - it repulses me and saddens me that I’ve had to witness how many men try to cheat. I think it’s because I take care of myself and live alone - they see that as desperate and not having to cough up for a hotel room. But I let them know my disgust immediately. I tried online dating, where I gave men of all income brackets and physicalities a chance, yet met liars (the worst of which used me to make his ex-wife jealous while he was still living with his ex-girlfriend yet his friend pretended to be his flat-mate!) Men look at me in the street, but I haven’t been asked out in five years. I asked a man out last year and he never answered or spoke to me again! There are no dating rules, at least none that everyone agress on, it’s a mess. Positive: dating can’t get any worse for me.

By: Indianfemale

Indianfemale — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 18:50:58 +0000

I am 33 and live in europe, I am not ugly and have a nice career. But still no husband or boyfriend, have not dated in 3 years and somehow attract married guys at the office… I will turn 34 this year and @Carmen…I hope you will not always feel like that and do not give up hope….when you least expect it…love will turn up for sure.

By: Rob

Rob — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 18:27:05 +0000

Im 34, male, single, alone. Im not ugly or a freak, if any not ugly, not freaky, single women read this, write me - winobie@googlemail.com