Comments on: Can a single man and a single woman be friends without sexual tension arising?

By: It'scomplicated

It'scomplicated — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 00:20:13 +0000

OK, I have the perfect example, ME! My best friend happens to be a straight man. When we met, he was not involved and neither was I, but we both liked other people at the time (relationships that didn’t work out) I did develop a crush on him that lasted over 8 months, but has slowly faded. As we have both maintained clear, we are only friends (I lied when he asked before). However, we have hooked up (never gone all the way, 3rd base is the most) twice, and both times he was drunk. We make jokes about it, and he emphasizes our FRIENDship all the time. I guess it’s important for you guys to know I had never being with a guy before, in fact, he gave me my first kiss (which is honestly why I think I developed the crush). We talk about everything, there is no holding back, and that is priceless in a friendship. I have tried to introduce him to girls that I think are a good match for him, but it never works out (he is a bit of a man-whore, and is very emotionally damaged by his first and only relationship when he was in HS), he keeos saying if he knew guys that are good enough for me he would introduce me to them, but that has not happen…ever! And he is very overprotective, which he cover on our “brother-sister” affection.
So, analyze away and please enlighten me a little bit…I would love to listen to your responds. (I know this is an old blog, but hopefully you guys are interested)
Oh and we are 25 years old…I know, shameful!

By: admin

admin — Thu, 07 May 2009 17:42:16 +0000

PR,

I also think that Demi Moore is hot, and I love older women (in a figurative sense). Just making the point that she is definitely older than she once was.

But when you go to college when you’re 15, you’d better like older women, or you end up facing statutory charges pretty darn quick.

By: PR

PR — Wed, 06 May 2009 23:39:02 +0000

What’s with the comment about Demi Moore being ancient? I for one still think she’s hot. Some of us actually do like older ladies who have stayed in shape. And I will point out that older ladies usually know what they’re doing and tend to be generous with favors, unlike so many young hotties.

By: admin

admin — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 22:16:07 +0000

Chris,

There are three reasons a guy wouldn’t make a move on a woman he’s attracted to:

1) He’s already involved with someone else

2) Her dad/brother/ex told him they’d kill him if he made a move on her

3) He doesn’t think she’d reciprocate

Why not make a move on him? If the issue is 1) or 2), he’ll tell you. If the issue is 3), problem solved!

By: chris

chris — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 14:59:18 +0000

great article, but then if you can tell the guy is attracted to you, why won’t he act on it?

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By: admin

admin — Tue, 20 May 2008 21:40:27 +0000

Greg,

By definition, if you find a woman completely unattractive, then there isn’t a problem.

But my guess is that any woman you find unattractive is probably unattractive in an absolute sense.

This situation then falls under my original assertion, “A single man and a single woman can definitely be friends without sexual tension, as long as at least one of them is gay or hideously unattractive.”

By: admin

admin — Tue, 20 May 2008 14:15:38 +0000

Fitarella,

There is no tension between Penelope and I because I’m happily married, which puts me in the “not single” category.

As a married man, I am an honorary eunuch to other women, which makes me safe for platonic friendship (at least with those women who have some sense of morals).

On the other hand, Ben is definitely *not* married, so draw your own conclusions.

“Koo koo cachew, Mrs. Robinson…”

I kid, I kid.

By: Fitarella

Fitarella — Tue, 20 May 2008 12:34:52 +0000

So does that mean there is sexual tension between you & Penelope?

By: Greg

Greg — Tue, 20 May 2008 01:43:02 +0000

I definitely disagree. I am single, not gay and am able to communicate and get along with women that I consider friends with no sexual leanings at all. Yes, if the woman happens to be very attractive to me, then the issue becomes more difficult. However, if there isnt that sexual attraction….I dont find it hard at all!!